Mommy3b good luck at your next scan and fingers crossed a willy doesn't grow between now and then ;)
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Mommy3b good luck at your next scan and fingers crossed a willy doesn't grow between now and then ;)
Just found out my cousin is having a boy after 3 girls. Sigh.
I hope mum has just lost her phone under a huge pile of baby girl clothes and can't get on to update us...
Has anyone heard from essnce? It's such a lonely time going through a mc. Hope she is ok.
Primal - hilarious!!!! Cracked me up hehe :)
Motherofboys please feel free to gatecrash and join in the fun :)
I haven't heard from essnce either, I hope she is doing ok and getting support at home.
Babybleu switch your phone off!! Its so hard acting happy and okay when you are desperate for a DG .
Hope you get your boy X
Essence, we miss you! Hope you are doing okay? Xx
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Question for you ladies: is anyone else struggling with lots of hip pain? I kinda feel like I've aged 15 years this pregnancy. Lol. My hips just don't cooperate anymore and that is new to me. I can't tell if it might be related to baby position (baby is laying much lower than my others) or if it might just be so many pregnancies so close together. But, gosh, this isn't fun. I can barely get up after sitting for 10-15 minutes. Carrying my older two is impossible, I am often worried I might fall when walking, they kinda "give out" occasionally. Although I've never actually fallen. My youngest is carried a lot, obviously, since she is only 17 months. It seems so early to have this symptom. I'm worried it's going to get a lot worse. I've always had such easy, painless pregnancies, I guess I'm spoiled! (I'm 20 weeks, if that matters to anyone).
Hotdogs that sucks, I would deft. Book an appointment with your doctor perhaps get a referral to see osteopath/craniologist. It might change in a few weeks as you said where baby is lying could be effecting it but deft. Get some help, you need to function with three littlies and they don't understand why mum can't pick them up! Good luck and I hope others have had similar experiences X
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So they can share I should say! X
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Okay so despite the fact I was supposed to buy maternity clothes today..... I brought myself a fancy handbag instead! X
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MUCH more practical Kitkat - you can use it afterwards! 😜
Hotdogz I'm having a lot more lower back pain & hip pain than my previous 2 pregnancies. In the last 2 I got muscular pain in my mid-back from about 20 weeks or so. This time (I'm only 10 weeks) it's all down around the lower back & hips, & feels more like joint/bone pain than muscular. It's really uncomfortable. I get some relief from Panadol Osteo, which is just a higher-than-regular dose of paracetamol. I'm in Australia but I'm sure there would be a similar brand of paracetamol wherever you're from 😊
thought id pop in.im 11 weeks now and my nausea and sickness has now gone! feels really strange not to feel sick now,lol. still feeling tired.first midwife appointment next tuesday and hoping they can get me in for my first scan the same week.
I am also having back pain. But it is nothing compared to what I get later in pregnancy. With all my pregnancies I have had pretty intense pelvic pain. Each pregnancy it got worse. It usually starts around 12 weeks. I am dreading it!!! It literally feels like my bones are being pulled apart! The most of my pain is in my pubic bone. What stinks is I can never find any relief, laying on my side made it really bad. Anytime I mentioned it to a dr they pretty much just shrugged it off! The only suggestion I ever got was to wear one of those belly support bands.
I am hoping something magical happens and I won't have it with this baby. Has anyone else had this type of pain or known anyone with it???
Hotdogs, have you tried a belly support band? It helps hold your tummy up so you are not getting so much pressure down there. I know you should only wear them a couple hours per day so your muscles don't rely on them to much.
I guess maybe the best thing to do would look into the right pregnancy exercises to tone the muscles that support the big old babies I carry!! But the last thing I want to do right now is exercise!!
I'm still here, just lurking mostly. I'm doing better the last few days. Just really sad that DH is adamant on not having more kids. I told him I was not going on any birth control so he's been doing the pull out method. My bleeding ended last week and I actually O'd yesterday it looks like on CD16 which is just one day later than normal for me. My only hope is that just 1 sperm gets through even with pulling out and I can manage to get pregnant again before DH gets around to getting a vasectomy. I'm still on the diet and supps as I won't give up the tiny bit of hope I have left. We dtd 2 days before O so all I can do is pray that 1 sperm escaped! My mom has come up the last two weekends to help with the kids. I still can't talk to any of my 3 best friends back at home as they all have two DDs each and no sons and I think I'll break down if I try and talk to them. My other best friend who has 2 boys and swayed with me and had a 12 week loss I've talked to a little, but I'm even jealous of her as her and her DH have been TTC since her loss and I'm just so depressed that I don't get that chance.
It doesn't help that DH wants me to start working again after being a SAHM for the past 5 years, but the last thing I want to do is go back to being a birth and postpartum doula when I was robbed of being pregnant and having my own baby. I don't really feel like surrounding myself with other pregnant women and taking care of other babies. Sigh. :(
Oh essence im so sorry for all ur going through. I really hope that 1 sperm got to the egg and ur pregnant. Or hopefully somehow u can convince dh to try 1 more time. I have my fx for u. :hug2:
Just thought I'd pop in. I'm only 11 weeks and my nausea/sickness stopped at week 10,couldn't believe it. Apart from feeling really tired I'm ok but dreading blood tests next week. Hope everyone's ok x
Essnce
Sorry your going through so much right now. Just a note... My hubby and I thought we were done after our third son and have just been using the pull out method. I got pregnant this past July with our fourth. If one little swimmer didn't get through already there is always that possibility. Who knows your DH may have a change of heart. I hope you start feeling better real soon.
Essence so sorry you are going through this. I pray you can catch one little spermy. Can you try to get the dh to bd twice back to back. I know they can have some left over inside so you can get some spermys if you bd back to back after him pulling out.
Yup what yogi said! Get two sessions in less than 24 hours...there should be sperm in the pre semen. I am so sorry you are going through all that you are. I think your dh is being unfair and insensitive. Hoping he changes his mind but in the meantime you have us to lean on!
Thanks girls, I'll try for two sessions in 24 hours if I can. DH is on to me though and wouldn't dtd last night or the night before. He asked if I was "ovulating and trying to get pregnant again." :(
Essence honey I am so so sorry it does feel very unfair of DH to flash the possibility of another child in front of you then take it away.
Is there any way you can talk him into putting off the vasectomy just tell him its so final, that you are not ready to close the door on another child and hope he changes his mind in the next 6 mths -1year ?
My DH is very stubborn he told me NO more after DS2 so I lay low didn't bring it up too much , then I went back to work when DS2 was 3 we had more money financial pressure off boys growing up and blow me down he agreed to one more.
Massive gigantic hugs we are all here for you and I know how hard it is to want another child with an uncooperative DH!!
Crossing everything one little sperm made it through Xxxxx,
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Essence I am so sorry about what you have been dealing with! I think you should try to tell your DH that you all have experienced a lot and you would really appreciate it if he would push back going for a vasectomy. You won't pressure him to TTC you just want everyone to have some time to think about things. Then just hope that in a few weeks or months time that he feels OK with TTC. I think a vasectomy is so final and you are still so young. Big big hugs to you,and I am really thinking of you and hoping things change.
Essence I've been trying to come up with some sort of wise & inspirational post. I've got nothing. It all just sucks. My husband said no more kids too. He was absolutely adament. I sold/gave away most of the baby things because looking at them broke my heart & then 2 months later he said let's do it. Sometimes I think men exist just to piss us off!!
I think he is afraid of you going through the same thing again. Men cannot deal with these things and I think some of them shut off all feelings to cope. Also they of course are sad and upset, but just don't get it. Maybe if you explain that you don't want your last pregnancy to be one that ended like this one did, that you want your last pregnancy to be one that is happy and gives you your last baby? Xxx
essnce I am happy to hear you are recovering well!
As far as the situation with your DH, I really think you must not TTC against his will, because if you actually get a BFP it will possibly not be something celebrated by your DH and I fear that it will bring negative feelings into your wedding and this hypothetical pregnancy.
My advice is to explain to your DH that motherhood is a very sensitive issue for any woman, that a woman must not be deprived of it cause it is our nature and purpose, that you are willing to wait some time for him to sort out his feelings of a 3rd child, that him having a vasectomy against your will is something that will make you miserable and possibly in the future create problems in your marriage and that you don't want this to happen and other similar stuff that you know best (these are what I would say to my DH).
It is very important when you'll talk to him to be in a loving manner, cause men never really grow up and need to feel they are loved by us like their mothers do, and ask of him to write on a piece of paper what his fears are, so that you can see them on paper and take them away with reasonable arguments.
I really hope from the bottom of my heart that you will be able to reason with your DH and be happy!
I'm sorry it's still a struggle essence. Hopefully time will work on your side and DH will have time to heal and accept you would like another child. It must be hard to not feel on the same page :(
And thanks for the wisdom ladies. I am going to ask my doc this week if she has any specific exercises and/or tricks for managing hip pain. Sometimes, I think I am just being a sissy this time around. Lol.
Hi ladies, I need some advice.... My 19 week scan is coming up in three weeks and I have already started to stress. WISH WISH I didn't care about gender but I do. My DH does not know I swayed and actively wants another boy, he is pretty insensitive to my GD.
Okay dilemma .... I told DH I wanted to find out as I had some girl guesses on my 13 week scan (we were going to be team green).
Do I find out the gender at the appointment and risk me bursting into tears and him gloating.... Or do I ask the sonographer to write it down and find out the gender privately afterwards?? Risk then being I haven't seen 'the goods'
Any input welcome!!
Xx
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P.s no elective gender scans here in N.Z so that option is out otherwise I would do that without him and then Pretend I didn't know....sorry for my ramble!!
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That's such a hard question Kitkat because I can only speak from my perspective within my own family dynamic & where I think I would be emotionally. So with that in mind, if we had decided to be Team Green but I wanted to find out in secret I would ask the sonographer to write it down. Then on my next day off work (I work 3 days so I'm home with DS2 for 2 days a week) I would drop DS1 at school, come home, settle DS2 in front of the TV (I know, mother of the year right?!) & open my envelope. Would give me a long day to cry if I needed to or deal with the initial excitement before DH came home & then I could pretend I still didn't know (well attempt to, I'm a hopeless actress). That's how I would do it I think, but only you know if that would work in your situation. Good luck!
xx
Thanks Primal! Sorry I should have been clearer I am a rambler!!
We are both finding out at the 19 week scan there is no way he would let me do it without him I just wasn't sure if we should find out gender in the actual scan, see the potty shot etc, or ask the sonographer to write it down and we then find out together at home or out at lunch.
Thoughts? Xx
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Kitkat If I was in your shoes I would probably request the answer in an envelope and open it when I would be home.
I would also ask the tech to give me a picture of the "goodies" so that I could stare at them as much as I want at home.
I don't think you are going to burst into tears though...I think you are going to dance your way out of the exam room!!
Thats a tough one kit kat. In my experience im so glad i was watching as he did the scan. If i only had 2 go by a picture and his word i would be so doubtful. Im still nervous my girl could turn into a boy for my 20 wk gender scan next week. But then i remember i saw with my own eyes multiple times the 3 lines, the tech pointed Out ��multiple times the labia. And i feel more sure and secure about that. And honestly i cant imagine u hear anything but girl.
I also think that you should ask the tech to write the gender down and open it in the privacy of your own home... I did that exact thing with my third baby (which turned out to be my third son!) I literally was shaking on the table and could not handle the emotion there. I desperately wanted a girl but when I opend the paper with my DH I was not super surprised or upset....I think it helped that we were in our surroundings. But if you need a good cry I totally know how you feel! Good luck whatever you decide!
Although Blessedmama has a good point....seeing it with your own eyes may shed any doubt! Ugh this is a tough one, you have me thinking about my scan next week!
Oh ok Kitkat you're right I misunderstood I thought you were finding out in secret. In that case I would watch the scan & ask for reference points to prove whichever gender the sonographer says. By your other scans I'm sure you'll hear pink anyway!! That being said my husband's GD is as strong as mine & he's very conscious that he has his boys so when we hear boy (I'm certain we will) he will be very supportive to me.
Thanks everyone for your kind words. Looks like I didn't O after all even though I had two days of +opks and then -opk. I never got a temp rise and instead it's plummeted to 96.7 and 96.8 the last two days! I actually thought my thermometer was broken.
I'm going to ask for a full thyroid panel next week as I'm afraid my miscarriage may have been caused by hypothyroidism. My mom is hypothyroid and so was my great grandma, and ever since starting LE diet I've been getting more and more tired (can sleep 12 hours and still wake up exhausted), have been napping daily, have had joint pain, am always freezing, and now a miscarriage and super low basal body temp which are all signs of having low thyroid function. I guess this can raise your miscarriage rate up to almost 70% in the first trimester if it's not treated. :(
On top of all that we're having massive urinary issues with 11 year old DS1. All of a sudden he's waking up 4-8 times in the early part of the night and peeing massive quantities, then in the second part of the night he's wetting the bed. He's also peeing every hour or so during the day. He had a finger stick blood test at the doctor's on Thursday and it was a little high and the doctor had him come back the next morning for fasting blood tests, another more thorough urine test, and then a kidney and bladder ultrasound. We won't know all the test results till Monday or Tuesday, but we're really really really hoping it's not Type 1 diabetes, which appears to be the most common cause of excessive daytime and night time urine output.
And of course, this afternoon 5 year old DS2 had to start throwing up all over the house and I remembered that just 2 days ago his teacher sent out an email saying a stomach bug was going through the class. He ended up falling asleep at 5:30 tonight without eating dinner and has already woken up two more times vomiting!
What a weekend this is becoming!!!!! I just can't catch a break!
Thanks everyone for your thoughts!! I really appreciate everyone's input I liked the idea Mama3? Had of the potty shot and the gender in the envelope but I think I might see how I feel on the day as well it might just be too obvious at the scan!
Essence honey sorry its pouring for you honey , last thing you need is a sick child and a stress over test results hoping DS1 does NOT have diabetes.
Glad you getting tested for your thyroid, big hugs keep us posted X
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Good heavens Essnce. What a rough trot you're having. I do know a bit about Type 1 & when you were describing your DS' symptoms my next message was going to be to get him tested... Then I read on to see you were on it. I do hope it's just coincidence. And stomach bugs, man they are the worst. It took me 12 months to get over the fear of THREE vomiting children before TTC. We actually considered stopping at two solely based on my loath of vomit!! Hang in there. There has to be sunshine coming soon for you xx
Essence, give yourself time to 'heal' on all levels. What a tough time you are going through. I hope all settles down for you very soon. Glad to hear you have your mum to help out with your children. We are all here for you xxxx
Kitkat, it is a tough one... Have the envelope idea but you might be feeling like finding out 'live' on the day...
I'm still confused on what I think I saw and sometimes wished I knew for sure ... I have surf the web like crazy for scan pictures in the hope to see the same round circles I saw and find an answer! My DH thinks I'm totally crazy lol
On a total change of subject, and apologies for TMI Alert!
This am I was shaving down below and as I can't see much standing up, I had to crouch down and it felt like my all insides were going to fall out! I could actually feel and see a bulge on the right side!!! Anyone else had this? Is this normal ? Thanks!
Oh man essence, first off im so sorry that all this is happening. I hope if u do have thyroid issues that the doctors are able to take good care of u. I pray ur ds1 does not have diabetes and that we he has has a simple solution. And i hope ds2 recovers quickly.
Kitkat just do what u feel most comfortable with at that moment. I just know ull hear girl.
Lavie they say theres more bloodflow down there and things get more swollen. I know i definitely feel Tmi bigger down there thanx to blood flow/ pressure from low lying baby. Is that what ur experiencing?
LaVie I'm sure it's something normal & just another "delightful" symptom of pregnancy however maybe just mention it to your midwife or care provider? If you weren't pregnant I would have suggested you might have a uterine prolapse which would be harmless (but annoying & uncomfortable!) but obviously in pregnancy a prolapse of something could be dangerous. I'm sure it's probably nothing & I'm just ignorant about that particular symptom but maybe just ask??