Hang in there boyz ... this indeed is a tough time for any mom but it does get better. Can family come or can u go to stay/visit them for a bit ?
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Hang in there boyz ... this indeed is a tough time for any mom but it does get better. Can family come or can u go to stay/visit them for a bit ?
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My little Lia 8 days old
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She certainly is a pretty face to look at, Boyz! I hope that hubby steps up and helps soon. When is he done studying?
I'm about THISCLOSE to freaking out on my own DH. He complains about how different life is and he feels like he just comes home from work and sits around (we're normally both very busy and extrovert people) and I'm like I DO THAT ALL EFFING DAY!!!! Then he makes plans to go workout with some friends, which seems fine because baby is sleeping, but literally 5 minutes later the baby wakes up (after having continually crappy naps all afternoon) and only wants to nurse. On top of that I have a plugged duct on one side and I think thrush on the other. I'm so done breastfeeding and being by myself all day only to be alone during the really crappy early evening hours too.
Sorry for the vent. Rough day here too. :(
Hang in there boyz and taytum. Those first few months are the hardest.
I didn't breastfeed with any of mine so i certainly can't relate with that but as a person who is so on the go i would struggle with the nursing side of things so hats off to you for doing it.
I have been so irritated the last few days im wondering if im prelabouring. Only having braxton hicks on and off and cervix pains which has helped my cervix open and soften but other than that this baby is all too comfortable.
I was meant to be productive over the wkend but didn't achieve everything i set out to do which frustrates me. My arm is still sore from the boostrix injection. Im having an iron infusion later today as Hb dropped to 100 and iron stores still low im praying i feel better and can do backflips on the way out 😂😂
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Taytum i feel like i need to vent Breastfeeding is really very hard. My shoulders r sore already. Blocked ducts hurts a lot. Baby doesnt sleep at night more than 45 mins max. I havent slept in last 9'days. I m so stressed out seriously. I m so used to of running all errands outside that now i feel stuck at home. I hope this phase pass soon. I want to enjoy my Little lady [emoji17]
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Netti i hope things goes smoothly for u hun
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I am so sorry that ur having to go through this taytum and boyz. Men really can be so insensitive !!
Why not try pumping and feeding through bottle. This can give u ladies a little break and even hubby can feed a bottle or 2 so u can nap etc. Thats what i am doing sincevi go back to work in like 2 weeks. Hubby and i tookbour 4 weeks annual time off separately so when i will go to work his 4 weeks off will start
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Thanks bb. I m going to get a pump. Thanks God i m off for another yr otherwise i would hve gone nuts. But i wish i could work n hubby could stay home with lo [emoji12]
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You're so right Boyz, breastfeeding is so hard. Part of me wonders if I'd feel so confined and upset if I wasn't breastfeeding. I didn't want to in the beginning, but the sheer cost of formula has scared me into keeping it up until I go back to work. I only like the bonding with him - I hate everything else about it!!
Sounds like your DH might think that by taking the older boys he's helping you out? My DH doesn't help out at night since there's not much for him to do since I'm breastfeeding. And he wakes up in the morning and takes him so I can eat breakfast. My hardest time is from like 5-8pm. I really need a break then. You need some sleep girl. Even if that means DH gives one bottle at night so you can catch a few consecutive hours of sleep. I hope you get some relief soon.
Hope you feel better soon netti! Is boostrix the tdap injection? My arm was SO SORE for a few days after! Yikes!
Blue: I hate pumping! [emoji37] I have a small stash built up for when DH and I go out, but I try not to pump because I feel like after I nurse him I pump and not a whole lot comes out since he just fed. So then I feel like that was a waste of my time and cleaning pumps and bottles and then I'm worried about oversupplying myself and mastitis or more clogged ducts. I feel like it takes more time after to devote to pumping and I'm already feeling like a slave to my boobies! I love the idea of pumping and DH giving a bottle but the work that goes into it seems so much more daunting than just doing it myself.
Hoping tomorrow is a new day!
Oh taytum same with me. I hate pumping n thts y i didnt get a pump on first place. Too much work for extra bottle. I rather do it myself.
Dh wont give my lo a bottle with me sleeping. He thinks its my job all together. He was much more help with ds2 as i had a section n he knew i cant get up on my own. He ws preparing bottles changing diapers etc. I m really fed up in only 9 days. I only slept for 2 hrs straight in last dats[emoji30]
N all day long she is on my boobies. I dont mind the day but atleast i need 4 hrs sleep
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Yes it is a lot of work to clean pump parts but hey its keeping me sane and i get to enjoy my babies newborn days. I think i find BF more taxing to be honest. Its definately nit for me. I went through the exact same thing as u guys with DD1 so i can relate and applaud u for keeping at it
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Taytum i think it is the same for whooping cough? My arms sore with a constant ache. Doesn't seem as painful now doing things but then i guess im avoiding doing things that aggravate it
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Hey boyz and Taytum! Just wanted to pop on to say you are both doing brilliantly, and to offer some encouragement!!! Sleep deprivation never ever makes you feel good and it is so hard when it feels like we are doing all the work with a newborn as there is only so much DH can do when you are breastfeeding. You are both giving the babies such a good start though, and things WILL settle down and you WILL get more sleep and the feeding WILL ease off! Try to keep talking to your DHs and demand some more help otherwise resentment will start to build up. My DH has thankfully always been good and even wakes up with me for night feeds - both our girls have had reflux so needed really good winding after a feed, so I would breastfeed them and then DH would take over for the winding bit while I went back to sleep! This is a team effort, so remind the DHs of that and ask them to look after the babies for a while (ideally taking them right out the house for a walk or a drive) so you can have a bit of much needed time to yourselves to rest. Hugs to you both.
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Thnks Foxcubblue I appreciate ur encouraging words. I asked so many times for help. He always tell me to sleep when baby sleeps to cope up with my sleep. I gave him lo with bottle last night but he kept me awake with him[emoji30]anyways thanks ladies for ur words n for letting me vent[emoji16]
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You guys aren't kidding, this FTM and new baby stuff is tough some days. Combined with my lack of sleep and his lack of napping in the afternoon makes life really tough. Today is a new day though and on the bright side, so far we've been nursing WITHOUT a nipple shield! Hoping we can keep it going!
I'm so sorry DH is not helping you at all Boyz. I couldn't imagine doing this by myself plus having other kids like you do. My DH is actually really helpful and I know he felt bad for being gone and when he came back he immediately took over and got baby to sleep so I could take care of myself, eat dinner and compose. He really is really helpful, I was just frustrated that it seems like right when he walked out the door C woke up and it was crying city.
I think some of mine is bitterness towards breastfeeding as I feel so controlled and homebound. I made a compromise to only keep at it until work begins again in August, so I'm trying to push through. You're right bluebooties, BF is taxing. I think I just hate pumping just as much if not more so this seems the lesser of the two evils for me. It's hard either way and I applaud you for pumping! I think it's a lot more admirable for women who EP! Wow!
Taytum its just bad timings for us i guess. I have always struggled with post partum blues. With ds2 i even were on medication to control my depression. I dont want to go that route as i m BF. Littleone is very gassy. I m not sure if its the formula or my diet. BF with my ds1 was a breeze. Came so naturally and i did it for a yr before i went back to work. Ds2 i gave up on 2 nd week. He ws wheat allergic so it ws too much for me to exclude wheat from my diet.
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I'm so sorry things have been so tough Taytum and Boyz :( I hope your DHs help you soon!!
We're settling in here at day 5. I actually had a brief meltdown first day home because my FIL made truly horrible comments about us having a girl -- he made several people uncomfortable because his comments were so offensive, but my DH was good about calling him out.
In my sleep deprived state it REALLY hurt, but I was angry over sad or regretful. I'm honestly amazed at how my GD went away -- I can't imagine having any other baby than my little Lily! My DH has already gone, "See we don't need to have a boy!," but I'm not quite at that stage ;)
I just know that you guys were all so right about bonding after birth. I just wish my DH would full on cut his dad out of our lives because he's always been such an asshole :/
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You had her!!!!!!!!!!! congratulations xxQuote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
Hope things are getting better for you Boyz and she's sleeping a little better. We use Enfamil with him when we need to. And I'm just going to stop worrying so much about having any pumped if we need to be away from him. If I do, great, and if not, he has formula. It won't kill him and will give me a break!
So glad you're so happy Throwaway!! I bet little Lily is so precious and it sounds like your DH is smitten too. [emoji175] Sorry about your FIL...I'll never know why people think it's their place to say anything. Like, what does it matter to him - he should just love his granddaughter! Glad your hubby stuck up for you. And those PP hormones are no joke!! I cried a lot the first few days we were home, just because I loved him so much and didn't want him to get bigger or anything bad to happen to him!
Thanks a lot taytum.
Throwaway i m happy u r enjoying ur LO
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How is everyone else doing!? Any new babies?! [emoji7]
Boyz: how's today been? Have you told DH that you really need his help? Do you have family or friends close by too? I've been thinking about you and I hope things are better. ❤️
Sorry logged on with different account. This is Yogi-
Hello girls! Sorry for chiming in so late. I am so sorry Taytum and Boyz 😣 I feel you girls. It seems that us BF mom's are having a tougher time. I'm going on day 8 of breastfeeding and I'm so ready to throw in the towel. I feel partly at fault for giving my baby a breast milk bottle and introducing him to a pacifier. Looks like I have confused him and now I can't get a good latch. My supply is also drastically decreasing even with drinking lots of fluids and eating milkmaid cookies to help increase my supply but so far it's not working and I have a frustrated baby and self. I feel like running out and getting a can of formula so bad. I am going to give it a day or two and if nothing works I am officially bottle formula feeding. I feel like such a failure :( my dh has been helpful but has an event with his car Club so he's left me to fend for my self as well as he's outside fixing his car. I hope our dh's snap back to reality and step in a little more. They do not realize all the work we put in as mothers.
Hang in there Netti and Has2 your almost there! Best wishes and I pray you gals have a healthy delivery 😘
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Appointment yesterday at just gone 36 weeks, blue bump is head down, engaged and 3/5 palpable! They don't check cervix over here until you are in labour no idea if I am starting to dilate. Has anyone used epo to ripen the cervix? And guidance on how much to use etc?
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Thanks a lot taytum and yogi. I m doing ok. I asked my mom to come stay with me as i had a break down on phone and told her i can do it alone any more. So she came with my dad as well. Its too much work for her but she is trying her .But my milk supply is decreasing as my mom gives her formula meanwhile. My breast feels engrossed when i wake up after 5 +hrs. Lets see how many days its going to work otherwise i ll start formula as well. But my baby is gassy. May b i need to change formula. She doesnt burp too. But farts a lot[emoji848]
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Foxclub i used epo two 500 mg vaginally and 1000 mg orally daily starting from 36 weeks. LO ws born in two weeks. My mucus plug came loose after using epo. Best of luck
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Boyz try enfamil gentleease or sensitive for fussy/gassy babies
If still gassy try enfamil prosobee for possible milk based sensitivity related gassiness
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Do u have sams club in canada ? They have a generic version of enfamil and its equally good but cost is way less than thst of enfamil.
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Thanks bb. No we dont have sam in here[emoji53]but i ll try enfamil
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I took 500mg 3x a day orally starting at 37w. Even though my midwife said it wasn't proven to be anymore effective, I also inserted 500mg vaginally starting at 39w and bumped it up too 100mg the two days before I went into labor.Quote:
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Boyz and Taytum you're both doing amazing! I know those days are so hard. I didn't produce any breast milk after pumping every 2 hours, for 4-5 weeks with both my boys so I won't be pumping this time around but I know even though I didn't make milk how hard it is. I felt like I couldn't boons with my babies right away. I hear from a lot of breastfeeding mommies that if you can get to the 2 month mark you've gotten through the hardest part. They always say it's very convenient after that. Thinking of you both and just know you're doing great!! You might find breastfeeding is not for you and that's ok too.Hang in there!
For EPO vaginally do you break it open? I only have 1300mg capsules. Would it be too much to take one orally and one vaginally at that dose? I'm 36 weeks now.
Thnks luvmyfam. I ll try to hang in there as long as i could.
1300 mg is gud. Its not too much.
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It dissolves, so no need to break it open! Not sure about the dosing though -- might want to ask a midwife or nurse? I imagine only one orally and vaginally at that dose a day would be ok (since 1500 mg total a day orally is what my midwife told me, I just had it split into 3x a day with 500mg)Quote:
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Yup 1 vaginally n one orally is good. I dont know if epo was the reason or rrlt that my pushing stage was only 10 mins or less. No stitches
With ds1 i pushed for 2 hrs [emoji16]
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Thanks ladies for all the encouragement. We've had some good BF days and I've finally just said, if I'm not home and he's hungry, he won't die with formula. It's good for me to have the option and tell myself that it's okay to leave the house a bit! So being more open minded has really helped!
We're 7 weeks old tomorrow but NOTHING entertains this kid! Not rocking, swinging or bouncing! Thankfully we bought a carrier and he likes to go for walks, but man! And if we run an errand and he wakes up, all bets off as he'll want out of the car seat and no guarantee he won't cry while I hold him. Yeessh! Trying not to wish the days away but transport me to 12 weeks!!
U remind me of my DD1 she had bad colic and as a FTM it was not what i was expecting motherhood to be but we made it through and with time it got better
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My LO on the other hand is starting to smile at me. I know its early but she really does smile in response to my talking to her. She had a few fussy days and a little lose BM's just recently but otherwise she is doing well
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I'm starting to wonder if it's colic or extreme fussiness. I think C is hyper sensitive to sleep - when he's tired he goes from drowsy to freak out in 5 seconds. And then it's impossible to get him to sleep. Tonight I've been with him since about 6:30 and it's almost 8. I know he's tired he just won't sleep! Unless this is our 3hrs of colic time. He seems to do this with naps too. It's like if he's awake longer than one hour there's no telling how long it will take to get him back to sleep.
I'm starting really question having more than one!
Ahhh taytum i can relate. As my ds1 ws like this. Hang in there he will grow out of this
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Taytum, he may be getting overtired. As a postpartum doula and infant nanny I always found that my super young babies (under 6 months) would get tired after about an hour of being awake. So the schedule was feed and diaper change as soon as they woke up, then play time (tummy time on mat), and as soon as they started fussing it would be around the one hour mark which is when I'd pop them in my sling and walk around the house, then swaddled and put to sleep. You may want to try reading The Natural Baby Sleep Solution which really explains babies' sleep cycles. If he's being kept awake for over 60-90 minutes then he's probably overtired which would make it much more difficult for him to fall asleep.Quote:
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The Natural Baby Sleep Solution: Use Your Child's Internal Sleep Rhythms for Better Nights and Naps
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0761187472..._jJ5zxbYPE05WK
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