Gonna make me cry Mommy2apples!!!! Thank you!!!!! Your girl is perfection!Quote:
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Gonna make me cry Mommy2apples!!!! Thank you!!!!! Your girl is perfection!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mommy2apples
Thank you momma! You are so very welcome!
Hey everyone! I've been stalking in the background but finally ready to update ya'll on life. To summarize- I started home health in early October at 11 weeks. That comprised of a zofran pump in my stomach, IVs placed twice a week, and getting 2 bags of fluids on my IV days. That was combined with a lot of oral medications. On October 30th, I had low blood pressure for a week, dizzy, and IVs were blowing and it was hard for home health to get an IV to stay in long enough for my two bags. So I decided to get a more permanent IV line, called a midline. They started me on prophalytic lovenox to prevent clots forming on my line. Well 4 days later, I started having pain in the arm with my midline. I ended up having a clot on the line and a clot in my internal jugular. So since I have a Deep vein thrombosis (DVT), I have to do treatment course of two lovenox shots a day for 12 weeks and then be on prophalytic dosing until 6 weeks postpartum. I get checked on Feb 8 to see if the clots are gone. That's the bad news, but the good news is that my hyperemesis has let up about 20 weeks and I've stopped all my home health and surviving on oral meds. I am back up to my pre pregnancy weight. This pic was a few weeks ago at 22 weeks, but I'm 26 weeks today. She's not a big mover so I'm hoping for a calm little girl. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/201...ec119f2bb6.jpg
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Oh hgmama!!! You are having a baby girl!! So excited for you! Ugh you are being put through the ringer! Keeping you in my prayers. Had forgotten my password so all the ones I prayed for including you I had no
Idea what was going on with them!
Has anyone heard from mummy2boys?
do anyone know from ultrasound from which side did you ovulate and what was the gender.....
I'm due June 19th. I didn't find out what I'm having because I have 5 boys and have faced the gd, too many times. I will be ok with boy number 6 but finding out is painful. So I will find out, but I'm in no rush. I dreamt of getting the ultrasound and saw the Male genitalia and woke up unsure if it happened or not. My dreams are so vivid. I was heartbroken but not really surprised. I don't expect any different, but still when its final, there is this heartbreaking moment. I only decided to go for another if I was 100% ok with having a boy. But still, there's the moment when it becomes a reality. The hardest part of my dream was the baby looked like my others. Ppl are always amazed how they are identical. I always laugh and say I have a cookie cutter vagina. But I was so sad and felt totally ignored. I get it if i'm not supposed to have a girl, but it's so hard when you keep passing on the same clothing and they are all the same. They are cute kids and have great personalities, I'm grateful, but they are all brown eyes and brunettes. And dh is blonde red and blue green eyes. Sometimes I just want a little change. But this pg started off shaky and every time I heard the heartbeat my priorities changed. I just want that healthy baby. But that doesn't mean that the moment it becomes real, won't hurt.Quote:
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Beautiful baby HG mama. I am happy for you! I admire your courage in facing all the health problems and hope that the second half of your pregnancy is way easier than the first. It doesn't sound like too much to wish for giving how much you have been through!Quote:
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Yes, I can imagine you are ready for something different. I hope you get a girlQuote:
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I am at 28 weeks and starting to have more trouble sleeping over the last week or two. I think some of that is hormonal and some of it is some back pain I get at night. Just starting the third trimester I feel very behind on some of the things I need to get in order, but I keep buying baby clothes. That's my way of coping with gender disappointment. There are some cute baby clothes for boys. Once they get older it's much harder for me to find things I think are cute. I'm planning for a vbac but the idea of giving birth is still a little surreal at the moment. Baby has been kicking a lot and my four-year-old seems happy. Generally he says nice things about baby but yesterday he finally said something negative (" I will never love the baby") it is interesting to have him be four years old when he turns into a big brother. I'm a little nervous about our family turning into a family of four since my husband is still kind of depressed about it. Financial stress of saving for a maternity leave is real! But overall I'm feeling pretty okay about this and I'm trying to stay open-minded and more positive.Quote:
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You’re a champ!!!! I had to get fluids twice but NOTHING like you. How do you do this?!
And look at her!!!!!!! 💞💞💞💞💞 congrats I’m so glad you’re feeling better!!
Mom25 I hope this is your girl!!! Healthy too! I’m so paranoid this pregnancy. Healthy is so important. When is your anatomy scan?
Mommy2apples I haven’t heard from mummy2boys 😭 I hope she’s doing okay.
Gafan 28 weeks?! Third tri!!!!! I hope you can rest tonight. Sleep is so important and yet so hard at that stage. Newborn boy clothes are just so sweet. I’m glad you’re coping with it.
I’m sorry there is so much stress. I was so stressed about my DS2 but once he was here it all went away and felt so right. I pray that’s what happens for you. When will you go on mat leave?
Also hope you get your VBAC!!! Can’t believe you’re inching so close to the finish!!
Thanks! I am trying to work up to 40 weeks. I'm self-employed and the primary earner so the more I can save before I leave the better. I know it's a lot harder for me to be away from baby then it is to work super pregnant. I have my vbac consult and a week or so and they're going to tell me I have 50-50 chances but I'm going to believe my chances are better than that, especially if I'm able to avoid an epidural and move around more. I've got Doula support and I'm working with midwives so maybe this time it will work out. I'm still trying to figure out names.Quote:
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Gafan that's so true. I'm so hopeful you can vbac!!!! A doula and midwives sounds really really promising!
Names are so hard for me. I doubt this baby will have a name until right before the birth.
Thanks, Kiku! And we didn't know our first baby's name until right before the birth, if not after we met him. It might be like that this time tooQuote:
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Same here in the name. I finally told DH my two name choices. I told him before to think about it for a couple weeks before shooting them down. We didnt have a name for DS until 36 weeks.Quote:
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HGmama how are you?! Just 2 months from due date!!! How are you feeling?Quote:
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Yeah, HGmama. how are you?
I will be 30 w this Wednesday and have to talk to the doctor about vbac risks/chances that morning.
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Kiku & gafan-
Doing much much better. Today is the last day of second trimester. My last appt went well. Third trimester will be filled with lots and lots of appts. I get an ultrasound to see if my clots are gone on feb 8, but dont get results until a week later. I also start every 2 week visits with my OB at that time. Then starting feb 25th, in my 32nd week, i start weekly non stress tests to monitor baby or any signs that anything is wrong. As for preparing for baby, we will be starting transitioning the guest room to a baby room.
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I can't believe I have about 10 weeks to go, maybe even 9. This week I had my vbac consult and received a score that made me a little more worried and sad. I'm not second-guessing wanting to try for vbac but it's hard to go in with a really confident attitude when they tell you your chances of success are 45%. I have good reasons to think my chances are better than that, but I have a hard time feeling confident.
For those of you who got an epidural, did you feel attached to and fond of your baby right away, or did it take longer? Some of the articles I've read suggested epidural can mess with bonding hormones . I know feelings of attachment are normally variable and can take time to build but I'm wondering if I could really benefit from those bonding hormones this time. I did eventually feel or close to baby number one, but it took quite awhile.
I'm going to post this in the other dates group 2 because with an April 3rd title mean I don't know if this will be an April or March baby.
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Sorry for the delay gaff!
I actually bonded wayyyy more with my epidural baby than my non one. I was mostly shell shocked my non-epidural baby was here. Honestly, probably no difference. I loved having an epidural and wanted one the second time but he came too fast. I did like being able to walk around after the epidural, but I'm still team epidural :)
Can't believe you are so close!!
And HG mama, I'm glad you are doing better. THIRD TRI?! WHAT WHAT!!! Do you have a name yet? FX your clots are gone!!!
Omg. I finally feel my baby!!!! I just turned 20 weeks. No idea why it took as long as first time mothers. This is my 8th pregnancy, 6th baby. It has something pressing into my ribs. Hands or feet. I'm so excited it's starting to be more real. How's everyone?
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Mom25boys I’m so glad you said you said this! I’m 19 weeks with my 3rd boy and still can’t feel him. I felt my second boy so early so was starting to get worried! I can’t wait to feel him!!!!Quote:
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It took me awhile to feel this little one but now is is very active! I am due Apr 3. Just starting to try to practice breathing techniques and relaxation scripts for birth. I hope baby waits until 39 or 40 weeks and then is ready to move. My first baby was induced at 42 weeks. How is everyone?
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I loved my baby (vaginal birth with epidural), and wasn't apathetic, but I'd say my biggest feeling after her birth was being shell-shocked, not strong bonding love... that grew slowly.Quote:
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Personally, I don't believe that it was the epidural responsible for lack of bonding, I think it was just shock at having a first baby, also she came a bit before her due date and the birth was fast.
My birth was a good one and not traumatic, but it still totally shocked me, I think had more to do with being a first time mom.
Thanks for your replies. I will use an epidural if I feel it would help with birth. We'll see. Just about 7-9 weeks at most now!
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So I found out I'm having boy number 6. I was pretty heartbroken, but I knew deep down a boy was a 99% chance. I think what made it so bad is that I worked so hard. I literally changed my life. I was so relaxed, on anxiety meds, dh on them too- first time for both of us., I dieted nicely for 16 weeks, exercised 6 days a week. I was good. But this cycle I got tired of it not happening and went for e4d. I am kicking myself that maybe that was a tilt the other way. But I have seen perfect sways fail too, so obviously it wasn't meant to be. But being my last, its devastating. I need to get rid of all those daughter dreams forever. I did IG sway 2 other times and MC. But this is it. I am never going to have a daughter. Honestly, I didn't have any crazy dreams of dress up and dolls. I just wanted something different. After 5 boys wearing pretty much the same clothing and looking pretty much identical, brown hair, brown eyes... cant tell baby pics apart, I just wanted something different.
I thought it would be good for me to buy some baby things, but it was so hard. The baby girl section is massive and so loud. The boy section was pathetic. I could barely find anything. Anything remotely cute wasn't realistic. Had too many layers and pieces, which after 5 boys I know better. Got a few things begrudgingly.
I can work on the nursery but I have a budget so its extremely difficult. It makes it not worth it to do anything babyish- it needs to grow with him.
I know I will be ok. I will not get messed over it. I shed tears when I saw it was a boy. I told the sonographer I didn't want to know and she kept saying he. So i knew the penis flash was real.
It's just done now. My last baby is another boy. And i will adore him but I'm so sad. Sad of being told no to my prayers and dreams.
I gave it everything I got, but it wasn't enough.
And I can't find anything to bring me comfort. Its just too fresh. And everyone's words of comfort are just plain stupid. I need to just pull myself together and accept my fate. I shouldn't have thought I could change it. Even if it was a 1% chance.
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I am so sorry, M25B. I wish I could give you a HUGE hug. Please don't beat yourself up. You put your all into it. You did an amazing sway. E4D was still the right choice, I'm sure of it. I could NOT get pregnant on anything except SMEP. And if you can't get pregnant, there's no baby at all.Quote:
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I'm also really mad at your tech. That's awful. Really. She should NOT have done that.
I am sorry Mum25boys. Giving up dreams of a daughter is so sad. You had to work so hard, to fight the odds, to know you did what you could. Hugs.Quote:
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I am so sorry Mom. I've been staying off here because it's just too hard to be on here anymore, but I popped in to check on the people I care about and that included you. I am gutted to see this and am so damn proud that you're holding your head high and trying so hard to get excited.Quote:
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There's definitely no point in picking apart your sway. It is always and forever an odds game. I swayed hard and completely changed my life for over 2 years and got nothing but dead babies and then just another girl. I wish so badly we could switch places.
Just know if you ever need to PM me, I'll still get the email notifications and will come back on here to talk with you. I know how piss poor the platitudes can be and feel and sometimes it helps to just get the most awful things off our chest.
You're amazing for forging ahead and trying to stay positive, so if you can take heart in anything, I hope its in yourself ♡
You did everything you could. Dont beat yourself up about the E4D so unfair people don't sway and bam get their DG anyway!! It's nothing you did. i hope you find peace and I'm sure you will be so busy and in love with your new baby that things will get better.biggest hug x xQuote:
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How are you all doing? I had my 34 week appointment today and baby seems to be head down oh, so that's good. I hope he stays there.
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Yay! For head down! I'll find out monday if mine has flipped to head down. My chiropractor and I have been working hard to try to make it optimal for birth. Monday I have a biophysical profile ultrasound and my first non stress test. Im 32 weeks.Quote:
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Is baby head down? My little guy had his head up a couple weeks ago but flipped last week. I have my first chiropractor appointment today.Quote:
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Yep! Baby girl is head down! I think it must have happened pretty immediately. Hoping she stays that way.Quote:
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Had my nonstress/BPP/repeat anatomy scan yesterday. Everything went great. I had no contractions during test, her heart rate had good variability, and she's measuring in the 39th %. Estimated at 4 lb 5oz.
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HG, I am glad to hear you and baby are healthy.
I can't believe I'm at 35 weeks. The days are going slowly but the weeks are going fast.
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hey ladies, this thread seems pretty quiet but we've reached the 50 page limit so I have made a new thread. It can be found here - https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...ml#post1026012