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lol thanks
It's just hard to be optimistic... I'm glad my level 2 was moved til monday , although that wasn't done bc he was worried about the cysts, he was just worried about my mental state. so I think i can get through the weekend and I'll breathe ok if they say everything else looks ok.
And I agree with you Spinning!!! You should be in the 98% that doesn't have to worry about this. You've had your share...enough is enough!!! I'm sorry.
Spinning, I read about these cysts on the ultrasound board on Babycentre and the tech there said they dont even consider these a marker anymore as they seem to becoming more common and dont lead to any future concerns so unless they were coupled up with other things she wouldnt even worry about them. Not sure if that makes you feel any better about things but I wanted to tell you. Huge hugs, Im sure your little girl will be just fine. If you can, go do something nice for yourself to take your mind off of things for a little bit xx
Jheitz - Congrats on a healthy baby boy!! Im sorry you didnt hear girl hon, I hope you're doing ok xx
that makes me feel a lot better. thanks!
jheitz, how are you doing?
A friend of mines daughter had those cysts and they actually took even longer than "usual" to clear up. And she is a very healthy, rambunctious toddler now (heck, she bests all of our same-age sons...running circles around them!). Her doc told her they are becoming more common because ultrasounds are coming so far in regards to what they can see. Back five years ago, they were a lot less clear and what might be seen as a cyst today was only seen as a variance on the screen back then. I would be worried to, because it is in my nature to be worried (if you couldn't already tell). But I do believe they are common (and I think somewhere I read they are even more common in girls for some reason...dunno where I heard/read that though).
Anyway...I found out a lot of my discomfort today was from a blossoming UTI. I started to have some radiating back pain and burning, so I went to the "walk in" place. Confirmed UTI. So I hope some of the pains subside and I can relax again. It's true I have no reason to believe anything is wrong with this baby/pregnancy. It's so hard for me to remember.
Hey spinning...my dd 3 had the same thing at my 19 week ultrasound....I freaked out and cried for days....and then started praying and believing she would be fine. Praise God....by my ultrasound to check back at 24 weeks the cysts were gone. Needless to say, she is 2 now and has been and is perfectly healthy....nothing wrong with her brain for sure...she's too smart for her own good. :) My doc had told me not to panic as it does happen sometimes and typically resolves by 24 to 28 weeks but who can tell a mom not to worry about such a thing. I'll be praying they disappear and she has a perfect report next time.Quote:
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So they didn't pressure you to do an amnio? Thats what dh is worrying about , extra tests for no reason
I'm HOME!!!!! I'm in ARIZONA!!! I'm so happy. The first scent of that wet dirt smell just filled up my spirit big time... ugh, so wonderful!
I gave my mom her Christmas card immediately at the airport... signed "LOVE, Ned, Gena, Otis, & Willow"
Her reaction was priceless!
:awe: Welcome Home (again) :awe:Quote:
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LOVE IT!!! :running:
Love it, gena!! Have a wonderful holiday!! :)
I'm having ups and downs. I just feel like there is a big hole in my heart and I am worried that will never be filled. DH asked me if I wanted to keep going and try for a 4th but I just think that would be to have a girl and can't do that. We will have 3 lovely boys and my husband has 1 other son as well so that I just think we would be taking on more than we can afford/handle. I go from being sad about never having a daughter and mad that everyone around me seems to get at least 1 of each and wonder why I can't. I actually wished yesterday that we would have just stopped at 2 kids. What the heck?!?? Then I get mad at myself for even feeling this way because a baby is a blessings and he is healthy at that is all that should matter. I have to go back in for ultrasounds roughly every 2 weeks due to my preterm labor risk, so I'm hopeful it helps me bond with the baby more and get over this. Thanks for asking. :)Quote:
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I think everything you are feeling is normal
I would have felt the exact same if I had heard boy and I did run those scenarios in my head, which is why unless we could afford HT I wouldnt even try again bc it would just be to have a girl AND i was freaking out bc kids are expensive . but when the baby is born all that will matter is that hes healthy etc etc, but for now, dont feel bad for having the feelings you do.
If anything, at least there are plenty of people in this thread that can understand and you can talk to .. seems to be a lot of boy opposites :/
The morning after I found out this baby was a boy I thought for a second that I should put him up for adoption. I still can't believe that I thought that way...even if just for a second. I promise it does get better. I found out at the beginning of November and I did have a few rough weeks. But now I don't think about it as much as I did. I hope you find peace with 3 boys or you keep the door open for a 4th. I did get my girl the third time, but I wanted her to have a sister, and that's why I went for the 4th and now 5th. I'm done...lol...but don't regret any of them. And I won't be calling an adoption agency any time soon...lol. I hope you start feeling better soon. And we are here if you need us.Quote:
Originally Posted by jheitz77
I had all those thoughts with ds3, thought everything horrible under the sun but it does get easier - by about 8 months i was fine and just looking forward to meeting him. Still feel guilty when i look at him now, he is the most precious two year old and the one i get the most love off, he was mean't to be and so is your little boy. You may not realise it now but he is in your family for a reason and i'm sure he will bring you immense joy, your little girl is just taking her time to arrive but she'll come one day x
I know I will love this little guy and I already do. I am excited for him to arrive. I'm just struggling with wanting that mother - daughter relationship soooo badly. I went through this with DS2 and I really thought it would be different this time. I too still feel guilty when I look at DS2, but he melts my heart so much and I'm sure DS3 will do so as well. I don't know if a fourth will be in our future and I don't need to decide that now. I need to know I would be doing it for a fourth and not just a girl because chances of a boy are probably higher after 3. But keeping the door open is at least helping me a little. My mom had 6 kids, 5 boys and 1 girl (me). I was the fourth in line. Can't help but think I just am like my mom and make more boys but that just seems like a silly myth to me too. Anyway, anytime I get sad I am just trying to give my boys extra snuggles, kisses and playtime. Hearing their sweet giggles takes all my hurt away.
Hey jheitz77,
Sending you a big hug, I know exactly how you feel. The sadness is awful, mine comes and goes and I have moments where I think maybe I am over it and then the sad feeling overwhelms me again. It does seem so unfair, and I'm not sure how we move past that feeling. Of course we will love our new little boys to pieces but as you say it doesn't take away that longing for a mother daughter relationship.
My dh was annoyed today as a friend let him down on a fishing trip he was supposed to be going on, so I replied happily 'hey don't worry in a few years you'll have three sons to enjoy all the fishing trips with that you want to!'. Of course the moment the words passed my lips I felt that dreaded pain in my heart at the thought I would never have a daughter to spend special moments with.
Like you a fourth is a possibility for us but I know in my heart I never wanted to have 4 children, I only agreed to three because my dh wanted 4 and 3 was the compromise. Plus after ds2 I thought hey next time I'll get my daughter. I'm not going to decide now either and at least it is an option for us as I know it isn't for everyone but I will have to seriously think about it and part of me is hoping that when ds3 arrives my desire for a daughter will vanish with him.
As for your mum having loads of boys I wouldn't pay too much attention to that, my mum was one of 3 girls and everyone else in my family has had a mixture of boys and girls. In fact most have had a boy followed by a girl, and I stupidly always thought I would be the same.
I am honestly happy for everyone that has got their desired gender on here, I know how much you all wanted it, but envy is creeping in too and making me feel worse so I think I'm going to try and stay away for a while until I have got my head around things properly. xxx
Hi all, I have not really posted before but just feel compelled to post and tell you all that I know exactly how you are feeling! I have 4 boys and 1 girl and just found out that we are amazingly having another girl in May. I really never thought I would ever have a girl. I tried shettles with DS2 and then a whole host of IG style stuff with DS3. I cried every day for a month after I found out we were having another boy and like many of the other ladies here have said that every day it got a little better. Out of all my children he is the one that tugs my heart the most! I still look at him and feel so blessed that he was another boy and not a girl!! I remember the overwhelming pain when I found out he was a boy and shake my head and give a little smile and think that God really knows what is best!! I tried again three years later to have another girl (always wanted 4 kids) and trying again with shettles (I was a slow learner!!ha!) had boy number 4!! That was a lot easier to take and thought that having 4 boys was pretty dang special - and it really really is!! When my DS 4 was 6 months old (was nursing him and still had not had a period found out I was pregnant and was absolutely floored (never wanted 5 kids) and she was a huge surprise from beginning to end. I guess the nursing thing and losing weight after the pregnancy really swayed for me. My husband has really gotten into the big family thing and has begged for a sixth (can you believe it - he only wanted 3) and I finally gave in And tried some GD type swaying very loosely and here we are almost 20 weeks later and having another girl which I am am so amazed about. Anyway I the pint of my really long post is to tell you that I tear up frequently at your posts as I know what you are feeling but do want to give you hope for the future! It does get better and one day you will look back and know that all that is happening is part of the plan and will be such a blessing. Sorry for such a long post!!
You have given me some hope thank you. What a wonderful family you must have. Would love to read your sway for your girls xxQuote:
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Hi Funwithfive :) Would you like to be added to the due date list on the 1st page of this thread?
is anyone else totally shaken by this school shooting?
so glad we homeschool right now
Ive only seen comments on FB and on here so far, im scared to turn on the news, from what i can tell it was devistating and sad, i cant even imagine anything like that happening in Australia.Quote:
Originally Posted by spinningmadly
it was a kindergarten class, 20 were killed I believe out of 27
I shouldnt have read about it, Ive been sobbing uncontollably since... MY DS1 is in kindergarten and I dread to think of that happening. Thankfully we have pretty strict gunlaws but Im sure if someone really wanted to they could get their hand on one. Makes me sick to my stomach that a human being could do this! I am at a loss at the world today.... :(
I just watched it :tissue:
Yes. UGH. My first real news since arriving home. Hate this stuff. It just doesn't happen in the UK. I never hear about shootings anymore when in the UK... just here... in the US. It's disgusting, shocking, and sick. What monster kills children? It infuriates me.Quote:
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I can't imagine how the school teacher felt seeing her son do that before she died too :(
Oh Cinss I thought about that too, how awful - I am just so upset by it...
On a brighter note is TTP scan today/tomorrow??? How are you feeling?? Excited??? I guess us Aussies will have to wait for tomrrow for the update, wishing you all the best hon xx
I know Surgena, makes me so sad and angry.
cinss- I saw your baby wearing thing , where you said you are getting a ring sling. I never loved ring slings lol but i just never could get them to fit right (I Had one made out of a woven too) but I wanted to point out that when the baby gets bigger its much easier to have one where the weight is divided 2 shoulders. Ring slings are great but I think you definitely need more than just a ring sling especially when baby gets heavy because it hurts when all the weight is on one side..
I have a LOT of carriers and wraps etc lol. I wore DS1 a lot.
the babywearer.com is also a good site
Yes please I am due May 14th. My eyes are swollen and red from crying over the shootings. I just found out about it and just cannot make any sense out of it. It is just too sad and horrible for words!
I'm so heartbroken, like everyone else, over these shootings. My heart literally aches...every time I think I think about it, I cry. I didn't even know about it until I got in my car after work and turned on the radio, about five minutes before President Obama started the press conference. When he started to get choked up in his speech, I just lost it. I haven't had the heart to turn on the news, so I still don't know any details. And I don't know if I ever want to know...
In other news, I have my scan tomorrow at 11:00 am. After today, it seems like small potatoes. I am just excited to see my sweet little baby, whether it be he or she. Hug your babies tightly tonight, mamas!!
hmm i am not really sure what to do, i think i just need a ring sling for when bub is newborn, so i can still take DD in the pram or trolly. Then when bub is bigger i will probably just put him the pram and DD will be able to walk. i did have a Tommee Tippee baby carrier with DD and i only used it once, i have given it away, i always prefered to put her in the pram but that was because i only had 1 child with me.Quote:
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I love my ring slings. The other carriers, not so much. I'm the opposite of spinning -- the two shouldered front/back carriers just don't fit me or my lifestyle well. And I second the babywearer.com recommendation. If you have friends that have carriers, or a baby store nearby that sells different styles, it really helps to be able to try them out and get advice on how to carry in the ring or pouch/sling-style carriers.
TTP good luck tomorrow on your scan!!
Yes I know our area there is even a baby wearing group where people will get together and you can try different ones. I think body type and fit etc matter !
TTP- what time is your scan??
DS3 is in Kinder, I scooped him up as soon as he got out and couldn't get home fast enough. :( My heart hurts for those poor families and they're in my prayers..
Good luck and healthy baby vibes tomorrow, TTP!