Its Tues here already lol I get so confused, so I have to wait til Thursday for your update, was getting ahead of myself lol
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Its Tues here already lol I get so confused, so I have to wait til Thursday for your update, was getting ahead of myself lol
Rosie- I think part of my hesitation is that I had quite a few with ds1 bc they were monitoring my fluid and only one with ds2. Ds1 had a speech delay and some sensory issues when he was younger. He's caught up now thanks to my friend who was an ot and literally got him in at 3 weeks old. But I do wonder
I had a heap of U/S with DS1 - He was IVF and i was sure I was going to lose him (had suffered a m/c prior to him was a bit scared) I had about 5 in the first 12 weeks - then I had a bleeding scare at 17 weeks - was sure I had an incompetent cervix so had scans to measure that, then I found a heart issue on my doppler after the anatomy scan so had a few after that too lol (neurotic..... just slightly lol) Oh and he had enlarged kidneys so had that monitored. He is completely fine, never had a problem with anything but I did worry about too many scans. DS2 I had a few scans too as I had a fibroid that they had to monitor but it was no where near the same as DS1 - both came out ok so far, so hoping there are no adverse affects to having too many scans. My Ob has a 3D scanner at her office and she uses it at every visit to check heartbeat. Its never for very long and she really uses 2D mainly, only 3D for a minute. Here's hoping all our babies are born healthy and safe xx
Thanks bimby that makes me feel better!
What was the heart issue with the Doppler?
As far as your ob checking Hb every time, some studies ive read have actually shown that Doppler is worse than u/s and most use dopplers every time, so I think that's a plus for yours!
Thanks spinning - I noticed DS1's heart went fast for a while every now and then, it was very noticable to me. Apparently it was his heart working out it's rythym and it is quite common but they checked him every 4-6 weeks. I worried as DH has a problem with his heart where it beats abnormally fast occassionally so I thought perhaps it was that. It was fine once he was born, but scary for me at the time.
That's one of the sweetest things I have read xoQuote:
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Good luck! Not long to go now......Quote:
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I know exactly how you feel, I was exactly the same.
Trust me it will be such a relief on Wednesday that the guessing is over, I think relief was one of the biggest things I felt after my, a small amount of sadness and deflation, but overwhelming love and relief, and such comfort and peace in being able to stop the wondering and just enjoy the pregnancy.
As for DH, don't let it get you down. My DH was hellbent against a 3rd, to the point where he was talking about a vasectomy, and only stopped when I burst into to tears begging him to stop talking about it because a third is something I definitely want to consider (this was before we found out gender, my number was always 3 or 4)
Anyways, after the scan he has mentioned that he is open to a third, which is his gd coming out.. Point is, as adamant as a man can be (and believe me my husband can be one stubborn pommy!) they change their minds just as much as us women do :)
So my babies heart rate used to be super fast, 160s then 150-160s . At my last scan and since then when I've been using the doppler it's only 140. It's normal it would slow down that much right??
Yep that's normal Spinning don't worry. It can also depend on whether they are sleeping or moving around, sometimes I get mine and it is in the 140s and other times it is up in the 150s. xxx
Totally normal hun x
Spinning, from what I've been told, the bigger the baby gets, the slower the heart beats. This baby was in the 160's and is now in the 140's. Your little GIRL is doing great in there.
That gives me some hope, Lassie! However, I had to spend a great deal of time talking DH into having a second, so I think a third would be 99% impossible. He has moments of dread now imagining life with two kidlets...he's an only child, so the thought is scary and foreign to him. I'm a little nervous as well; having one is pretty tough as it is! We both work full-time, and have no family nearby, so it's a daily circus getting everyone dressed, fed, and out the door by 7:15 every morning. I get home by 5:30, so it's circus #2 in the evenings getting home, fixing dinner, cleaning, laundry, packing food for the next day, and getting DS in bed by 7:30-8:00. Sorry for the whine, but I'm really feeling it today. Hoping we can afford for me to go part-time when #2 arrives. I'm the primary revenue-earner, so we have been talking about selling our home and downsizing to stay within our budget. Not the direction we wanted to go in our mid-30's, but oh well. Sorry again for the vent, ladies. Can't wait for your scan tomorrow, suregena! :)
And spinning, it's totally normal for the Hr to drop in the second trimester and beyond. I understand your nervousness though!
thanks everyone!
i thought it was normal but weird because it didn't happen last time so I always wonder if this or that was part of the issue last time , since we never got a clear answer
Spinning, I agree with the others. It's totally normal for the hr to drop. Mine was in the high 160's and its now in the 130-150 range, but usually settles in the low 140's.
Speaking of the baby's hr, I was freaked out yesterday. Baby must have been doing flips inside or something because it took me a while to find her hr. I can usually find it right away. The 2nd thing that worried me is the hr dropped from the 140's to 114 for a while and I think that is way too low. It went back up, but I kept checking it all day to make sure I still got a hb. I love being pregnant, but the worrying never stops.
Are you getting the 114 from
The Doppler or couting?
It's from the Doppler. I was thinking it was probably because she was moving around so much, although I wasn't really feeling any movements, I could just hear swishes and thumps and every once in a while I can feel the movements. Idk? Enough to make me worry though.Quote:
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Brandles I wonder if she was near something where the doppler was picking up your heartbeat too and taking an average of the two? x
I think sometimes if its faint too because she was moving it didn't pick up every beat and count it.
I noticed one of my dopplers would do that.
I only pay attention to the # it says if I can clearly hear it. Mine has a little icon that flashes when it gets the beat so I know its counting it and not missing it
I completely understand and sympathise, for most of ds's life I have also worked full time, and yes it's a circus, life just seems like a total rushed blur sometimes.Quote:
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I think the reason DH has started thinking about a third is because we agreed that I wouldn't be going back to full time work till all the kids are in school, luckily I have the sort of job (analytics) that I could, if need be, do from home, so if $$ must I can try and look at doing some part time work .
I've known couples that have downsized and they have never looked back! Happiness comes from the heart, not the size of the home, so if its going to ease the financials strains and give you the opportunity to have more family time the you should look at it :)
Possibly, never thought of it averaging the two. I've also had readings as high as in the 190's, but again thought maybe I moved the Doppler too fast or she moved and it made it go haywire. Wasn't too worried about the high reading tho. I used to be an ob/gyn nurse and I never really dealt with the Doppler and hb's, but when I ran the patients nst's all this reminds me is decells in the hr and that's what worried me.Quote:
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Just curious as to what kind of Doppler you have? I have one from baby beat, just because it was the same one my Dr uses. I'm only renting it and thinking about actually buying one so I could check in her more frequently. The rent is $49/mo... A little pricey to keep all 9 months... I usually mail it back when I start feeling the baby full force, I think I want it longer. :wink:Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
My Doppler picks up all kinds of crazy beat counts. But I know it's pretty accurate when I can count the beat right along with it. Sometimes its 220 something (baby behind the placenta) and sometimes it 60 something (just blood flow or my heartbeat). I try not to worry too much until I know I have found the baby and am getting a steady beat (which is hard, mine likes to run from me). But its hard. I am a ball of worry at this stage and always have been. I just need to get beyond the anatomy scan and then I might be okay. For a first milestone at least.
I do try to limit Doppler and sonograms for paranoid reasons. With DS 1 I had five sonograms. With DS 2 I had double that (10). This time I have had five so far and expecting at least 2-3 more. But I try to only use the Doppler once a week and that makes me a little less paranoid. I do feel baby pretty regularly lately. Although I did listen last night, just to check. Baby seems to be sticking to 160, but she jumps around ALOT for my liking. I have gotten readings from 140-170, both at the doc and at home.
I do agree that waiting is the worst part of the sonogram thing. It nearly killed me those last couple days. And I am already doing it for my anatomy scan, wanting to know all is okay and healthy. But I generally am a nervous person, so I imagine that plays into things a bit. I obsess about things, so it makes sense that if I have something to be concerned about...I'll be obsessed. Sigh. I will be going back on my meds at 20 weeks. I hate to use them in the beginning when all is developing though, just in case.
I started sorting out baby clothes today, I've put loads of stuff in bags and taken it to the charity shop. Things that I had been given but my first two hardly used, and also most of the girls stuff I had been given. I've kept a few girls things, about half a carrier bag full of my favourite things just in case I'm lucky enough to get a daughter one day. My dh told me I was crazy and I should just charity shop it all as if we do have a daughter one day we can always get stuff then but I just had to hold on to a few bits. At least until I know for definite whether we're going to have a 4th and I won't know that until this one has arrived.
I suppose I am also still clinging onto that tiny miracle that this one turns out to be a girl, and that it was a misplaced foot or something that just happened to clearly look like boys bits!
I read on a different forum about a baby girl that is only about a week old and was born with a heart problem that they can't do anything about despite their best efforts. Her parents have been allowed to take her home to spend her last few days with them. So desperately sad and it was yet another wake up call that a healthy baby is most definitely my biggest wish.
Good luck for tomorrow Suregena, I'll be thinking of you and keeping my fingers crossed you hear girl. xx
I need your opinion ladies. We go to a friends Christmas party every year, and I just found out that the stomach bug has gone through their house. My friend is still out sick with the bug today. We take the kids with us, and I'm a germ freak. The party is this Saturday. I'm thinking about cancelling. If we get a virus in our house it lasts for a long time. Would you ladies go, or would you pass?
I think I would pass, I seriously wouldn't want to risk getting the bug while pregnant and even if I wasn't pregnant I wouldn't fancy the kids getting poorly so close to Christmas. I'm sure your friends will understand? xx
Thanks mummypink. I agree!!! My dh still wants to go, but in the end I'll win that discussion...lol.
gah I would pass
my nephew had a stomach bug last xmas they gave us went through my whole house for xmas was awful.
anyway especially if i was pregnant, that would suck
bimby i have a sonotrax. its actually really good and seems accurate. but i got it from tinyheartbeats.org , its a non profit for people that have had prior losses they give you a doppler from 12 weeks on to hear your baby.
before the 12 weeks i was super paranoid too and i had a hi bebe one from a friend, worked fine actually but the hb count on it sucked. and i had rented one from belly beats. which was a good one but i didnt pay the extra for one with the count, I just counted myself lol.
I would pass, we had a sick bug the other week. Needless to say like dominos we all got it, lasted over 2 weeks from first one to last one being ill and i was the roughest of all (think its cause of pregnancy) struggled to even stand up (had temps and stomach cramps etc to) and found it really really hard to look after kids, not to mention sleepless nights of cleaning up sick. Not pleasant and we have only just recovered, those things pass so easily, especially if you are in their house bugs can survive for days after last person is better and no longer catching - avoid like the plague, trust me!!!!Quote:
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I would totally pass. I'm a germ freak and basically bleach my entire house when someone's sick -- but I know that most people don't do that, so I tend to be cautious when I hear "we had the most AWFUL stomach bug, but I think it's over now, so why don't you come by?"
OMG i thought i was the only one, i bleach until my hands are sore. I don't think you have a choice though when you have a few kids otherwise everything just spreads. Probably TMI but i remember when we had the norovirus really bad when ds2 was only a month old and i was so worried he'd catch it i even anti-bac'd my boobs before i fed him - worked though he was the only one that didn't catch itQuote:
Originally Posted by Shellbelle
Quote of the day from my 2-year old: "Mommy, you toot lots and lots."
Too funny not to share. Sorry.
Shell, can you tell me what you know about cloth diapers? I know they're better for the environment, but are they cheaper than disposables? And is it more work?
Your initial investment can be a few hundred $$, depending on what kind you buy. And once we finished building our stash, we didn't have to pay for diapers anymore, LOL. So overall, yes, they're cheaper. We actually started with them because my ds had a terrible reaction to whatever's in the new Pampers -- bleeding ulcers that wouldn't go away until we stopped using the diapers. We have only had a few minor rashes (mainly after someone gives him juice) with cloth. I was skeptical at first, because I really don't need any extra work around here, but seriously, they haven't added much to my overall routine.
They've added about 2 loads of laundry a week, and we had to buy a separate detergent (don't use regular detergent on the diapers or it can cause them to be less absorbent). BUT, we haven't had the overnight leaks that we had with disposables, which saves me a couple of washer loads a week because I don't have to change the bedding. If you air dry, it saves you more money because you're not running the dryer, but I usually machine dry mine for speed. ;)
I started out with some diapers I hated (g diapers and an off-brand), and eventually moved to BumGenius. They're pricey up front, but even the pocket diapers are very similar to disposables in terms of ease of use. I've added a couple to my stash every month, so preparing for this baby hasn't been too painful money-wise. And now we have enough that we should have at least 2 days worth of diapers, even with a newborn.
Basically, when I change him, I roll whatever's in the diaper into the toilet. We have a sprayer attached to the water line on the toilet that I use if the diaper is still messy (and that's optional). Then I throw the used diaper into a pail that is lined with a washable bag, and when it's time to do diaper laundry, I throw the whole bag into the washer. Prewash, wash in hot, and then an extra rinse. I've found that we don't have any diaper pail stink, probably because there's really nothing stinky left in the diaper once it goes in the pail. When we're on the road, I have some cute, waterproof, washable zippered bags to put the used diapers in.
And after typing all that, I realized that it's probably more info than you really wanted. ;)
I will say that I probably will use whatever disposables the hospital sends home with us until the meconium poops are over. That stuff is just nasty.
BTW, every time I see your signature, I want to say OWEN REID! YES, OWEN REID! in response to the question mark. :) I love that name. This little guy will probably be Harrison Crosby (both are family names). Unless DH changes his mind AGAIN. LOL
I'm totally hijacking your question, but I had to butt in. We cloth diaper and we LOVE it. Of course it's environmentally friendly, but yes, it is so much cheaper than disposables!! We have spent a total of $350 on Wyatt's diapers since birth, which is a drop in the bucket compared to over 2 years in disposables. Now, having answered that question I have to be honest and tell you that it is much more work. I can't lie. But I manage to do it while working full time, so it's entirely doable. The first six months are a breeze if your infant is exclusively BF. No rinsing of poo required at that age--just throw em in the washer! So even if you just did it the first six months, it would still save you money, especially if you just use prefolds and covers (what we did when Wyatt was little). HTH! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ThreeMenAndALAdy
Shellbelle--we use bum genius pretty much exclusively now too! Very daycare friendly too. :) I sold the diapers I didn't really like on a local diaper swap on Facebook. Actually recouped about 2/3 of my money!
hehe i love what comes out of kids mouths sometimes. The other day DD 2 year old climbed onto my lap and because my boobs have grown she was trying to push them out of her way, she looked up at me and said "Mummy, your more" :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Turning the page
I'm glad to see bum genius fans here! :D Those are the diapers I have my heart set on and I'm hoping to start stocking up after the holidays.
I tried cloth, didn't work out the greatest for my boys. I will try it again with the next.
Just when I think my day is so awful and I don't have much to be thankful for I log into Facebook and see someone has it much worse. Feel like I should be slapped.
I have used both the 4.0 pocket dipes and the Freetime all-in-ones, and both are great. You will love them.Quote:
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I would also pass... I know I posted about it on here, but when I was about 14 weeks I went to a friends house for lunch, and she said they had the bug about a week-2 weeks ago. I didn't think anything of it until I got really sick a few days later. Got dehydrated and had contractions and all. Then DS1 got it, then DS2, then both my parents as we were visiting for a few weeks. Ugh it was terrible.Quote:
Originally Posted by ThreeMenAndALAdy
And I just wanted to agree with the other ladies on the cloth diapering, we love it! I use mostly gogreen pocket diapers (my favorite by far!) and fuzzibunz. It's saved us a ton of money. DS2 has had a few rashes, but coconut oil cleared it right up.