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Wow Threemen, I've heard more stories about girls actually being boys but not heard so many about boys actually being girls.
Did she get some good gender shots from her scans do you know?

I've pretty much got my head around this one being a boy and I know from my u/s that it is at least 99% certain it is a boy but people keep on saying to me 'oh you never know!, Techs have got it wrong from that hospital before!'. I just wish I had a potty shot as the tech never looked at the potty area at all, she just took the gender from the profile shot and I don't know if that is more or less reliable?
I'm sure though even if the labia were badly swollen they wouldn't stick out as far as they do on my scan pics.

Will be interesting to see if any of us have opposites when it comes to D day - fingers firmly crossed that it isn't anyone that has been told their DG who gets an opposite. xxx

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I've been having trouble sleeping, partly because that's when this LO decides its time to wake up, and partly because I've been fighting cold symptoms since the middle of December :/ I can't wait to be able to sleep again!

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I know I am hoping and praying this lo is a good baby and sleeps well for me so I can catch up - think I may be kidding myself though lol!! ;)

I've got a horrid sore throat at the moment which isn't helping either.

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Originally Posted by suregena

Alexander Tsiaras: The Beautiful and Efficient Anatomy of Pregnancy

Very cool.

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Thanks for sharing! :)
wOw.. I won't experience this miracle again. I can't believe I am done, and that makes me very sad! If we only all had a ton of money and could keep going if we really wanted to!

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Wow Threemen, I've heard more stories about girls actually being boys but not heard so many about boys actually being girls.
Did she get some good gender shots from her scans do you know?

I've pretty much got my head around this one being a boy and I know from my u/s that it is at least 99% certain it is a boy but people keep on saying to me 'oh you never know!, Techs have got it wrong from that hospital before!'. I just wish I had a potty shot as the tech never looked at the potty area at all, she just took the gender from the profile shot and I don't know if that is more or less reliable?
I'm sure though even if the labia were badly swollen they wouldn't stick out as far as they do on my scan pics.

Will be interesting to see if any of us have opposites when it comes to D day - fingers firmly crossed that it isn't anyone that has been told their DG who gets an opposite. xxx

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I was totally nervous for my anatomy scan for that reason... but still a girl in there... er, supposedly! After a paid for private scan and a girl confirmed on my NHS scan yesterday, I would hope from two sources they got it right! I remember being nervous with my son, though, too. Not because of not being happy with the other sex, but mainly when you "know" you start to fixate and picture that person in your head!

I'd like to think the gender mistakes don't happen as often as they do. But I have a friend I used to work with and he was told they were having a boy with their first AND second DD. They were a little bit more prepared the second time they had a girl. His wife kept saying there's no way this is a boy, I know it's another girl. Then baby number 3 was really a boy and they were in total denial for a while.

My little "girl" (I hope!!) still isn't moving around as much as I remember my boys. There are days I have to run and get the Doppler to make sure I get a hb. I'm trying not to be such a hypochondriac, but its hard not to worry. Funny thing is when I listen to her hb sometimes she'll finally start moving. Little stinker!!

Yep I wouldn't worry Brandles, I think it is highly unlikely any of us have been told the wrong gender. Particularly as lots of people have had several scans and even 3d scans.

The movement I get this time is often weird, I've put it down to having an anterior placenta as I go from hardly anything to suddenly loads and it feels more like a ripple or something with kicks here and there. With my first two I can remember it was pretty easy to tell which were kicks and which were punches but I can't really tell the difference this time.

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I know I am hoping and praying this lo is a good baby and sleeps well for me so I can catch up - think I may be kidding myself though lol!! ;)

I've got a horrid sore throat at the moment which isn't helping either.

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Lol we can only hope they'll be good sleepers ;) hope you feel better soon!

I doubt that I would end up with an opposite, but like I've said before, I think I would feel really weird about it at first since like Suregena said, I've already pictured who HE will be. But for some reason, I still have a strange feeling. I don't know what it is. I'm not sure if its because I really thought it was a girl, or maybe because I had a boy name picked that hubby agreed to until the day we found out, but I just can't give him a name yet. I know what I would like to use, but I cannot bring myself to call him anything but 'the baby'. I feel like I really have no GD now, so I'm not sure what's holding me back! It's just a strange feeling I have...

Omg now I'm even more freaked out, I've had two scans confirming girl but as much as I've prepared for 'her' I just can't beleive she will come out a girl....iam so worried was even thinking of another scan I can't imagine how I would feel if she turned out to be a he :(

I'm sure you have nothing to worry about, homebirthing! Wow, you are due so soon!!!

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Originally Posted by ThreeMenAndALAdy

Not to feed anybody's worry, but a good friend of mine just had a baby 3 weeks ago. She already has a dd, and was told she was having a boy this time. She's had 2 u/s her whole pregnancy, and out popped another little girl. I've only heard stories of someone who knows someone who had a gender mistake. This is the first person I know very well that had this experience.

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Wow......I've 'heard' these stories, but have never actually known someone in real life.
I always thought that that boys can be mistaken for girls, but not girls mistaken for boys.
I've seen ultrasounds labeled 'boy' that turn out to be a girl, but never the other way round

Does anyone know what it actually is that would cause the error? Is it when there is an anatomical error? Or is it because swollen labia and clitoris can look like penis and scrotum?

I know I lady I work with was told she was having a daughter, went out and bought all pink clothes etc. Out came a boy.

Need some TMI help please.

I'm very constipated, I haven't been able to go for 5 days now :(
I've been fairly constipated for a while now, I can only go every 3 days.
I've tried all the usuals, high fibre, prunes, nothing helps. When I do finally manage to go its painful :(
I've stopped the vitamins as well because I thought it may be the iron, but that's not been any help either.

Today I even went to the pharmacy for enama, and that did nothing either.

Should I see a dr? Could this cause any problems? Or should I just wait till my body is ready?

A huge one hun is cutting back dairy. Reduce heavily or completely eliminate (sorry for the pun). Try eating some pureed fruit and veggies. When my toddler gets a bit constipated I mash pumpkin or apple or banana and feed him and he comes right. Also try lots of water and even water or dilute your juices, or other drinks you consume. Hope this helps.

I have gone 5 days as well. I just try to at something to upset my bowels a bit, haha. I am currently in the 3 day boat and my tailbone issues always hurt worse because of it. It's normal for sure and I tend not to worry. If it goes more than a week I would call a doc though or if you become extremely uncomfortable before then.

Lassie this page has some great tips, Relief For Constipation In Pregancy i am in the same boat unfortunatly, its funny but not but i did a big one a few weeks back where i am sure i tore something inside and it was bleeding, now everytime i go it hurts so much, i dont really want to tell my doc, its embarrassing im just dealing with it :(

I do love my dairy violet, so i will cut it out. I've been having lower back pains as well (I normally don't) hadn't linked it to the constipation, maybe that explains it.

Cinns that sounds ouch :( I know what you mean about being embarrassed, when I went to the pharmacy today I was kinda whispering to the pharmacist, and look down in shame, and then he walks me over to the medications and gives me the enama, talking loudly, being ever so helpful and giving me instructions, asking me very specific questions, and then hands me some other tablets to take daily, being very descriptive with what the tablets do. There he was talking about anus, bowels, stools, straining and haemorrhoids, like other people would talk about their dinner plans, whilst I'm stood there red faced and wishing the ground would swallow me up whole :(

Poor you lassie the joys of pregnancy!
Have you tried boiled water with brown sugar it works wonders when my boys have been constipated. Xx

Oh Lassie I totally feel for you :( I had it baaad with DS1 & DS2 - both of them I was having to take iron for but this baby Im not having to take iron and Im ok in the poopies department so far (touch wood) I had to resort to an enema for DS2 as I was frightened I was going to push him out with my next poo lol I really dont know what works, nothing really did for me unfortunately :( I hope the no dairy helps, I didnt try that one.

Im scared of the whole wrong gender thing. Ive only had the 12 week and then the anatomy where they said girl (my Ob has had a look on her scan too but her ultrasound machine isnt as good as the other place) I also only had the profile shot as the confirmation shot of a girl but rummaged through my dvd to find the potty shots which I believe look pink. I will get my Ob to check again before my due date I'm sure lol

You have my sympathies Lassie, I've had it on and off too. I've found making sure I'm drinking plenty helps along with increasing fresh fruit, I've been told bananas can make it worse but can't remember why! Dates worked quite well with me too.

I used to use malt extract with the boys when they were babies, adding about a quarter tspn to their warm milk and that worked really well. Not tried it myself yet though.

If you don't get anywhere in the next day or so I would go to your GP, they should be able to give you something that helps.

Bimby - I'm sure you've got your little daughter in there try not to worry. I've pretty much accepted that I'm def having a boy this time its just other people that keep saying to me 'Oh they make mistakes you know'! and 'Didn't you see a potty shot, of well it def could be a girl!'. Doing my head in tbh!! I know there is always a tiny chance that the u/s is wrong, the picture got distorted or it was something else in the way etc etc but I think these days the chances are so tiny that it is pretty definite that what the tech says is right.

Do you get any more scans before you're due? x

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Lol we can only hope they'll be good sleepers ;) hope you feel better soon!

I doubt that I would end up with an opposite, but like I've said before, I think I would feel really weird about it at first since like Suregena said, I've already pictured who HE will be. But for some reason, I still have a strange feeling. I don't know what it is. I'm not sure if its because I really thought it was a girl, or maybe because I had a boy name picked that hubby agreed to until the day we found out, but I just can't give him a name yet. I know what I would like to use, but I cannot bring myself to call him anything but 'the baby'. I feel like I really have no GD now, so I'm not sure what's holding me back! It's just a strange feeling I have...

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I'm the same, we have a name picked out for him but I feel really odd using it when talking about "the bump" and I don't know why. He just gets referred to as "the baby" and my ds2 still keeps insisting it is a girl!! I think for me it is probably just getting my head around it, I always imagined I would have two boys and a girl and I think when we were ttc as I was swaying and saw the odds of having 3 of the same gender were less likely than having a mixture I probably convinced myself more than I realised that this one would be a girl.

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Need some TMI help please.

I'm very constipated, I haven't been able to go for 5 days now :(
I've been fairly constipated for a while now, I can only go every 3 days.
I've tried all the usuals, high fibre, prunes, nothing helps. When I do finally manage to go its painful :(
I've stopped the vitamins as well because I thought it may be the iron, but that's not been any help either.

Today I even went to the pharmacy for enama, and that did nothing either.

Should I see a dr? Could this cause any problems? Or should I just wait till my body is ready?

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Have you tried prune juice? That worked for me everytime.. stuff is so nasty but it works.. and then there is milk of magnesia you could ask your doc about too..

I hope you get relief soon! Xx

I swear by blueberries. My pediatrician told me to give them to the kids when they have trouble going. I too am constipated often, and eat them to help me.

Eating dehydrated apples makes me REALLY go... haha...

Thanks for all those suggestions girls.
They are all on my shopping list :)

I'm sure that's the same reason for me, mummypink!
Oh gosh, I tried taking milk of magnesia a couple of months ago, and almost threw up. I couldn't handle the taste in my mouth, so most of it got spit down the drain lol. I've had issues with constipation too. I've found that drinking like twice as much water as usual helped me a lot. I, too, had one that was so big and painful in my first pregnancy that I seriously thought I ripped something. I can still remember it to this day, and I was sitting in the bathroom crying the whole time. It was awful. I hope you feel better soon!

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I'm the same, we have a name picked out for him but I feel really odd using it when talking about "the bump" and I don't know why. He just gets referred to as "the baby" and my ds2 still keeps insisting it is a girl!! I think for me it is probably just getting my head around it, I always imagined I would have two boys and a girl and I think when we were ttc as I was swaying and saw the odds of having 3 of the same gender were less likely than having a mixture I probably convinced myself more than I realised that this one would be a girl.

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My DS2 keeps saying it's a girl too. Even though he's soooo happy it's a boy. He's 3 though....so I'm not analyzing what he says. We have a name picked out too- but I never ever call my babies by their name until they are born. I just feel weird. Not superstitious, just weird. So I always refer to them as 'the baby' or whatever silly nickname they have acquired.

I always pictured 2 boys and a girl as well. I never wanted more than 1 girl. And I also looked at the statistics. Now I can't picture this baby being a girl - and I'm just throwing myself into being the best, most awesome freaking boy mom. Ever.

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Bimby - I'm sure you've got your little daughter in there try not to worry. I've pretty much accepted that I'm def having a boy this time its just other people that keep saying to me 'Oh they make mistakes you know'! and 'Didn't you see a potty shot, of well it def could be a girl!'. Doing my head in tbh!! I know there is always a tiny chance that the u/s is wrong, the picture got distorted or it was something else in the way etc etc but I think these days the chances are so tiny that it is pretty definite that what the tech says is right.

Do you get any more scans before you're due? x

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My MIL keeps saying stories about wrong gender too, she's doing my head in, she has been really odd this time around and I've had to bite my tongue on many occasions.. She's recently changed her insults from gender to the size of my bump. I am fully aware of how big my bump is but I dont need my MIL telling random strangers about how big I am and how long Ive got to go right in front of me and also talking to her friend on her mobile right next to me about how Ive had a scan and they didnt mention twins so seems to be just one massive one.. (sorry rant over lol)

My Ob has a machine in her office so they will probably be the only ones being done before birth. She did one the other day and she pointed out the lines of a girl so that was good. xx

MIL's... they make everything awkward!

My mil makes everything awkward too, she is terrible with that. She is even still fighting about ds1 and his autism, she just refuses to believe it and thinks I make it all up and lied to the docs or something to get the diagnosis! Ugh.

You girls talking about your MILs is making me sad that one day my future DILs will talk the same way about me :(. I hope I won't be crazy.

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My MIL keeps saying stories about wrong gender too, she's doing my head in, she has been really odd this time around and I've had to bite my tongue on many occasions.. She's recently changed her insults from gender to the size of my bump. I am fully aware of how big my bump is but I dont need my MIL telling random strangers about how big I am and how long Ive got to go right in front of me and also talking to her friend on her mobile right next to me about how Ive had a scan and they didnt mention twins so seems to be just one massive one.. (sorry rant over lol)

My Ob has a machine in her office so they will probably be the only ones being done before birth. She did one the other day and she pointed out the lines of a girl so that was good. xx

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Oh ignore her stories! Back in her day, yes there probably was a lot of 'mistaken genders'
And hey, it happens these days as well, but seriously take a look at all the ultrasound shot which have been incorrectly guessed, most of them are unclear, small, and very ambiguous, I've seen your shots and they are clear as day, focused, and most definitely girl (but I know it's still frustrating to hear stories)

Oh Jark, I can assure you my MIL is really odd and Im sure you are normal and I know your DIL's will love you to pieces!! My friends have some wonderful MIL's that they absolutely adore but there are always a few oddballs. My SIL loves my mum and they have even bought a house close to my mums holiday home to spend holidays with her so there's a positive spin on things xx

Lassie, thanks hun, I know in my heart the scan is right, I just get annoyed at her comments as even though I shouldnt I allow the doubt to creep back in xx

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You girls talking about your MILs is making me sad that one day my future DILs will talk the same way about me :(. I hope I won't be crazy.

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I'm sure you won't be a crazy MIL!!
They aren't all nuts - mine isn't :)
She's a sweet old lady, tells you the same story 50 times, but is so sweet and full of love.
She is rather traditional and old school, so loves receiving letters, and always tells me how much she looks forward to the 10 page letters I write her every couple of months. It's really just boring stuff about our day to day lives and the animals, the plants, the weather, waffle really - but she says it makes her feel like she is here with us.
She is in the uk, but is already planning her trip to see her latest grandchild, she will be staying for 6-8 weeks, and despite being 78 she is so hands on and helpful, I looking forward to her coming, she is really 'easy' company, and know already that I'll be shedding a tear or two when its time for her to return to the uk.

So this afternoon I have had
- half a punnet of blueberries
- half a packet of dried apples
- 500 ml of prune juice
- a serving of Metamucil
- stool softening tablets
Along with my usual daily serves of fruit, and green leafy veg.
Oh and I've had an EXTRA big long walk, was at it for over and hour and it was 33 degrees here so I certainly felt it.

Wish me luck.

It's starting to feel really horrid, I feel so heavy and full....it's hard to describe :(

Oh and I used another enama and nothing happened - am I like the only person in the world they don't work for?!

Perhaps try suppositories? I used them once for DS1 when I weaned him from breast to bottle and he got bound up. You just wet them with a little water and slip them right in. Perhaps go to the chemist and ask for some.

Lassie I have a feeling you will get some toilet action soon after all that lol! If nothing happens in 24hrs I would go and see your GP hun.

On the MIL note mine is a complete pain too, always stirring things, telling lies and coming out with comments that I could do without. Over Christmas she was telling me how adorable my niece (her grand daughter) is, and saying 'oh she just comes out with the sweetest things, girls are just totally different from boys aren't they. No frilly knickers for you though!'. I know I won't turn out like her because I have experienced first hand how horrible it is, so I will do my best to get on well with any DILs I have in the future. It does make me sad though knowing that I will most probably always be a second choice as typically you are always closer to your mum than your mil. xx

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You girls talking about your MILs is making me sad that one day my future DILs will talk the same way about me :(. I hope I won't be crazy.

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Well... if it makes you feel better. My mom is AWESOME. And her daughter in laws/my sister in laws (my two older brother's wives) consider her more mom than their biological moms. :)

So, don't worry!

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So this afternoon I have had
- half a punnet of blueberries
- half a packet of dried apples
- 500 ml of prune juice
- a serving of Metamucil
- stool softening tablets
Along with my usual daily serves of fruit, and green leafy veg.
Oh and I've had an EXTRA big long walk, was at it for over and hour and it was 33 degrees here so I certainly felt it.

Wish me luck.

It's starting to feel really horrid, I feel so heavy and full....it's hard to describe :(

Oh and I used another enama and nothing happened - am I like the only person in the world they don't work for?!

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If you don't have the most epic poo after that, I don't know what else you could possibly be suggested besides going to the doctor!

The apples alone just make me crazy... they're sooo good but I really have to limit them. I learned the hard way when I ate 150g worth (which is who knows how many actual whole apples... probably a lot, though) and that night my insides were like, "Get ye to toilet stat!"

My enema seemed to work pretty quick so if you dont have your "epic poo" as suregena says lol then maybe see your GP and perhaps they can suggest a different one to try. I really feel for you though, I was dreading that the most about being pregnant again, thank goodness Im ok this time but I have been there with both boys and it sucks! Maybe hold off on the iron (if you're ok to do so) for a little longer to see if that does help eventually as Im sure that is why Im ok this time xx

Oh the joys of a mother in law!! Both my sister and I have horrible mother in laws. My mother in law used to make little snarky comments to me about breastfeeding and parenting. My sisters mil purposely leaves her out and caters to the other dil (she only has boys). My mil has two boys and a daughter who will never get married or have kids so you'd think she'd treat her dil's with love, etc. I don't get it sometimes. I will never be like that with my sons wives.

There's tons more to our history, but can you believe I'm "thinking" about allowing my mil in the delivery room? I thought this would be a great opportunity to get closer since her daughter will never have any children and this baby will be her last grandchild and shes never been in the room. My husbands brother didn't even let his mom know when his wife was delivering. they called everyone hours later. I have the best mom in the world and I really don't need my mil, but thought it would be a nice gesture as long as she stays by my head!!!!! Lol!!!

Sorry if I'm rambling, but the topic of my mil strikes a cord with me.