Itīs ok Duolamama :) but donīt take that blue dust back!, just leave it here for someone else
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Itīs ok Duolamama :) but donīt take that blue dust back!, just leave it here for someone else
Well, ladies - I'm 11dpo now and still have a BFN. I'm really feeling down now - I don't know what to do about next month if I don't get my BFP this month. I've rambled on about this in other threads, but my mother is going to be in Spain for much of the month of June, so if I have a baby then we won't have anyone to come help us with the kids when I go to the hospital and during those first early days home with the new baby. At the same time, the thought of waiting another 2 months before potentially getting a BFP (and having to diet all that time) makes me want to cry. DH doesn't want to wait and seems to think his mother could come from the other side of the country to help out, but she's never so much as lifted a finger when she visits and isn't very good with the kids (they only see her once or twice a year and she ignores them much of the time she's here) + he won't ask tell her we're TTC so we don't even know that she'd be willing to come. I just fear I'd end up having to host her instead of her taking care of us - when my mom's here after birth she cooks all our meals, does all our laundry, and keeps the older kids entertained all day long and I just can't imagine my MIL doing that.
Sorry for the long story, I'm just so conflicted about what to do. What do you guys do about your older kids when you go to the hospital to have a baby? We don't have any babysitters or any family in town. I have a couple of Mom friends who might be able to come for an hour or two each, but both have 2 kids of their own so I can't ask them to come for long.
Mocha-I'm sorry about the bfn. You're still not out though.
IMO if I were you, I'd go ahead with TTC next month. But from what you've said on here you've lost A LOT of weight. Maybe you should scale way back on the diet and focus on eating healthy and gaining a little weight back. I was skinny with DD1, but weighed 150 when we conceived DD2 (I'm 5'2").
When we had DD2, I did have mil to help out. DD1 stayed the night with her until we got out if the hospital. After that I didn't have any help. This time idk what I'm going to do. I've grown not to trust mil do if she does help out while we're in the hospital, she'll be staying at our house. She probably won't want to do that so DH will probably be the one taking care of the girls and leaving me in the hospital by myself (at night only).
Oh mocha!!! You're not out yet!! I personally could not take a month off, I just want to get it done!! I think you definitely need help whilst you're in hospital and your mil is better than no-one! Besides the whole thing is difficult to plan as baby might decide to come early and throw everything off anyway! Still keeping fx for you, xxxxxxx
The thing is, MIL lives 2000km away, so she wouldn't be able to come on a moment's notice. She would probably have to come a week before the due date and stay until the little one is born, which could potentially mean a loooong stay. We aren't close at all, and as I said, when she comes she normally doesn't lift a finger to help with anything.
If I end up being in the hospital for any sort of stay after birth (last time I lucked out and went home 2 hours after birth), I would be fine with staying there on my own without dh. Honestly, he's not much help with a baby anyway and is super grumpy when he doesn't get much sleep ;).
I think you're both right, though - I don't think I can take a month off TTC and still keep my sanity. Honestly, when DH suggested we keep trying anyway I felt relieved even though I was stressed about the logistics. No matter how depressed I get, I find CD1 reassuring somehow - I know that in 2 weeks I'll make my attempt, and 2 weeks later I'll know whether or not I'm pregnant. Besides, my reading on SweetBabyBump said I would get a pink BFP in September ;).
Alexis - I'm 110lbs now, and my BMI is 20. I definitely don't want to lose anymore weight, though I think I've found a balance that lets me maintain this weight since I only lost 1lb in the last few weeks. I'm definitely going to ease up on the diet, mostly because I'm ready to die of boredom from eating the same thing over and over. I'm not going to be quite as strict with protein (maybe 50g instead of 40g) so I can eat some more normal food. I might even let myself eat chicken once a week, but I haven't decided for sure on that yet. I'm also going to let myself cheat on special occasions like eating out, and I'm going to try not to feel too guilty about it.
I think I need to go on this girl diet after I'm done having babies just to lose my fat!! lol
ME TOO!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Alexis2007
Mocha, I'm sorry, hun. It may still be early for you indeed. But I know how you feel. I say keep going. You guys will figure it out, even if you have to search for a while and find a nice university girl or nanny that can sit with your kids when you go to the hospital and then some afterwards while you recover. I think about that stuff also, because both of our families are 1000 miles away from where we are, and both DH and I have to work full-time, so juggling a baby will be hard, but we both know we want one so badly that we just want to make one and then we will worry about logistics after that.
And I think your plan of adding in some more protein is a good idea. Maybe a prenatal also if you don't already take one. I will be pulling for you!
Indira, sorry for the AF on her way.
PrincessSarah, I'm excited to see some more tests!
Emmy, hope you are doing well also. My temp was coverline low this morning myself (2dpo) so I need to start my progesterone supplements for sure. Emmy, I may have said this before, but have you had your progesterone level checked? You just get a blood draw about 7 days after you ovulate. May help! If you want to, you can also just take matters into your own hands and get a progesterone cream from a health store and use that. It is totally natural, made from yams, so won't hurt you at all. I don't mean to get you all freaked out or anything, may be that you are just fine and have lowish post-o temps, but I know that I need a bit of a progesterone boost myself. Just a thought!
Morning Ladies1
Ok I know some of you are waiting on my test from this morning! 1st of this showed up in the 5min mark but is still light....but a bit darker than yesterday.
This morning I am feeling like it may just be a evp but I totally see something....so I guess I will just keep chanting to myself "not out till AF arrives"! Feeling like Af may come.....but then not...I think I am just driving my self crazy!! :bigsmile:
So here is a pic....I did not put arrows or nothing on it so just tell if I am seeing something or not!
FX to all you awesome Ladies!!
I totally see it, FX it sticks!
I see it!!! Use a FRER in the morning!!!
Conrats Prnicess Good luck!!!
Mocha...I am so sorry hun...it still can show up though, you are not out. In fact with the one daughter I have, she was the one I NEVER got a BFP with....I finally went to the doctors and they had to do a blood test. I have no idea what dpo I was back then. I was too young and should not have been pregnant (lol) but I do know my period was late and I still got a BFN. Also..I would definately try again next month. As far as the diet...I admit once I O I eat for a couple days. I am a small girl already, and I would not be able to go too long. I have been doing this diet since Feb with just a few breaks. It is too hard to maintain. So I lighten up in the TWW and I go hardcore 1000-1100 calories from af to o. I really feel the hormones, vitex and saw palmetto is what will be the big factor for me.
Thanks Girls, I "think" my chart is getting better...maybe the B6 is kicking it. I only start it after O when I stop the Saw Palmetto. I don't know..if I am out this cycle I think I am gonna pick me up some cream. I have not been tested for progesterone yet as I have in the past tended to be fertile mertile. So at least I have changed that...LOL...maybe. I have to get pregnant to get a girl.
Wow - I'm impressed you've survived on this diet so long, Emmy! I've been on it since the beginning of May, and I'm sooooo done with it. I do tend to eat a bit more after I O, and I always have one or two cheat days when af arrives to drown my sorrows. Part of my problem the past two months has been that I've been out of town during our attempt, and so it's been hard to control what I eat around O. At least in September we aren't planning any trips around my O day, so I'll be able to control my diet better on those important days.
Princess - I think you'll get your BFP if you use a FRER tomorrow!
Yeah we were originality going to do our first attempt in May so I was all over it starting in Feb. Stuff happened so we put if off till July. If i don't get pregnant this month Sept will be our last month trying. I conceived Noah in October so I want to stay in other months. Plus we go into birthday central. So I really hope it happens this month or next at the latest. It will be very hard to give up something I have been working on since Feb.
My temp went up again today so I am hoping my p levels are getting better and maybe that is sign....I have so many symptoms...but I did last month too...I think it is the hormone supps.
did I mention TTC sucks! LOL
That sucks, Emmy! I really, really hope you get that BFP soon!
I really wanted to avoid a Fall conception too - I conceived my twins in September and ds3 in October...but I just can't see myself being able to go off the diet then start from scratch again to TTC at a later time. I just have to hope my swaying is enough and that I can still get my girl!
My exact thoughts too!!!! xxQuote:
Originally Posted by Alexis2007
I second that! xQuote:
Originally Posted by Alexis2007
I am totally terrified to do a FRER!!!! I have to perfectly honest.....I had more patience with testing with my other pg's! I would always wait until day of AF because I was never ever late by a day even....so I would just test the day AF should have come....and always got a bright as pink line in less than the time it took for sample to soak up the strip!!!:rofl:
I may wait just a few more days....and break down and test with a FRER!
I wish patience was a virtue of mine..but it s is not! LOL I keep telling myself I will not test till Tuesday (9dpo) and even that is hard...
Well, its official! There were 2 bright lines yesterday which was 1 day after my missed AF! I've never ever gotten a BFB until AF was 2 weeks late. Also, I have NO real symptoms! I don't know if I should be scared or what. I'm going to get labs done on Mon.
Ok, I guess I do have a few symptoms but nothing major. On Tues I had excruciating cramps and migraine for 2 days. Then slight cramps every since. Boobs not tender but..if this makes sense, I can "feel" them! LOL Like, even sitting here now they feel more sensitive but not in a painful way, IDK, hard to explain. Also on Tuesday I had to throw up twice. Once in the afternoon and once at night. That's it! I don't even have any noticeable cm but in my other pregnancies I actually remember being very dry as well.
I guess I should be cautiously optimistic but we will see for sure when my numbers start to double! Also, my Brother in law called my SIL this morning and said that he had a dream that I had a baby boy!! WHAT?!?! Hopefully its God stepping in to tell me that everything is ok and in His hands now!
congratulations anxiousandready!
princesssarah that such a clear line!!
Well, AF is here :mad: I didnīt expect a bfp this month but Iīm down the same because Iīm obviously too thin to conceive and now gaining weight and getting pregnant will get me another boy for sure.
Good news is I ate what I wanted today :)
I wish I could give you some advice mocha but I canīt; I was going to take a break too but now my next attempt being only 2 weeks away...I canīt.
But I do think when your 4th baby arrives you should have the best help situation possibile, sounds like with your mother there you could really relax, enjoy and recover. I still hope you wonīt need to make this decision...
Emmy Iīm glad your temps are rising,FX!
Lola good luck!
Oh Indira I'm sorry, I was really hoping for you. {hugs}
thanks zani X
Sorry AF showed Indira!! :(
Congrats Anxious!!!
Indira - sorry about af.
I feel the same way as you now that I feel like af will come on schedule in a few days...the attempt is too tantalizingly close to stop now - in just over 2 weeks I will have O'd again and could be in the 2WW again. I think we may just take a risk and figure it all out later. I like the birthdate better anyway with a Sept conception - the baby's birthday will be right between my twins and ds3, and I won't have to be pregnant all summer in our un- air conditioned house. I would also prefer to have the baby while my boys are still in school - combining a new baby with the beginning of summer vacation doesn't sound like a very good idea....
I agree, Iīm starting to worry about this, whether I should skip oktober and november.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mochagirl
I think itīs a good idea for you to go ahead, Iīm having this feeling we pink swayers need every change we have because it might take us 8 months or a year to conceive (well I hope not!) and if you do get pregnant in september, you will just be so happy and youīll figure out a solution.
Iīm feeling more optimistic today, snacking and eating meat yesterday has really made me feel better and gain a chilo.
I have thought out little changes to my diet and sway and am visualizing my girl again and the idea of 3 boys isnīt that bad.
Sorry, indira, keep eating and hopefully that will help!
Mocha, you're still not out, the percentage of people that get bfp early is really low, fx!
Congratulations, anxious!!!!!
Good luck to everyone else!!
I'm now on cd 44 and still waiting for af. Lol, I'm starting to hope I'm the 1% who don't get bfp from poas and the blood test will miraculously reveal I'm preggers...in my little dream world....
swish, you know I'm pulling for you to get that miracle BFP. I keep seeing examples of people who never got a BFP while pregnant.
My temp dipped today - not below the coverline, but pretty low. I'm fairly sure af is coming.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/22b67e/
Oh no, that is soooo rotten! Like you said though, only 2 weeks and you'll be back again!
I was just in the bathroom, and to my surprise found blood when I wiped. I think it's too much to be spotting, which means af has arrived 3 days early! What's up with that?
Ok - I just checked again and now the blood seems to be disappearing, so I'm wondering if it was just spotting. If so, I suppose that COULD be a good sign that maybe I have a late implanter - is that possible at 12dpo? I never spot like this before af - maybe just a tiny drop that I can only find if I'm checking my cervix, but not so much I thought I needed a tampon! We'll see what happens as the day goes on. Maybe it will turn into af after all.... I'm so confused!
I'm in again!!!!
I wanted to say it's nice to see the same crowd again, but maybe that's inappropriate? :wink:
Mocha_ I hope this is your month! FX!
The blood is back and there's quite a bit of it. I think it's af, but I realised it's only 2 days early, not 3. I suppose if af was going to come anyway, she might as well come early so I can get on with the next cycle.... Should I be concerned that my LP is getting shorter, though? It started out at 12 days before the diet and Vitex, then went to 14, 13 and now back to 12.
Oh I'm sorry Mocha :( Don't worry about your LP. Mine always ranged from 12-14 days depending when I O'ed. The earlier I O'd the longer it was. The later I O'ed the shorter it was lol.
Hi Ladies......I did not get a FRER yesterday because the stupid store up here didn't have any! They didn't have any pg tests at all...which is weird because they use to! Oh well....I will just be patient and wait a few more days. If AF is to come it should show it's ugly head any day....if it doesn't show by Wed. I will test again with a FRER...I will have to drive 20 mins to go get one but sometimes that is how it is!! :sigh:
Mocha...I am so sorry about AF. My LP went form 14 days to 13 days with the diet and supps. I look at as a good thing since if I do get a BFN, I get to sart over sooner.
AFM....big temp jump today for me!!! I so hope it is a good sign, what do you ladies think of my chart? I know I started off with those crazy lower flat temps but I "think" things are improving?!?
Good Luck Zivic and wlecome back!!!
Hurry up and get a FRER Princess!!! LOL
Hi ladies :wave:
I thought I would join you guys. Maybe all the testing that you guys do over here will keep me entertained and away from my tests :) I decided to box my left over tests from last month and put them in a different room, them being in the bathroom cabinet was just to easy and tempting. I am going to try and keep my mind off my symptoms and testing, and encourage you guys instead....we'll see how that works.
Sorry about AF Mocha, I was really pulling for you.
Emmy: I think your chart looks great. Huge jump at 8 dpo, good sign. Can't wait to see tomorrows temp.
Welcome Washington!!! I hope this is your month and I am sending you lots of blue dust!!!
Mocha- I'm so sorry Hun:( xo I am really pulling for that medium to be right, and that you'll get your pink BFP in Sept!!!
Emmy- your chart looks exactly like mine at 7-8dpo!!! Fingers crossed!!! xoxo
WP- good luck!!!!
Good morning, 2wwers!
Princess, I can see a line also! Excited to see more poas action!!! I'm gonna go ahead and give you a congrats!!!
Anxiousnready, congrats to you!!! I hope your ILs are right and this is your boy!
Indira, thank you for the cheering, and I'm sorry that AF showed for you. Next go round is only 2 weeks away....even though I know it is annoying to have to try all over again.
Emmy, nice temp jump! I am going to put in my 2 cents about eating normally after O and say DO IT. You need the nutrients to get your bean to implant. Hope this month is a good one for you!
Mocha, blast it. I'm sorry you feel AF is here, and early. I don't think there is anything to be worried about with a changing LP, as long as it is not shorter than 11 days. When I was taking more hormonal supps, mine would be shorter, so who knows. I am glad you are going for it, though. I agree, we infertile and girl swayers need to keep on it cuz time is not on our side.
Swish, maybe get a beta soon? I hope you are one of the no bfp but pg gals (even though that is annoying, LOL....but at least you'd be pg.)
ZB and WP, woot woot! Boy swayers in the 2ww house! WP, I am with ya, trying not to obsess...even though I am sure I will test at 10dpo, I am trying to overlook anything symptom-ish and just remain calm.
I hear ALL of you about ttc sucking big time....it is hard on these diets, both of them! FX we can get out of this thread soon, not that I don't enjoy all the comraderie, of course. Better for us to be yacking in the pg boards, lol!