Congrats Blue, but yes, what else could it be??
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Congrats Blue, but yes, what else could it be??
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All the microdeletion syndromes, the very rare ones like angleman syndrome, prader willi, cru de chat. They r like developmental delay disorders and so can be severe.Quote:
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Also waiting on Infections CMV, toxoplasmosis, zika etc
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That's wonderful news blue!
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Bluebooties- That is FANTASTIC news! You bet I’ll be praying furiously that everything comes back perfectly normal with your sweet baby!!!
I’m SO happy and relieved to hear this 🤞🏻[emoji1317]!!
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These remaining syndromes are very rare and so I am happy that the most common ones are ruled out.
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How r u xx ? U had an appointment today right ? Any progress ?
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I wish I could hug you right now. That's such a huge relief even with the pending ones.Quote:
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That's exactly what I was thinking blue. I am still praying for your baby. This is such a great news. Hope n pray everything else comes back normal too. Sleep well tonight my friend. I can't imagine how hard it must have been for you.
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Now i think i will look at the gender this week probably make a guessing game out of it with the girls !
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Can't wait to hear bluebooties. Let's do the announcement together on 6th. I am going to ask them to
show me the gender after they get all the measurements and say all is ok. I am a bit worried. Not trying to think about it and just praying. ❤️[emoji4]
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Bluebooties and Skyblue I cannot wait for both you ladies to announce gender [emoji3][emoji3]
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Blue that is fantastic news!!! Now to confirm everything else is ok – FX so hard for you!
Can’t wait for you and Sky to announce genders – am sure you have two boys cooking in there!
4b2p – phew glad the move is done! Glad to see you back ;)
Also, wanted to add
I feel terrible for writing this but …right now I. just. can’t. I thought I was good – but am not – I get waves of wanting to cry ….GD was there both times before, and I got sort of past it (but then again, not really or I wouldn’t have invested myself so heavily in a sway etc.) but this time it feels so final that I may probably, almost certainly, never have a son, it stings so bad. I was soooo geared up for it to be a boy – I probably jinxed myself, bought some boy clothes, basically was in the mindset it could NOT not be a boy with all I had done.
It doesn’t help people’s comments are in the way – as much as I try to shrug it off – when I mentioned to my FIL that I was willing to be bet my SIL’s baby to be was a second boy – to which he straight away responded “oh no, I hope not, same gender siblings suck” – erm, how am I meant to take it, with 2 soon 3 girls?! I spent my evening sobbing….
I know this little lady will be a true sunshine and we’ll be crazy about her – but can’t help but feel somewhat helpless with my feelings, that I never will get to experience what having both a son and daughter is like. I guess that what we all want so bad, get the opportunity to have a bond with each gender & I know you get it - man, I never thought I would be sobbing over the gender of a healthy baby growing in me. I mean, what more could I ask for, right?! I feel so darn guilty and shallow and just can’t shake that but nor can I shake the sadness, either.
Bottom line – I will read you from afar until I feel a bit better and will keep myself in the lop of what is happening with you ^^
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Lmsm I'm at work otherwise I'd be saying alot more but just quickly big hugs xxoo you're an absolute sweetheart and not shallow at all. The fact you feel guilty for these feelings prove you aren't [emoji173] Be kind to yourself and I'll have more to say when I can get in here for longer xxoo
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LMSM i was i ur exact position after hearing girl for DD3. It hurt terribly ! Let it out lighten ur heart we have all gone through GD and so we all can relate. Big big hugs !!
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LMSM you sound like me but im wanting a girl. Theres nothing shallow about the way you feel, the guilt certainly makes it worse. Id always thought id have a mix of genders in my family...... 5 boys in and here i sit [emoji854] anticipating upcoming scans to see if finally we have broke the drought. I want a daughter for many reasons. But what ive been telling myself lately is if this is another sweet boy (i am so done after this) then i want to make sure that none of my lingering feelings of not having a dd get in the way of raising my sons. I want to make sure they are strong and independent. Which means ill need to work on myself a little and take some time somewhere for me. I recently picked up a book and started, i haven't done that in months. From experience with GD all i can say is it takes time. It certainly helps when your babe is born. I just picked out a boys name the other day as im already so convinced, and i did feel a little better like i was bonding already.
And other people's comments are the worst hence why only my bf and inlaws know. I have told my older boys and they are doing a good job of keeping it secret. We won't be telling anyone until we know the gender and are ready. We've faced far too many nosey, inconsiderate questions before.
Bluebooties glad all is well so far.
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LMSM-I just want to give you a great big hug! People just don’t realize that what they say can hurt someone so badly! I see how those comments would hurt terribly! You are not being selfish at all! The heart want what the heart wants! Give yourself all the time that you need, and please be kind to yourself. You are a great mom, and I know that no matter how you feel you will continue to do so! GD is a powerful thing and no one can say how you will feel in the future. I do know that those feelings will be separate from how you feel about your new little one when you meet her. Give yourself some time and your DH some time. Who knows what the future may hold that you cannot see or know right now. Just take each moment as it comes. Please know we all will be here waiting for you, should you need to process things or to vent.
(((Huge Hugs)))
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Oh LMSM - Big hugs sweets. Anyone in your place will feel the same. You are a wonderful person. Imagine how horrible it was on my part to be disappointed with my first. I still feel the guilt so so so bad. But I felt it because dd was the 6th girl in my family between my two sisters and one brother and people won't stop with their comments. Once dh's brother in law who we visited for the first time said - Wow, all girls in your family no boy and he repeated it 4-5 times like we made a world record with girls. I felt shattered. And when I heard dd was a girl, I actually cried a lot. Dh got so mad because he loved that he was getting a girl. He said he was sad because I was disappointed at a time when we should be celebrating. And after she was born, there were people in my family who actually called to congratulate and said, how they wished god would have given us a son. Imagine the ruthlessness of people. So, I totally understand what you are feeling. I read this site day and night for months before actually starting ttc. My dh thought that I had lost my sanity reading so much. We fought because he wasn't as serious as I was about the sway. He would justify by saying that he doesn't care even if we have another daughter because daughters are the best. So, how could I have argued with that? I still did the best I could. And the most frustrating part of it all was when I actually got a bfp,each and everyone in his family mentioned how they pray it's a boy. He then realized that his family wants a boy so bad and they would be sad if it's a girl. And my family was all chilled out about it. They didn't even care about me not wanting to find the gender.
What I am trying to say is that I am so thankful for you all because I couldn't have shared it with anyone in the world. And finding out that one is having an opposite gender after swaying is twice as hard. Pls keep sharing with us. I know this journey would have been so scary and full of worries without you all. Being here is a blessing.
I am sorry for going on and on about me but gd is so real to me. After finding out dd's gender, People spoke to me like I was a poor woman who is so sad since she has so many girls in her family. Trust me those words hurt so bad. Just because I expressed my wish of having a boy in front of them sometime. These were my so called very close friends. That's why this time I made a promise to myself for not letting people throw a pity party for me and I decided to be team green even if I did find out the gender. I have a friend/neighbor who looked at one of my u/s picture with no nub just the upper part and said that she thinks it's a girl for me. People hit where it hurts. I didn't want them to have that kind of control and power over my life hence we are staying team green for them until this baby comes. I will only share it here after seeing with my own eyes.
The sad part of it all is that these people have no idea that their words could upset someone so so bad.
I wish I could give you a hug in person. The fact is that people won't even care after the baby is born but until they know the gender, they won't leave you alone.
Let yourself feel what you are feeling my friend and don't be so hard on yourself. Gd is real and is hard.
Lots of love.
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Will come back later but for now...just thanks so so much my lovelies :hug2::hug2::HH::heart:
LMSM, so many hugs!!!! I would do anything to trade places with you, trust me. Just wanted to tell you that I know exactly what you're feeling. I'm constantly on the verge of tears, I'm always thinking of what I could have done differently in my sway, wondering what I could have adjusted, etc. I wake up all night long thinking about this and it just hurts. If you need to vent, trust me when I say that I understand. [emoji175]
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blue booties so glad to hear those results came back all clear :)
LMSM hate to admit i had all consuming gender desire and then gender disappointment with baby #1 :( we had #2 and got our little girl..but then we lost her, next came 3 boys in a row, cant even begin to describe the devastation (as awful as that sounds) but its true, it felt like our girl had been taken from us and then we were being punished with boy after boy after boy. even now after 2 healthy girls in a row i would be crushed if we had another boy, i dont think a baby boy will ever be a positive experience for me.
i hope you can feel better about your baby girl soon, though i do understand that it doesnt always work like that with GD, i think that relative who said same sex siblings suck is an idiot, for what it is worth 3+ girls is my dream family, but i also understand that having lots of one gender when all you want is the opposite can be such a dark place to be, it certainly was in my experience. big hugs and everyone is here for you when your ready to come back :heart:
Max yes of course you were waiting on NIPT!! cant believe i didnt remember that!!
in all honesty i am shocked you heard boy, i must admit its things like this that really bring home the fact that luck or chance or whatever you want to call it really do play a fairly big part in all our sways, he must be one very determined little man!!
i completely understand your feelings, hearing "boy" was never a positive thing for me, in all honesty it was devastating, and i think when we sway we feel like we are more likely to be guaranteed our boy or our girl because of all the things we do and change. how have dh and your girls reacted? i hope you are ok :heart: i am very glad baby is healthy but i am sorry that you didnt get your all girl dream, i know how much you wanted it and how much it meant to you, i hope your little boy can surprise you in ways you never imagined xx
4blue, thank you. It was just that when I heard boy...devastating. The logical side of me KNOWS that I'm going to love him, and knows that he can still be close to his sisters despite the gender and age differences. However, the emotional side of me is really, really struggling. I think I was possibly too confident in my sway that it was a girl, but all along the way I did have doubts (low hcg which was different than my girls, delayed positive hpt, different cravings, etc). Its just crazy to me, especially with LMSM, Kat, srg having girls and wanting boys. You know?! DH is happy and girls are excited, although DD2 told me she wished it was a girl so she could have another sister. Those words stung and are still with me...
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Lmsm: so many hugs it doesn't make you a bad person. I felt like an awful person I sobbed in front of my dh, dd, ds1, and sis and sil. I felt like a monster crying over a healthy baby. Then it didn't help when I called my mom and told her the gender, she was like are you sure? That just made me cry harder. Anyways it's okay, and it doesn't make you a bad person! Wish I could give you so many hugs!
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LMSM - I wish I could give you so many HUGS!!! I am the same way. Some days are better than others. I still have my horrible days of GD. You are not at all wrong in the way you feel. And I too am like Max and wonder how so many of you wonderful ladies would give anything for a boy and some of us would give anything for our girl. And we got opposites. But for some reason, these little people found us and picked us as their parents and we will not know for a while, why that was. It is ok to struggle with it and I am still struggling at 34w. We still have no name and really nothing ready for this little man. And I feel so bad about it. He can come at any moment, and I am still not bonded or anything. UGH. HUGS to all of you!!!!!! The struggle is so real, but I also know you are a wonderful mother and will love this girl like you do your others!!! Time will help heal and you will get past it. I know with time I will forget the baby years and craziness because it will be replaced by so much love and chaos from my boys!!!
4p2g - I fully understand the feelings of having your girl ripped away from you and hearing boy after that. The same thing happened when we lost our twin girls and here I am having another boy. It really was devastating, but I will get past it. HUGS We all have struggled so much, I am so very happy that we have this place to share and not be judged. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of this group.
Oh and blue - I am so so so so happy to read that the preliminary results look so great!!! Huge sigh of relief.
Hi ladies! I'm so sorry I've been so out of the loop lately!!! Have I missed any big news??! I've been able to keep up with the Facebook posts a little better, but life has been busy & stressful lately...just downright exhausted! I did have my "sprinkle" on Sunday & it was perfect! Maybe I'll post some pics on FB. Hope all of you are well xoxo
Has xx had her baby girl yet?? Waiting and watching here!
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Any of you ladies suffered evening sickness? Around the same time every night i start getting nausea. Sometimes eating helps and sometimes nothing does. This is a first for me.
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Yes netti! I don't remember when it let up but I was good in morning sick every afternoon. Now it's flopped I puke every morning but then I'm good the rest of the day
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I hope it goes away soon its come on really string the last few weeks. Problem is I work night shift and that sick feeling isnt good to start [emoji23]
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Bluebooties - so so happy to read that your bloods came back clear! Hope the amnio tests come back clear too lovely ❤️
Xx- can't wait to see a photo once bubba is here!
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netti i got evening sickness with this baby and a few of my others, it kicked in around 7pm and got worse and worse til bedtime, if i didnt get to sleep early enough id be up most of the night vomiting :( i hope it eases up for you soon!!
Blue, soooo happy to hear about your bloods. What are next steps?
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I've been having really awful cramping the last few days, and yesterday (sorry tmi) passed a few clots. What could this mean? I have a dr appt Friday to measure the hematoma, but I'm worried it's growing.
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max i completely understand, you had a vision of how you wanted your family to be and its hard to let go of that and accept a different reality, thats great that dh and DD1 are excited :) i totally get how what DD2 said upset you, its hard when our children want a sibling of a certain gender as you feel the pressure to give it too them!! i am sure she will be all over him as soon as he arrives :heart:Quote:
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shann i think when loss or losses play a part in GD it kicks it into a higher gear, it certainly did for me, im so sorry you lost your girls i cant begin to imagine being in that situation, i also found it very hard to bond with the boys while i was pregnant and it was difficult to find the motivation to prepare for them xx
Xx-so exciting! I hope everything goes well!
My SO and I talked yesterday about staying home with baby. He told me I misunderstood but I'm still unsure if that's it. He said he supports if I want to work full time but would rather me not. He thought full time was what I wanted even though he knows I don't care for my job. I would like to work part time just to help out if, I can find something after baby comes. I'm so relieved and I hope it doesn't change before she comes.