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I need a favor from mothers with boys....ladies.. with any of your sons around the 13 week mark do you feel their junk was still easily hidden without the right view? like could legs obstruct it so you couldnt even see the boy parts until you were given a better angle?

I had an emergency ultrasound when i was 13+2 because of some bleeding. Baby measured closer to 13+6 from what the tech told me. You know how they are in those situations though and not only are they not supposed to say the sex but they are supposed to avoid the area at all costs if they can so nobody knows yet basically. I looked and looked and i'll be damned but that tech did not get me any angles where the legs or leg bones were out of the way..i swear i watched that screen like a hawk for girl or boy nub or parts and saw nothing. That would normally make me think girl anyways since i would think if baby measured far enough ahead i would have seen SOMETHING if it was a boy, yeah? Does anyone have any pictures of confirmed boys between 13-14 weeks that are side profiles? i am wanting to see how often those parts can still be hidden or if they would be quite obvious by that point. I have been looking through the confirmed boy galleries but alot of those are potty shots much further along or really good nub shots that clearly show the boy parts and i am looking for boys that would still be able to 'hide' their bits between those weeks specifically not more and not less..

I dont know if i brought this up. The whole situation has been really bothering me though and making my heart skip a beat for obvious reasons. The techs arent supposed to refer to baby as anything other than baby or it..and with 3 other pregnancies i can confirm they absolutely never said anything related to gender until 20 weeks..but this wasnt a 'regular' tech either...and he kept refering to the baby as 'he' 'him' and the doctor that came in to check on me did as well. Which floors me because with my pregnancy records they would see where verifi said girl.

I wish I could help you Burakoam, but with my other 2 boys I didn't get a sono until 20 weeks. So did you not see a potty shot or a nub shot at that U/S? I can tell you that at my NT scan last week there were a couple views where there was nothing between the legs! It just depended on the angle/view. So you never know!! Sometimes I think people also don't think about what they are saying when they say "him" and "her". When I was pregnant with DS2 we didn't find out the gender and one of the nurses referred to him as "she" after she had looked at my chart. It gave me hope that he was a girl...but nope lol!! When will you have your anatomy scan to find out the gender for sure?


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Interesting burakoam, I have none of ds2, we had a scan at 15 weeks and you could clearly see the meat and two veg at that stage. I have a poor quality scan of ds1 at 12 w 4 days I could try and share but it shows nothing that I can see! X

I have my booking scan next Tuesday, am paranoid about having a mmc, I feel pretty rubbish so that is a good sign isn't? Despite an increase in my thyroid medication my tsh has increased to nearly 9 so that is a worry also. I feel like I have been pregnant for an eternity and yet am only 10 weeks. Funny the closer the scan gets, the more I want it to be further away, ignorance is bliss sort of thing.timing will be rubbish as the weekend after the scan we are having a birthday party for my 6 year old, 30 children and parents! Aaagggghhhh x

Purple, that is fantastic news... congratulations!!! We have a midwife here that offers a program and I have been dying to take her course... maybe someday!!!!

Magical, Oh nooooo... that is horrible, I'm sorry you're in so much pain. When I was working for an OB we had a pregnant patient that needed an emergency appendectomy (appendix removal) and she was fine... I can't remember how far along she was though.

Burakoam, Not sure if this is what you're looking for, but I have a video of my ds3 at 13+4 weeks when the tech told me I was having a girl and even pointed out several things to support her theory. One shot in the video is a nub shot and knowing what I know today it was clearly a boy, but the other shot in the video is between the legs and she was very adamant that seeing nothing between the legs at this stage was definitely a girl... and the fact there was a solid white line- again- the line was in the direction that supports boy, but I didn't know any better back then. Then at a 15/16 week ultrasound they confirmed girl again, but at 20 weeks he was clearly all boy.

I have a scan from my DS1. He measured 13w6d at 13w1d. You can't see a damn thing, but he looked like a boy to me! I can't find my other scan pics of him that show his boy parts in all their glory, haha! But my side profile pic didn't show anything.

Now off to find which box it is in to post it for you....



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Girlie, Hugs for you... I have had three mmc's and that is a fear that I carry with me until I reach the 20th week... but even then I don't think that fear ever really goes away. Praying for good news at your scan and that your birthday party for our son is uneventful and fun for all!!

Burakoam, Here is the scan from ds3... you can see how the tech takes the cursor and explains her girl theory to me when in fact she was totally wrong and it was indeed a boy.

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JDD- because it was an emergency scan I got nothing but the briefness I could see and a huge part of me agrees some don't even realize they are doing it and it probably meant nothing... but it's frustrating :(

But my elective scan where I'll get gender is this Saturday.. 5 days..

Girlie- I am so sorry you aren't feeling well but yes that can be a very good sign! Doctors still tend to agree that in moms who get sick that the sicker they are the healthier the pregnancy!

Brandles I really would appreciate if you would share the video with me.. that may even help more since you were right around where I was and the video will show me as the tech moves in and out to point things out to you! Edit: took me forever to write this post so i posted AFTER you posted the video..thank you!!!!!

XX- waiting as patiently as I can! LOL

Out of my 4 (including this one) I had an us with 3 of them before the 20 week mark. Only ds2 was very clearly a boy. Even at 17 wks with this baby he was not clearly a boy (it was on a crappy machine) last week when my midwife did it she said I think it is a boy. Then at the end she said maybe not...could be girl.... it actually just made me upset because I know it is a boy. I wish she would have said nothing at all. We had a very hard time getting in between the legs though. For ds2 my 13 week scan was very very clear. No doubt a boy

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Brandles, did the person who did the 15/16wk scan know much about determining gender? I'm paranoid my 15 wk scan will somehow be wrong even though it was done somewhere they specialize in checking the gender. Just over a week until it gets confirmed!

My 13wk scan with DS1 didn't show anything, not even a nub. But I also wasn't looking.

With DS2 I knew about nub therory and was trying to see it but it wasn't clear. I got a nub shot but it must have been missing part of it as it looked a bit girly or I was just being hopeful!

Yikes Brandles that tech was a moron! That must have been extremely heart breaking to eventually find out she was completely wrong.

Thats crazy brandles! watching that video...i can see why the tech thought it was flat but in my opinion VERY thick for that gestation for a girl nub which is supposed to be close already at that point to being a clitoris...

And it gave me just a sliver of hope because yes obviously around that gestation as parts are finishing forming everything has shrunk to an extent without the right angles you simply will not see a nub and potty shots shouldnt be relied on yet...

For anyone wondering, the reason i still take just a sliver of hope with me atm is come to find out Verifi and other NIPT's had what they call a 'sting operation' done on them..and verifi is one of the clinics that returned Healthy female fetus results for a woman that sent in her blood sample that wasnt even pregnant. Which means with insufficent fetal DNA they just say its a girl. They dont give percentage of fetal DNA found or anything like that with results. Just so happens to also be the one with the most incorrect gender results because of this. Now i know that after 10 weeks its less likely to be inaccurate in general so by all means i wont be shocked stupid if its a girl after all and the test was right...but with my high BMI (30.8 and they recommend anyone with a BMI higher than 30 wait longer than 10 weeks to test) There is the tiniest chance that my sway did in fact work and because of inaccurate testing i simply dont know it yet...They have information about the inaccurate results and the sting operation done at this link..hope its okay to post.

DNA Prenatal Screening Tests: MaterniT21, Verifi, Harmony, and Panorama : Ingender.com

With DS1 he was a surprise didn't know what he was till birth. With DS2 I was told at my 12 week NT scan he was 80% chance of being a boy I had a gender scan with him at 16 weeks and I asked if i could have a look before she said anything. So she held the scan in position for me to see and have a look and I had no idea what I was looking at lol couldn't see a definite boy. But I also didn't know as much back then as I do now. I have excepted this is DS3 I had booked a gender scan for this Bub before my 12 week scan and I had to pay a deposit so I might as well go. Seeing him in a better mind might be a good thing. I'm booked for the 4th November. After my scan since I have the day off I'm going to go shopping for Bub and spend some $$ buying some cute outfits might help.

I'm not in to much pain today with the gallstones it comes and goes more blood tests tomorrow, they are just worried about inflammation and infection.

I also bought some paint the other day to do bubs nursery like this [emoji1370].

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Brandles, did the person who did the 15/16wk scan know much about determining gender? I'm paranoid my 15 wk scan will somehow be wrong even though it was done somewhere they specialize in checking the gender. Just over a week until it gets confirmed!

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Your scan pics look all girl Purple I don't think you have anything to worry about!


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Your scan pics look all girl Purple I don't think you have anything to worry about!


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Thanks.... I probably won't fully believe it until she is in my arms :)

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With DS1 he was a surprise didn't know what he was till birth. With DS2 I was told at my 12 week NT scan he was 80% chance of being a boy I had a gender scan with him at 16 weeks and I asked if i could have a look before she said anything. So she held the scan in position for me to see and have a look and I had no idea what I was looking at lol couldn't see a definite boy. But I also didn't know as much back then as I do now. I have excepted this is DS3 I had booked a gender scan for this Bub before my 12 week scan and I had to pay a deposit so I might as well go. Seeing him in a better mind might be a good thing. I'm booked for the 4th November. After my scan since I have the day off I'm going to go shopping for Bub and spend some $$ buying some cute outfits might help.

I'm not in to much pain today with the gallstones it comes and goes more blood tests tomorrow, they are just worried about inflammation and infection.

I also bought some paint the other day to do bubs nursery like this [emoji1370].

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Looks nice Magical :) Do you have white nursery furniture already?

I have looked at so many nice nurseries with white furniture but ours is dark wood and I'm not buying new stuff as ours is still good.

The room we are going to use is the smallest bedroom as the boys share the slightly bigger one. It is currently blue but needed repainting anyway to fix up the walls. I will probably still ho for something neutral and decorate with colour.

With my first son, I didn't get a profile shot. With this one, I didn't find out sex at the 19 week ultrasound(she put it in an envelope). I was definitely looking for a penis the whole time hoping that it wouldn't be there. The potty shot obviously showed a penis when I opened the envelope, but during the scan there was no penis in the profile shot. Both my husband and I left the ultrasound thinking we'd were having a girl. She even zoomed in to point out the thigh bones and we didn't see a penis


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Looks nice Magical :) Do you have white nursery furniture already?

I have looked at so many nice nurseries with white furniture but ours is dark wood and I'm not buying new stuff as ours is still good.

The room we are going to use is the smallest bedroom as the boys share the slightly bigger one. It is currently blue but needed repainting anyway to fix up the walls. I will probably still ho for something neutral and decorate with colour.

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Hi everyone, I am new to this site. I am due with my third baby boy on April 2 (I will have a third c-section so it will be sometime during week 39). I have been feeling so heartbroken and angry since finding out I am having another boy. I know that my husband does not want anymore children but honestly one of the only things getting me through right now is thinking about doing IVF with PGD for a daughter in a couple of years- even though I know it is too expensive for us and my husband will refuse. I also don't know much about it as I just learned about it this weekend through research online. I just feel like I need something to give me hope. Just goes to show how futile and relentless hope can be. I don't know why I can't just be happy and accept that I will have three boys. I truly feel like I have lost my daughter, even though she was never real. I can't let her go and it's tearing me apart. Thank you listening and I pray we can all find some peace that are struggling with GD.


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Welcome Dreams4violet 🌻 I'm sorry you are feeling heart broken right now. There is great info on this forum about ivf with pgd and lots of members who have done it and can share experiences. Did you sway for any of your pregnancies?

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Hi everyone, I am new to this site. I am due with my third baby boy on April 2 (I will have a third c-section so it will be sometime during week 39). I have been feeling so heartbroken and angry since finding out I am having another boy. I know that my husband does not want anymore children but honestly one of the only things getting me through right now is thinking about doing IVF with PGD for a daughter in a couple of years- even though I know it is too expensive for us and my husband will refuse. I also don't know much about it as I just learned about it this weekend through research online. I just feel like I need something to give me hope. Just goes to show how futile and relentless hope can be. I don't know why I can't just be happy and accept that I will have three boys. I truly feel like I have lost my daughter, even though she was never real. I can't let her go and it's tearing me apart. Thank you listening and I pray we can all find some peace that are struggling with GD.


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Welcome Violet I'm so sorry, I'm going through the exact same thing and it is hard. I did HT this year but it didn't work for us, have fallen pregnant naturally with DS3, found out last week, I'm currently 13 weeks. My DH won't have anymore either I pushed for Bub 3 to try for a girl I can't push anymore. So I will never have a daughter.

At the moment I'm focusing on bubs name, decorating his nursery and clothes shopping that's getting me through the days. Hugs


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Welcome Dreams4violet :) Sorry you didn't get your desired gender :( This is the right place to get lots of support and also info about PGD if it becomes and option down the track.

This is DS2's nursery and the furniture I have to work with. The boys are now both in this room as it is bigger, otherwise I would have used it again as a nursery as I still love the monkey theme :)

I think I just about had the whole theme planned this time into my pregnancy with him but I'm not so sure what I will do this time.

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I love that Purple, my poor son never really got a nursery, he was in my room Co sleeping for the first year but really the first 3 years haha, and now he just bunks in with his sister in her room, its very girly and the other bedroom that the 2 older girls have is girly too. We really need an extra room now more than ever so he can finally have his own space.

Hello every one. Hope your well. Alot seems to have happened since I was here last!!! Might take a while to catch up. Welcome to the new members. I'm so sorry you are both joining the "sway opposite club" which to be honest nobody wants to join!!! I've got no internet at all so I'm getting online rarely. Hope everyone else is well.

I do hope you hear boy burk but at the same time, it would be great, but I don't want you crushed again. I'm the same as you and clinging into to a tiny hope. But if I let myself beleive for a moment I will fall so much harder.

It's so hard when it's all you want is this one thing, which is so achivable to most. Yet you feel its out of reach for you.

My sister inadvertently found out yesterday. I had an midwife check booked after a fall last week and my sister turned up out of the blue, unexpected. If course she pulled up and 5 mins later the midwife came. I had to tell her. She was less than impressed. Then when the midwife was asking about my scans etc and harmony. So my sister also heard the gender. That was it. The mood turned sour. With comments of "all this for nothing" " I can't beleive your going to have a 4th baby in your situation, and it's a girl" " are you stupid, did you really think you would have a boy" you get my drift. Very strained. She promised not to tell anyone but I don't trust her our relationship is poor and more duty, I am close to my brother although he lives away. So I had just started picking up and I'm knocked back down again. I've come to realise nobody will be remotely happy for us. It's partly our ages, the fact we have 3 kids, we're not struggling but we're not rich, I'm not working etc. And it being a girl. I know my sisters reaction would have been somewhat better had this been a boy.

Had anyone else faced less than happy relatives etc? Part of me thinks stuff them if they can't be happy etc but at same time it's hard when your down and agree with them xxx

I cried at my checkup yesterday. The midwife asked what I was having since it wasn't written down so I had to tell her boy and just started crying. For some reason saying it out loud is so hard, it's final and definite, no hope left that someone screwed up and it's a girl. Hadn't met her before so great first impression. By some miracle she has two boys and is done having kids so she could at least relate. It was still probably pretty shocking to her considering here she was telling me everything looked great at the anatomy scan and I have a healthy little baby, and there I was completely indifferent. She wants me to try therapy so I can start enjoying this pregnancy. I guess I could try a couple sessions, but I feel like it will be a waste of time and money


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Thank you to Cinss, Magical and Purple and any others I missed for the kind words and warm welcome! I think that is a good idea to focus on baby names and clothes. I keep trying to focus on what I do have (two healthy children and one on the way) and not what I don't (a baby girl). Sometimes that thinking helps and sometimes not. I actually did not sway at all with this pregnancy as it was not planned. Thank you all again, I'm glad that I found this group!


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Hello every one. Hope your well. Alot seems to have happened since I was here last!!! Might take a while to catch up. Welcome to the new members. I'm so sorry you are both joining the "sway opposite club" which to be honest nobody wants to join!!! I've got no internet at all so I'm getting online rarely. Hope everyone else is well.

I do hope you hear boy burk but at the same time, it would be great, but I don't want you crushed again. I'm the same as you and clinging into to a tiny hope. But if I let myself beleive for a moment I will fall so much harder.

It's so hard when it's all you want is this one thing, which is so achivable to most. Yet you feel its out of reach for you.

My sister inadvertently found out yesterday. I had an midwife check booked after a fall last week and my sister turned up out of the blue, unexpected. If course she pulled up and 5 mins later the midwife came. I had to tell her. She was less than impressed. Then when the midwife was asking about my scans etc and harmony. So my sister also heard the gender. That was it. The mood turned sour. With comments of "all this for nothing" " I can't beleive your going to have a 4th baby in your situation, and it's a girl" " are you stupid, did you really think you would have a boy" you get my drift. Very strained. She promised not to tell anyone but I don't trust her our relationship is poor and more duty, I am close to my brother although he lives away. So I had just started picking up and I'm knocked back down again. I've come to realise nobody will be remotely happy for us. It's partly our ages, the fact we have 3 kids, we're not struggling but we're not rich, I'm not working etc. And it being a girl. I know my sisters reaction would have been somewhat better had this been a boy.

Had anyone else faced less than happy relatives etc? Part of me thinks stuff them if they can't be happy etc but at same time it's hard when your down and agree with them xxx

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Baby good to hear from you, we have only told my mum about the pregnancy so far and she has not responded well. She just keeps going on about all the negatives and how am I going to cope. She also keeping going on about how my other children will suffer. It is really annoying, especially since my brother and his wife are having their first baby in Feb and my mum is so excited! To add to the annoyance she does not even help us with child care so it is not like it is more of a burden to her. We have not told me in law's, largely because in general they are critical and anxious people, not a good combination. I just am not feeling up to dealing with their negative, anxious comments at the minute.

So sorry your sister reacted like that, sending hugs, hope your ok x o

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This is DS2's nursery and the furniture I have to work with. The boys are now both in this room as it is bigger, otherwise I would have used it again as a nursery as I still love the monkey theme :)

I think I just about had the whole theme planned this time into my pregnancy with him but I'm not so sure what I will do this time.

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What a lovely room but are you going to go pink pink pink for your girl or an alternative colour? X

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Hi everyone, I am new to this site. I am due with my third baby boy on April 2 (I will have a third c-section so it will be sometime during week 39). I have been feeling so heartbroken and angry since finding out I am having another boy. I know that my husband does not want anymore children but honestly one of the only things getting me through right now is thinking about doing IVF with PGD for a daughter in a couple of years- even though I know it is too expensive for us and my husband will refuse. I also don't know much about it as I just learned about it this weekend through research online. I just feel like I need something to give me hope. Just goes to show how futile and relentless hope can be. I don't know why I can't just be happy and accept that I will have three boys. I truly feel like I have lost my daughter, even though she was never real. I can't let her go and it's tearing me apart. Thank you listening and I pray we can all find some peace that are struggling with GD.


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Welcome Violet, sorry you did not hear pink. There are lots in this group who are in the same boat. I am only 10 weeks so am yet to find out if my sway has worked, you will find good support on this group x

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I cried at my checkup yesterday. The midwife asked what I was having since it wasn't written down so I had to tell her boy and just started crying. For some reason saying it out loud is so hard, it's final and definite, no hope left that someone screwed up and it's a girl. Hadn't met her before so great first impression. By some miracle she has two boys and is done having kids so she could at least relate. It was still probably pretty shocking to her considering here she was telling me everything looked great at the anatomy scan and I have a healthy little baby, and there I was completely indifferent. She wants me to try therapy so I can start enjoying this pregnancy. I guess I could try a couple sessions, but I feel like it will be a waste of time and money


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Hugs, gd sucks! X

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Girlie, Hugs for you... I have had three mmc's and that is a fear that I carry with me until I reach the 20th week... but even then I don't think that fear ever really goes away. Praying for good news at your scan and that your birthday party for our son is uneventful and fun for all!!

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Baby good to hear from you, we have only told my mum about the pregnancy so far and she has not responded well. She just keeps going on about all the negatives and how am I going to cope. She also keeping going on about how my other children will suffer. It is really annoying, especially since my brother and his wife are having their first baby in Feb and my mum is so excited! To add to the annoyance she does not even help us with child care so it is not like it is more of a burden to her. We have not told me in law's, largely because in general they are critical and anxious people, not a good combination. I just am not feeling up to dealing with their negative, anxious comments at the minute.

So sorry your sister reacted like that, sending hugs, hope your ok x o

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thanks we are the same, nobody has our kids for us and we don't take anything from anyone but you can bet they will all have their opinions. I'm largely where I think "how will it actually affect anyone" but us but then people always like to stick their oar in....we have yet to tell our other children and any mothers, mine lives in another country!! x

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What a lovely room but are you going to go pink pink pink for your girl or an alternative colour? X

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Well I'm not really into pink that much. I was looking at some purple and mint decor on pinterest. I already have some purple curtains we can use that were left from the previous owners who had a girl and boy.

Baby2016, sorry your sister was so rude. Does she have kids?

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Brandles, did the person who did the 15/16wk scan know much about determining gender? I'm paranoid my 15 wk scan will somehow be wrong even though it was done somewhere they specialize in checking the gender. Just over a week until it gets confirmed!

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Ugh, yes... that's what made it so hard. It was a place that specializes in gender after 13 weeks. :(

Thank you for sharing brandles. i am sure its hard to relive that. It does give me hope though. I am used to seeing my girl nubs...really easily actually which is funny since they all ended up girls...they would at certain angles be really long and flat..this one i am wondering HARD if i had a stacked nub behind legs because i couldnt see ANYTHING

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Well I'm not really into pink that much. I was looking at some purple and mint decor on pinterest. I already have some purple curtains we can use that were left from the previous owners who had a girl and boy.

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Mint and purple would be so cute!


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