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Oh ((hugs)) foxy it's just crap isn't it? I still feel that way all the time despite being crazy-in-love with my almost 13 mo ds3. :(

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I've decided to stop ttc. Dh doesn't want to call it a day on baby making 100%, he says give it a few years and see how I feel with ds4 is getting bigger and not a baby any more.
But right now I'm doing good. I don't think that the "it would have been nice to have a girl" feeling will ever completely go but I do feel like I don't need one any more. I stayed at a friends over New Years, she has 2 girls and at no point did I feel jealous or sad.
I'm not sure I could go through GD again but who knows where I'll be in a year or 2. Right now though I'm ready to move on to the next stage of parenting and happy with my boys.
I came away from my yearly lunch with my mum at Christmas feeling like it didn't matter what gender they are, I just want a better relationship than that and when I'm old that's what will matter, not the dresses and hair clips and pink.
I was so scared that I'd regret saying no more, and I know that for the time being the chance is still there and it's only been a few weeks since I started thinking about stopping but as these few weeks have passed I've felt happier and more sure of my decision so I hope that continues. And I know if I change my mind down the line I have the option of swaying too. I'm only 28 so there's time.


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Sweet mummy your inbox us full again ;)


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Defo dream of pink my ds2 is almost 2 now and I'm loving every moment with him and ds1 but it's a constant nagging at the back of my mind!

Mother of boys I'm really pleased that you are happy with your decision! And I agree you're still so young you've plenty of time to change your mind if you decide to! I'm glad you're in a happy place and at that point where you're not feeling jealous anymore that's wonderful!
I agree with the mother/child relationship. I think we get so hung up about mother daughter as that's what other people drum into us but actually as you say just longs you always have that wonderful relationship with your boys that you have now then pink dresses and bows don't matter! I hope DH and I will ttc one more. DH is twoing and throwing so much it actually makes me feel really crap! But if we do have a third and it's another ds I hope I can be 100% content with that. I know I'll love him no matter what of course I just hope that I'll be able to close that chapter in my life you know? Sorry I'm rambling lol

Ha ha I'm a rambler too so don't worry. I hope that everyone gets their dream gender but if they don't I hope they find peace with it. Another baby one day would be fabulous and I hope that if/when that time comes I can sway but keep a positive attitude.
I know I'll probably have a few ups and downs along the way though.
And I think it makes more sense financially to stop now but who knows what the future brings.
I've been jealous of my friends mother daughter relationships but as times gone on I've noticed how many women don't have that relationship with their mothers, but men who do.


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Yes I agree, people,e were always so quick to point out the saying 'a daughter is a daughter for life, a son is a son until he takes a wife' a builder we had in said this to me last year and so I asked him how often he and his sister visit their mum. Well guess what he visited his mum every weekend and has her round for Xmas and his sister has moved away and rarely sees her mum but it chat to on the phone! He hadn't thought of it like that just relating some trope he'd heard somewhere! True that's not always the case but think it's personality that it boils down to at the end of the day!
I have 2 sisters and one brother, I'm defo closer to my mum than all of them I think although my brother lives the closest and relies on my mum a lot but he is very much closer to my mum than my 2 sisters. Both live further away so just shows you don't even need to have a relationship that was close growing up, girls (and boys) still move away. It depends on who they meet etc and I've seen your boys on FB and you can tell how much they love their mumma! They will be super close to you!
Hope that's making sense of what I'm trying to say lol

I do think that it's all a combination of personality and how you raise them. After all no 2 are the same and you can push them all away yet 1 will stay close or you can reach for out and try to keep them close and 1 will push away from you anyway.


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I must admit though, I am a little scared about when all these babies start arriving. Someone I only know through Facebook has a girl after 3 boys today and there's still that little 'that could have been me' feeling. I expect that's normal and I'll still get that now and then until it's too late to change my mind.
We've decided to start saving for a holiday abroad. Something we've never had as a family and I've actually never had at all.
It's going to take about 2/3 years to save enough for 6 passports, the holiday cost plus enough spending money for 6 people. So that's something to concentrate on. Hoping I can find another project to take my attention away when I do inevitably dip.

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I am new here and just read your posts. I wanted to add that my mother in law has four boys and she is an amazing mother to them and they are really close to her. We chose to live close to her so she could see our boys a lot. I think you are absolutely right when you say it is about the relationship. My husband and his brothers are really close to her. The other thing that I have learnt from her is that when you have boys it is important to keep your own friendships up so you have people to do the girlie things with! Xxxxxx


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Thanks for that. Has she ever spoken about whether she was that bothered about only having boys and how she feels now? I know it's not the sort of thing I could speak to my mother in law about if she'd had all boys, but you seem closer to yours just for her to have offered you the advice to keep up friendships.
It's nice to know that you really can be that close and I'm not just kidding myself lol


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Any uk ladies can recommend a good but inexpensive fibre supplement please. I have no idea which to get,and can't really afford to pay a lot

I don't know how good it is but I got a jar of olive leaf extract from amazon. Dh never used it, it's still unopened. And I just checked the date as I was going to offer to send it to you for the cost of postage but it apparently went out of date last month so it's in the bin now


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Oh that's a shame

Sorry I meant fibre supplement. I put OLE first then edited it to fibre.I forgot I Got OLE today I need some fibre supplements.

Oh I see. I must have read as you were editing. Never mind then


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Would these work:

Life Plan Fibre Tablets - 100 tablets - Boots

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Atomic would these be Ok? Mulberry smurf. Thanks so much for the link. If atomic confirms there Ok I will get those.Thanks :D

Hopefully atomic will reply :) maybe send her a pm if you dont hear in a couple of days? xx

Mmm not sure now.just read the reviews e.t.c. on amazon and there apparently for weight loss and to make u feel Fuller during meal time. I just wanted extra fibre to stop me getting constipated

if they help you lose weight would that not be a good thing for a pink sway? xx

I've seen chitosan mentioned on here a few times. They sell it on amazon for about £11 I think. That's the one I'm planning on using when I start my sway

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Hi everyone, how are you all doing?

Hi Mob! Just saying hi back :) Can't believe it is the 1st March already...was just Christmas!!!

Hi MOB - your inbox is full xx

Haha I'll go clear it out lol
New series of one born tomorrow!

Hi MOB how are you!?! Omg i am so looking forward to OBEM tomorrow!! Will need to try and keep my broodiness in check though! lol

Me too! I'm waiting to start the pill so all over the place. I thought I was going to be starting it today as I had spotting and cramps yesterday but nothing today so far. I can't help but hope at times that a little girly will just appear in there 'by accident' so it's taken out of my hands and I don't have to wait lol how are you doing?

Lol yes I know what you mean! To just fall pregnant and it be a girl and all the stress and worry of trying is taken out of our control! That would be lovely! Sooo glad you're back! When are thinking of trying? I hadn't given bc pills a thought.....mmm wonder if I should for swaying? I'm going to purchase a personalised plan over the next couple of days with my birthday money so I'll ask atomic then. I don't think well start trying till early next year but need to get the plan while I have the money and then hoping I'll be so used to dote and exercise it'll just be the norm for me by then. Omg I'm sooo into meat at the moment though, I can't get enough if steaks! So eating a few at the moment to satisfy my urges now as won't be eating that much meat for awhile! Lol!
Ah I'm so delighted to see you back!

Well I took my first pill this morning. I'm hoping to maybe start the diet and exercise in the summer, probably July and then stop the pill in September/October time. Of course things can change between then and now. I've been so bad eating. I figure I might as well eat what I want now while I can.

Hi ladies, I've been awol for a long time. I found myself getting a little obsessed so took a step back. We have had to push ttc #3 back several times now but hoping that talking to women in the same mindframe as me will help how I'm feeling. I bought a personalised plan when I first joined but my subscription expired. Any idea how I can access that info again or would I need to buy a new sway plan when we plan on TTC? Had a dream last night I was pg with a baby girl, couldn't help waking up disappointed :(

Bless you! Welcome back! Not sure on personlised plan but I'm sure if you DM NBP or AS they'll help you. I am going to purchse my plan in the next couple of days I am so excited and looking forward to getting started! We won't TTC until early next year but it gives me time to get into the groove!
MOB I am the same eating what I love! I have noticed though that since I have been on this website and started the diet last time I have stopped snacking so hoping that will help. I also drink more wine too! But that could be due to having 2 kids not the website! lol! No but seriously I never used to drink at home but now I enjoy a glass of wine once the kids are in bed, not every night but probably averaging every other night! I'm hoping that'll help my sway when the time comes!

Hi hopper welcome back and good luck with your sway :) I hope it all goes to plan for you this time.
Your personalized plan is yours to keep :) you lose your swaying support after 6 months but can purchase another 6 months if you would like to.
If you pm nuthinbutpink she will be able to help you find your personalized plan :)

Thanks ladies. I figured out the renewal for the support eventually lol. I will definitely buy it closer to sway time. Have spent the whole evening looking at posts on TTC pink and consulting due date calculators to see if we could manage to TTC sooner than anticipated. We are in the process of buying a house and its taking over every spare cent plus I have been asked to be maid of honour at my best friends wedding next September (2016) and with this much notice I could hardly be heavily pregnant at her wedding. I can feel the obsession begin again lol. It is just crazy that complete and utter broodiness can take over so easily.
Note to self - block access to Chinese gender predictors and due date calculators!! Haha.

all my pregnant friends are due their girls over the next few weeks. and another has announced shes pregnant with number 5 after 4 boys. its going to be a girl i just know it. I had to delete the ones i don't know that well from facebook. but one is my oldest friend she was posting about where to have baby today, and the other is ds3s friends mum and she was posting pics of the freshly decorated nursery today. I am so so jealous and heart broken. I've never been able to do a nursery let alone a pink one. we lived with MIL when ds1 was born and then moved to this house, where we are not allowed to paint the walls they are all white wood chip paper, and can't decorate anything so never been able to prepare anything like that.
i went to asda yesterday all the girls clothes and baby girls everywhere put me in an awful mood for the rest of the day and the whole of today.

Aw hun i feel it so much for you. It hurst so much seeing everyone else getting what they desire! I think you've done the right thing by deleting off not so close people as you need to focus on yourself and your feelings. Someone I know is due soon with their DD and it's so hard seeing all the pics of beautiful clothes etc. Think of it this way if your friend does have a DD after 4 DS's that doesn't lessen your chace of getting her, in fact if anything it just proves it can absolutley happen for you as well! Especially with this wonderful website! Thank goodness we have this place to come and vent too! ((((hugs))))

it makes me feel like the odds are against me, we can't both get girls after 4 boys. i don't feel so bad when its people on places like this, but people who haven't even swayed just makes me feel rubbish.
The big 3 boys had a massive fight tonight. They have been bickering endlessly all week from the moment they get up to walking into their classes at school then as soon as they come out of school to the minute they are asleep. They haven't been able to be in a room alone together, theres had to be one of us there or they've started arguing or winding each other up and that. And tonight it just came to a head. Its been a long long time since any of them had a proper fight with each other. The odd hit now and then but not like that. I feel utterly hopeless right now, about everything. And GD is just another thing thats making it all seem worse.
Sorry, theres very little places where I can vent this kind of stuff.
How are you doing anyway?

That's what we are here for for you to vent as much as you need! I think it is so hard with the kids as they do get wound up, especially this time of year they are starting to get tired and ready for their 2 week Easter break! Know what you mean about people not swaying, why do they get it so easy and yet here we are having to struggle to get what we want. I think FB is the worst place as really makes you feel worse! I keep seeing everyone getting the DG they want and then getting it move house so easily! Right now the house move is proving to be nothing but a pain in the backside and causing us nothing but stress. Why do others just order their beautiful house and their pigeon pair and get it!?!? I'm feeling it with you today 100%!! :(

it does seem so unfair. i'm still waiting to move. i'm admin on a mummy group on facebook and i've nearly given up a couple of times because i just can not take it when people have girls, or even post scan pics and people guess girl (with no nub) or people say "i bet its a girl if you're being that sick" and i want to scream.

Oh mob I hope you are ok. I completely get what you mean about FB, it drives me nuts. A friend PMed me randomly on FB during the week to tell me she is having her first girl in June. I logged off the minute I saw it, it was just the straw that broke the camel's back :( I can't help how I feel at the minute but I hate feeling this way. Ttc can't come fast enough but on the other hand I am 100% terrified to sway and not get my DG. Of course I will love a third son if that is what's meant to be but I couldn't go on feeling like this forever and almost begrudging others their happiness! It's not who I am at all!!!