Maybe that isn't great I hope you get to talk to someone soon.
inglewood impressive bump!!
Deaks have a fabulous holiday.
Decided to go back on the crappy diet tomorrow erghhhhhh........
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Maybe that isn't great I hope you get to talk to someone soon.
inglewood impressive bump!!
Deaks have a fabulous holiday.
Decided to go back on the crappy diet tomorrow erghhhhhh........
I've sent you a message Maybe x
Thank you Zanacal - one minute I think I can feed through the pain, the next I want to give up :¬( If I could only get by till next week to see if it is the trush. I don't want to feed him till he's 18 months or anything, just a chance to get to experience feeding him till he weens - why is that too much to ask for?? I think some one up there hates me some days....
ok someone up there defo hates me - been to the loo and noticed blood. Looked via a mirror (eeeuuughhh!!!) and my stiched have opened up - I have a 1cm hole there!!!!! JUST WHAT I NEED RIGHT NOW!!!! THANK YOU!!!!*****%%^%^%&%£$%^&**%^$%^ A month after giving birth??? high blood pressure, sore boobs, induction, re-admitted twice to hospital, split stiches!! I'm having a drink RIGHT NOW while I wait for the maternity ward to call back at 11.58 pm - everyone is asleep but don't worry I dont need my sleep - not when my month old son will have me up to suck on my poor sore boobies in three hours.
Next life, I'm coming back as a man....
Hi all,
Been catching up on and off... just been a bit manic recently.
Wow Inglewood - soooooo soon!!!!! Very exciting...
Oh Maybe you poor thing. I feel your pain. I struggled with DS1 but we made it and I BFed til he was 10.5months. I was in tears at times trying to get rid of lumps... I used to get DH to massage my boobs because I couldn't face to do it myself... hurt too much. I also had spinal surgery when DS1 was 3 months so couldn't BF for a week as I was on morphine. So there I was in a high dependency ward not allow to sit up, expressing lying down... just to throw away my drugged up milk. But I kept up my supply and all was good!
I'm trying to remember all the good advice I was given. Umm if it really really hurts give yourself a day off and express the milk for bubba. I found different holds helped eg the football hold. Different lactation consultants will give you different things to try. Try calling the Breastfeeding Association place again (not sure what its called in the UK)... you might get someone different.
Only you know whether it is possible/worth it!! You need to be able to enjoy bubba too! Hope all goes well...
Can't remember who said they were GBS positive. Do you know if that makes you more likely to be GBS positive next time? I had to be induced with DS2 because I was GBSpositive. They test everyone over here at 36 weeks.
Had my Gestational Diabetes test today... ugh I hate that sweet drink :P One of the blood tests was sooo sore and I have a big lump on my arm now and its going purple. Lovely! The nurse was sweet... she said she had 3 boys but had been told the last was a girl. When she had her C-Section she also had her tubes tied and then found out it was another boy.... I think it was an old old hurt for her. It made me so sad for her.
Anyhews hope everyone is going well. Our clocks went back on the weekend and unfortuately DS1 hasn't realised. He got up at 4.40am on Sunday!!!! Arghhh... :)
maybebaby oh no, that sounds so terrible! did you get seen by a midiwife? i hope you're feeling better today! hows the breastfeeding going? it might still be the thrush, it might not have cleared completely yet. are you treating both you and baby?
lavenderlime good luck with the diet! are you doing ig or le?
just came on to wish inglewood a happy healthy delivery x cant wait to see your news x much love x
hi to all x x failed at posting again x
oh hun x geez not good at all x i hope you are on the mend with everything soon x sorry havnt read all your posts are you treating baby for the thrush too?? Hope you feel better soonx
Yes we are both being treated for trush :-( midwife at hospital said to see a gp asap about stiched as might get infected but I couldn't as went for bf advice this am and now waiting for ashtons third hearing test as he failed two so having the brainwave one now. Bf help today was good - told not to touch boob just let him go on. I will try but not sure I can stand it. I have big boobs and am used to shoving it in but squashing my boob in one hand. On the plus side I had three mums at the group say my boys are lovely and well behaved - I hear that a lot but for some reason find it hard to belive. Pings nice to see you!
Maybe, that sounds like a nightmare! I'm sorry you're going through so much. I have big boobs too and I could never feed without holding my boob up and shaping it for baby - even when they were almost 2 years old! Hopefully something different will help you though. I had a great cushion called My Breast Friend, it's very hard and flat and holds baby at the right height on his side - they're not cheap though, I got mine on Ebay.
Inglewood, I hope you're enjoying your family meal tonight. I'm so excited to hear your news in the morning :D
do you have a pillow hun? Not that it can be taken with you - my boobs get BIG when BF and find a pillow helps support me and baby x oh lady you have got it rough x BIG SMILES for your well behaved boys though :D x x
am still not accepting this baby at all <sigh> i dont want to feel like this but cant help it next step anti ds think it is the only way now
Hi ladies,
Firstly massive apologies like I start with everytime for not joining in. Believe it or not I do still come on everyday to keep up with everyone but I spose because I'm not even thinking of ttc I find it hard to know what to write as well as my horrific memory remembering who is doing what once I get to writing something. So sorry everyone but I'm still about and think of you all but ive been the worst cheerleader ever- more like super stalker :(
Huge congrats deaks and hugs to everyone who needs one as my heart goes out to you feeling so down. Those were lovely words that maybe wrote the other week and defo hit the nail on the head for me. My dad had the most amazing relationship with my nan and he visited her every week always once but often 2 or 3 times. We was always brought up to see her so often and that's how I hope to have for my boys. Compared to the relationship my mum has with her mum and a couple of my friends have with theirs i get by on the knowledge that not every mother and daughter relationship always work out the way we hope for. I am also extra lucky that my ds 2 loves bags, clothes, cooking, helping with the washing and cleaning, (makeup!!), peppy pig and generally most things I spose a girl would so I get to indulge my dream with him. Definitely not in any kind of position to even think about ttc anytime soon as things are strained again.
Wishing you massive amounts of luck for weds inglewood, amazing that they are so nearly here!! Cannot wait to see pics :)
Poor you maybe, you really are going through it. You are a stronger person than me as I'd have given up in a state of collapse by now. You are amazing!
Huge love to you Charlie xx
Hi to everyone else, hope you are all ok.
Xxxxxxxx
Lovely to hear from you 2monkeys!
I've been a bit bad at posting too recently, been away on a girly weekend, MUCH needed (first time I have been away on my own for 5 years!). Feel so knackered now so off to bed in a min but just wanted to catch up on all your posts.
Charlie- sorry you are still not feeling any better, what was the conclusion they got to last time when you went to see that consultant/ specialist? Will you get councelling? Anti D's really are not bad at all and if it can help you through a tough patch they are def worth a try. ((hugs)) hon :HH:
You too maybe- you so brave struggling on, at least you have a way forward now and it will definitely get easier when he gets seen to. Hang in there. I know how hard it was, it was like that with ds2 and I was literally counting the hours& days until the appointment. You have had a really tough time but it will only get better and easier from now on. Look forward to seeing you tomorrow!!
Love to the rest of you, I am keeping up with your posts and still feel I am in the loop even though I don't post much.
One of the girls I was away with (OLD friend) said 'oh no...I really wanted this to be your girl' etc etc when I told her this was a boy. It was a bit depressing that she couldn't see that this little baby is a blessing and boys are wonderful too. Girls are not the be-all and end-all and it is something I can't control. I wish she could have at least pretended to be happy for me....that's life, good to be able to moan to you about it at least :HH:
I have councilling/pyschotherapist once i get my appointment through a specialist mw coming to check on me, my fabulous doctor phoning me weekly and a consultant plus a specific HV set up after baby arrives GEEZ i know i am lucky to have all this support with ds3 i had nothing but my mood is not lifting like it did with him there are NO names i like and i just feel so detached from him/it - my doctor pushed for me to tell a few people but i cant i havnt told anyone other than my mum and BF and they are sworn to secrecy - am dreading giving birth and having to tell people he is a he
indigo - your weekend away must have been lovely but very strange too after so long x how are you doing now? So sorry your friend wasnt positive although you do sound positive which i hope is true x sometimes i dont think people think before they open their mouths and also if they havnt been where you are they will never quite understand how something meaningless to them means so much to you x sending you a huge hug
Babymad - you are always on my mind too i hope you are ok x pinga thinking of you how are you doing
Waves to everyone else x deaks enjoy your time away x Z - loved the boys room gorgeous white furniture we were thinking of putting all 3 in one room but I wouldnt have anywhere to store all the clothes and toys etc.......but it would have been a possibility if we had a girl dont have to worry about that now
lavender love the website x gorgeous hope you get lots of business x might order some bits when i have some moolah x not being paid at the mo as sick but dont earn enough for sick pay!!
another stress lol
Thanks Charlie! I was signed off sick with ds1 and managed to get stat sick pay but it was nothing compared to actual wages. I hate money stresses. I'm always in my overdraft I Just try and switch off really. Sorry to hear your still finding it hard to come to terms with this baby. Glad to hear about the wealth of support on hand though.
I'm oddly becoming more and more ok with having a boy as the time goes on. Epic fail on the diet front today. Well i did ok up until now. I'm eating midget gems. I just need to ease into it I think before I zone into eating pretty much nothing again. But have put on a good 6lb from eating normally so have weight to shed again.
Maybe your really having a hard time of it I hope you get your stitches seen to soon. My boobs always get huge when feeding I go from a B cup to an F!
Indigo sorry to hear about your friends reaction. For the record I do really like being a boy mum. I love the way they play together. And I like the collective of the 'boys' the 'kids' doesn't have the same ring to it.
Sunset IG as it's what I know and will eventually be able to slip back into the same eating habits .
Waves to two monkeys.
Lovely to hear from you monkeys! Sorry things aren't great ATM. My dh is being a trooper for a change. He is holding us together. Must be carma - has to weigh up his bad side (money) with being a decent bloke in all other respects. He is getting me through this feeding nightmare.
Charlie I really feel sad for you - for all of us. It's such a deep pain that people just don't get. Like ping said about her midwife maybe it never goes. Maybe it's the bottom line until you die. Which makes it a life sentence, and no one wants that. I do think that if you can find good things about all boys then just cling to that. I take the all boy comments as jokes and really notice the nice comments. I get five lovely comments for each bad one. Plus the bad ones are boy general. No one is saying how will cope with your three boys iykwim? If someone said to you that you was worth less than a man you would think what a idiot! You wouldn't think oh yes I am worthless would you? I know it hurts, tbh I think I will want a dd till I pop off, but at the same time I don't let stupid people upset me. There was a sport relife program on with Jon bishop did anyone see it? They had three boys. I said to dh that our boys would be young men like that one day. I looked over and the end where he finished the race dh was crying. Said hee was thinking of our boys at that age. It's not a baby, they will also grow into men to make us proud
Thinking of you inglewood! Good luck!!! Xxxx I bet there will be lots of cooing going on around for a long time to come!!!
Inglewood good luck for tomorrow xx
Charliespie sending you huge hugs Hun xx
Maybe hope it starts to get easier real soon xx
Hello to everyone else xxxx :heart: :)
Hi girls.....
Maybe ~ I hope things get easier soon Hun - BF is so tough, you are doing a great job!! I love John Bishop, went to see him live last year and have booked to see him again this year. It really made us laugh the stuff he was saying about his boys....and the thought of 'oh my god that will be us one day' when they are all grown up :)
2momkeys ~ Hi :) Sorry things aren't great for you, hope you are ok x
Indigo ~ Pleased you had a lovely week-end away, I had a spa day with a friend on Sunday and it was just what I needed. I get fed up with the comments too, I just say 'well I can't choose the sex can I' and that normally shuts them up! When I tell people I am very certain this is a boy its normally a conversation stopper! No one says 'oh that's nice' they just don't day anything or anything nice anyway!....... It's hurts as that's my baby they are dismissing! I hate the pity more than anything.
Lots of hugs to you xx
Charlie ~ I think of you too Hun, wish I could take our pain away I really do. I hate feeling the way I do and would do anything to change it all :(
It's great that you are getting so much support, how did you go about requesting it? I hope we manage to find peace at some point in our lives xx
Inglewood ~ Soooooo excited! Can't wait to hear your news, will be thinking of you, hope all goes well x
I'm doing ok - cant really explain how fed up of being pg I am, everyday is such a drag, emotionally and physically. I long for this baby to arrive soooo much! I know nothing will get better until he is here and things can't get much worse so I desperately need this pg to end so I can start to move forward. If one more person says I am massive I will knock them out!!
Ok better go to bed before I rant all night!
Oh babymad I hated being pg towards the end but I miss it now :-/ no pleasing me!
Hi all, my last post before bed and the twins arrival!! Had a hectic day but nice meal with the boys and Dh. Cot up, house 99% ready, so just to go to bed now, hopefully sleep, up at 6am, to be there at 0730am. Nervous, excited, worrying, not about twins but section, esp spinal part!!
Dh will post pics on Fb if he remembers how to do it, if not I will try from his phone in hosp.
Take care lovely ladies and will be in touch asap!! My boobs are lumpy and sore today...a sign???? lol
Thanks for all ur kind wishes. xx
Oh Inglewood!!!!! im soooooooooooooo happy for you! just had to come on here and wish you the best of luck! I will definately be stalking fb tomorrow!! enjoy you last night of quietness haha. Big hugs huni!!! x x x
Good luck inglewood!!!!!!!!!!!!! In no time at all your gonna be a girl mummy! Very excited for you! :)
Can't wait to see them! :)
thinking of you inglewood!!! cant wait to see pictures!
Babymad - i have a history with the mental health services so I suppose I am probably a red flag anyway, I was on an EDU 3 months before i got pregnant with ds1 and then suffered with PND and eating issues again afterwards. I think they reason they have pulled out the stops this time is I went to a consultant appointment just after finding out the sex, i thought it was due to high risk pregnancies before but it was infact for PND - anyway I just broke down and told the consultant I sobbed and told her I didnt want my baby (horrendous as it sounds) she then put in place the MW and pyschotherapist x my doctor is also highly aware i am slightly crazy ;) the b12 doesnt help though as it affects you mentally too so I was hoping the injections would make a significant difference but as of yet I just am feeling less faint - which is good but mentally no better. I have an appointment today with the consultant and have finally been told I am allowed anti d's so fx she can prescribe them if not back to doctor for them. Even DH wants me to take them which he NEVER does so I must be a right bitch right now! If there is anyone you can approach I would do it - they seem to have a hidden network if you can tap into it! So sorry you are still struggling physically and mentally :( i hope the holidays dont wear you out too much am about to walk the boys somewhere or they will be clmibing the walls - got to find the energy to do it first!! MUch love hun
Inglewood they could be arriving now or V soon at least!!!
Ok why did I think Wednesday?? Huge good luck to you inglewood for today!! You will in no time be a SMO2G :)
Babymad and Charlie I bet the time must be dragging awfully just to add to the pain. Great you have that support Charlie, at least if it keeps you afloat for the time being its a help. Hope you both have a nice Easter hols with your boys and at least that will be another half a month done. Do you have an understanding midwife/ doc that you could talk to Babymad? I do think if I was in your shoes I would probably struggle to talk to anyone and be keeping all my feelings bottled up. I have told no one just how strong my desire for a dd is as I find it really embarrassing and just have said the most important thing is health which generally shuts them up as they wouldn't disagree unless they were desperate themselves for a desired gender.
So glad you are getting the support from your dh maybe, definitely makes a difference. When they do do something good like that it defo does wonders for your relationship as you see them in a new light. Hope you have a good day today.
Lavender, I do like calling mine 'the boys' too weirdly. As much as I get envious of people with a boy and a girl I do also think I am just as lucky that mine will have that special relationship that the same sex have that a bro and sis dont. My grandad was one of 8 brothers and my mum used to say that no one would mess with them when they grew up and they were all so close. I don't wish for a second that my ds had have been a girl (except for the pressure to have one now) but I really pray my last one is although the chances of any pregnancy in my current situation is probably 0% with not much chance of improvement. Who knows what the future will bring..
So glad you had a brill girly time indigo. Definitely good for the soul!
Sunset, have you finished Mockingjay yet? I whizzed through the first 2 but since my bday I've come to an abrupt halt as my iPad has abducted my brain :(
Love to everyone else and I hope you have a good day xxx
Oh wow - Good luck Inglewood!! I'm not going to be able to see the news until next week as we're going away...
Charlie - huge hugs... I'm so sorry you're feeling so very awful. I'm really glad you're being looked after... and hopefully it will help a little. Keep hanging in there... and vent away here. We all get what you're saying and we won't judge!!!
Babymad - oh dear - sounds like you're pretty fed up... You're getting closer now. Not too much longer and you'll be able to hold your beautiful little baby and you'll hopefully feel much brighter and at peace...
Maybe - hope things are getting easier with the BFing... and the stitches are sorted out! Sounds awful!!!!
To those of us feeling sad - I hope that this isn't a sadness we carry with us for the rest of our lives. I want to feel complete and content with my boys. They are gorgeous little fellas and I feel blessed to have them. I'm sure we will find a kind of peace but I think we'll also always feel that we missed something.
Anyways - As its the Easter hols DH, the boys and I are going to Sydney to stay with my sister, her DH and baby girl. I don't feel jealous around her baby as she had a horrendous and ever so long journey to get her little miracle. DS1 is pretty excited about going on a plane! And has asked if we can see pirates and go to the zoo!?!
Oh I know some of you are on FB and I meant to say just PM me if you want to friend me... :D
Have a lovely easter and see you in a week x
Oh Charlie that's poo! But so glad you have a fantastic support network. I had pnd with ds2 and told no one as mental health issues are so hard for others to understand. I got through it totally alone. It felt like I was a pit I couldn't climb out of. I thought I would never get better but in the end I did. I feel great this time - maybe the sun helps. Keep talking. We all understand here x
Congrates inglewood - you must be a mummy of four by now! Xxxx
yes came on to see if update as not on fb x probably too busy enjoying their beautiful girls
How did your app go? Sounds like you have a great team supporting you - it makes such a change that help is available when it is needed. I hope the anti-d's help xxQuote:
Originally Posted by charlieispy
To be honest I am not good at asking for help. I've always had to be 'strong' from a young age so it's in my nature to get on with it - not always the best option I know! I have been diagnosed with depression previously by my GP but I refused anti-depressants. The health visitors have picked up on it when I have had app's with the boys asked me the fill out the usual questionnaires but I'm never 100% honest as I can't deal with feeling like a failure if I say I'm not coping. Im hoping my depression will ease after baby is born - I always have awful depression in pg and feel immediately myself again once baby arrives - strange really!! Obviously the GD will still be there but I know will be able to deal better with it when I am myself again. Luckily I have always bonded immediately with my boys so I'm not scared of rejecting the baby even though I don't feel any bond as yet - I am very ready to meet my little man - I'm just not ready to accept my future as a mum of all boys!
Do you feel better when you have spoken to the therapists about your GD? Can you talk to your DH/ family too?
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Originally Posted by 2monkeyboys
Thanks Hun xx
I am not close to my MW at all - this is the first pg I have had her so no previous relationship and I wouldn't feel comfortable talking to her. I'm like you, hardly anyone knows about how deep rooted my desire for a girl is and I don't tell people how I'm feeling. So I do bottle it up and take it out on my DH mostly which is not something I'm proud of but I am trying my hardest to deal with it better - I'm not good when pg in the best of situations so I know my DH and my boys long for this baby to arrive just as much as me so they can have their mummy back!
Would you like to ttc in the future if things improve?
Inglewood ~ hope all went ok and you are having lots cuddles with your baby girls....have been thinking of you xx We need pics!!
Pinga ~ have a lovely time in Sydney x
Hope everyone is having a good week. Hoping to bake Easter cakes tomorrow with the boys :)
Evening all,
Keep looking for updates on these little girls! So exciting :)
Babymad, I totally feel exactly the same as you and know if my last chance of a girl was a boy I would spend the whole time with inner turmoil without revealing it. My dp doesn't emotionally support me at the best of times so he would be no help. Tbh I think he is desperate for a girl too and he has even said about high tech but I'm not prepared to even go there as things are pretty rubbish between us. I know he would definitely like a daughter but I get the feeling he thinks it will change me into a different more happier person. For the fact that he even said that he thought that having a daughter would make us, although another boy would put more strain on us and poss break us i thought are you for real!! No way on earth I'm going to consider bringing another baby into our relationship. To be totally honest I feel we are only together because of the boys although neither of us have said it. We struggle with the most basic of communication and I feel i get through my life on my own. Family is so important to both of us I think that is what is keeping us trudging on. I'd love for it to all work out and go back to how we were a few years ago but I'm slowly giving up hope every time another attempt at even a normal conversation ends with bad feeling. It feels more when, rather than if, we will give up altogether :( So sad but I'm at a loss what to do.
Charlie, you really sound like you have been to hell and back hunny xx Not sure if you were on other forums during your previous pregnancies but hope the fact that you can talk openly without any comebacks or judgements help you too.
Xxxxxx
2monkeys sorry to hear that. It's hard to be a partner when you have kids some times. Me and dh have very few deep conversations. Partly as too busy, tierd etc. Partly because we are on different planets. He lives for a laugh were I worry and plan. We have always been like that. But when I had dave he was great and spoke for me when I was vulnerable which shows he does listen some times! I hope you turn a corner soon.
Babymad I can't ask for help either. I see it as sign of failure. I hate to fail. Had a bad time at work when I went back after ds2 was born. Think I had a mini break down. Thing is no one was concerned for me even then, I hid it so well. Told dh when dave was born to take me to the docs if I showed signs of depression as I would never take myself. But I know I should! I think if people see you can function that's enough. I hope you do bounce back after baby is born. I need to post your clothes out after Easter too x
Hi ladies :) perhaps it's time to start an april thread? is anyone up for the job?
Inglewood ~ i'm thinking of you! i hope the girls arrived safely and that you're enjoying lots of baby cuddles and not feeling too sleep deprived ;)
2monkeys ~ i'm so sorry to hear your relationship is still on the rocks.. :( i dont really know what to say other than we might only live once so it's very important you think of your own happiness and well being.. you dont want to look back at your life now in the future and have regrets. have you been 110% honest with your dh about your feelings?
I havent finished mockingjay yet no. like you i flew through the first 2 but i had a bad headache last night and the night before that i was too tired to read so i think i'm probably gonna finish reading it tonight :) it's sounds silly but i think i put it off a bit because i'll be sad to see it end.. it's not often i come across books that i can hardly put down :p
charlieispy ~ glad to hear that you get the help you need! hopefully the anti d's will help you get back on track. please keep up posted!!
babymad ~ i'm like you, i don't ask for help as i would feel like a failure if i did.. ridiculous really as there is absolutely no shame in needing help.
maybebaby ~ how are you feeling today? hows the breastfeeding going? any improvement yet?
oh and i'm in the middle of potty training ds2. Only just started the other day and although i've done it once before with ds1 i feel completely clueless.. has anyone got any good potty training tips for me? it's different this time because with ds1 i simply locked us in the house for 4 days and let him run around naked until he learned to sit on the potty when he felt the need for a wee, but i cant do that with ds2 because ds1 and ds2 would get far too bored sitting in the house all day so we still need to get on with our normal routines and i find it very hard to fit in the potty training in a normal day... :S so any tips would be very appreciated!!
Yesterdays appointment was a total waste of time consultant not there and doctor RUBBISH so will have to call my doctor tomorrow x Depression is a hard one as it can go un-noticed for a long time and unless you have been there i dont think people understand or know what to look for. I suppose for me with my previous illnesses physically it was obvious and now people 'know' about that it is harder to hide - I mean from DH he is the only one who knows about how bad iam now and my doctor - because my illness basically broke us before and it was literally we try one last time or we walk away here and now I am aware that I dont think he would stay - i was very bad after ds1 and again our relationship almost broke down and they nearly took my baby - I am just so very thankful for my babies as they are my everything and I know without a doubt getting pregnant saved my life and my life with DH. So my DS1 will always be my saviour my miracle baby that a) should/could never have happened and b) made his mummy and daddy turn themselves around. It is hard to admit being depressed but if you ladies do ever struggle even sometimes going and venting to a doctor or even on a forum can help. My BF lives 2 hrs away and has suffered on and off too we often VENT to help us clear our heads - it doesnt mend it but it helps x I suppose as well recognising you are depressed is a major thing and coping mechanisms. For me art and crafts/ baking helps me I am currently making the baby a blanket it is a lot of hours of stitching and sewing but in my head it is my way of bonding with my baby and showing him how special he will be - i did the same with ds1 and ds3 alot of knitting happened! DS2 mentally i was very happy but he was a long time coming!! Anyway sorry for the ramble just please dont be alone if you are suffering
sunset - potty training its a toughy! DS1 potty trained at 2 but with a few accidents like you we stayed in. ds2 showed signs of being early wanting to use toilet etc but didnt seem to physically be able to go until a bit later and in the end was 2.5 but NO accidents ever! With him I left him naked at home with a potty out for a couple of weeks, progressing to pants....once he was dry at home - we then ventured out but i think leaving it till he was older and totally ready helped. Now saying that ds3 is now potty trained! No real doing of my own other than letting him use the toilet when he asked, havnt bothered with a potty as he never used one. He suddenly was asking to go so I did the same naked at home and he was dry straight away - pants took about a day to realise he still had to ask once he grasped that i bit the bullet and went out in pants! Believe me pooping myself the whole time but he has been amazing! Even at groups. He has had a few accidents at home in the evenings when tired but he is even dry most nights too. I would go with the naked no nappies at home first see how he does then progress to pants and going out x GOOD LUCK x
2monkeys - i just wanted to say huge huge hugs to you x i am so sorry your relationship is still no better, would you consider councilling?? Would DH. You sound so sad I just want to hug you x life is hard even when you are getting along most of the time and all relationships have ups and downs but it sounds like you have been trying to sort things and its still no better. I definitely agree with you on the baby making or breaking thing - i wouldnt have another unless your relationship is strong - geez this baby was planned at a time we were and still are relatively strong and it has pushed us to the limits at times. Can anyone have the boys whilst you guys talk things through??? Huge hugs x x
Inglewood - am gagging for pics ;) congrats on the safe arrival :D