So I've managed to finally go, a little bit, so I'm just gonna have to make do with that for now, I'm keep up the Metamucil and prune juice..
Thanks girls for the advice!
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So I've managed to finally go, a little bit, so I'm just gonna have to make do with that for now, I'm keep up the Metamucil and prune juice..
Thanks girls for the advice!
Luckily my mil hardly speaks English and I hardly speak French so other than hearing about how crappy a mom she is from my husband, she's fab;)
Sometimes I'm sad I'm not close to his side as I'm a real family person.. But they have so much drama that I really think I'm better off!!
Wow Brandles absolutely no way I'd let my mil anywhere near me when I'm labour!! I wouldn't even really want my mum there tbh. Living abroad has its advantages in that respect, I get to rest up in hospital with only hubby and the boys to visit me until I come home and allow visitors. :)
Take a hot bath. Give it time... I'm sure the rest will follow! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Lassie1982
Take a hot bath. Give it time... I'm sure the rest will follow! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Lassie1982
Seriously... MIL anywhere near me before/during/after, forget about it. That would be horrible. I was kind of feeling awkward about my husband's insistance that she come over to see our son when I was 2 days postpartum. I had my mom there and I was like... that was all that counted to me. Hahaha, I am SO horrible!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by mummypink
My MIL lives about 15 mins from us, she didnt come to visit after we had DD, i actually just ran into her at the supermarket when DD was about 3 months old and they met for the first time there. I dont even know if she knows we are expecting again. She couldn't care less.
Wow Cinss, that is ad :-(. I thought mine was bad. They never call or anything. Dhs dad was in the hospital and we didn't even know. I have had mil purposely avoid me and even walk away mid conversation once in a store. They will come see the baby when he is born but they are not excited or happy about it.
Oh wow these stories are sad :( My MIL is crazy but she is a big part of our lives. She takes our boys out almost every weekend (I dont totally love that idea but it is nice for them to spend time with their Nana) My DH gets angry with her a lot but he loves her a lot too. Brandles I think it is a really sweet gesture, one I was contemplating (albeit very very briefly lol) I guess its totally up to you hun. Im have a C/S this time and I certainly wont be choosing anyone but my DH to be there but good on you for being so kind hearted - I bet your MIL would be thrilled!
I have a question.. Are you guys getting the whooping cough vaccine after baby is here?? Are you asking others around you ie: Nanna's, husbands etc to get it before your due date?? I never contemplated getting it last time but this time I am thinking about it.. My mum is an ambo driver so she is happy to have it if I want her too as she thinks she probably should anyway and my DH is totally fine with it. I said yes to having it after bubs arrives as they do it free in hospital straight after I believe. I know for a fact my sister and her young son (4) wont have it. She is totally vaccine free but it worries me that her and her son will want to visit after baby but they have had no vaccines at all... She'd flip if I mentioned I didnt want her and her son visiitng my baby before the 2 month mark.. What are your thoughts?
Oh and a big happy poo dance for you Lassie :) x
Glad you were able to go, Lassie.
I feel for those of you with in law issues. (((hugs))) DH made the decision to cut ties with them. Not for lack of trying to get along but there is only so much you can do in dealing with toxic individuals. I feel bad in a way for my kids but I know we're all better off in the long run.
I didn't know much about the whooping cough vaccine until all the tv commercials started coming on. I've asked my regular OB about them and he said it was up to me when I could receive it. Either right after delivery or come in on my own.. I'm getting it right after the baby is born.
I'm getting my vaccine after birth :-)
What about asking others to get vax'd or restricting visits from unvax'd?? what are your thougts about that?? I just dont want to force people to do something but at the same time I need to protect my baby so is it rude to not allow my sister to visit because of this??
Mmm well you can't force people to get vax obviously. I will demand my husband does get his but as far as everyone else goes I will still let them visit as long as they are not ill. Whooping cough is becoming more common but it's hard to catch from just a carrier I think. The person would have to be coughing like crazy I would think to get it. My cousin had it and I spent the whole weekend with her and had to be tested but I did not get it.
My DH has agreed to get it and so has my mum - my MIL didnt say anything when I mentioned it and of course I could never force people to do something they didnt want to do, it is their body after all and it was something I was still a little uncomfortable about but the worry of catching it scared me more then the vax so that made my decision. I guess I worry more about my nephew being completely unvax'd and being a 4 y/o of course he doesnt have the same concerns about hygiene as an adult. My sister wants him to get natural immunity to all these bugs so wouldnt keep her child away if someone had the measles/mumps/whooping cough etc..I know this as she came and saw my boys with her LO when they caught chicken pox off Dh's shingles so he would get it. I guess my LO could get anything from anywhere but I just am extra worried, Im not sure if it's hormone related or the fact this is our last baby and Im just so scared of anything taking that away from us..
I'm getting my vaccine next week for whooping cough. They give you it now over here while your pg! X
Im not going to get the whooping cough one. My baby wont be exposed to too many visitors after he is born, just the same people DD was and she survived so im not too worried about it. I do vax for the other things though just not the flu.
In the uk they give you it after 28 weeks. I'm getting it around 30 weeks.
Having 2 kids already in school it's easy for them to contract it and pass it on to a new baby. Even though they've been vaccinated the strain which is causing problems can be quite resistant to the vaccine anyway but it will offer some protection.
I'd rather not take the risk.
I won't get the normal flu vax but with such devastating issues with newborns and wc I think I'll just get that one x
Bimby why won't you get the flu one just out of curiosity? I'm booked into have that one done next week too should I refuse to get it? X
I've heard of them offering the whopping cough vaccine in the UK but not here so far, tbh I'd need to research it properly before making a decision if it is offered.
When I had ds2 there was all the swine flu scare and I know of two people who had the vaccine while pregnant as recommended by their GP and one had a miscarriage and one has suffered from a problem effective her nervous system ever since. So I'm a bit wary of any vaccines during pregnancy.
I have no problems with all the standard jabs but things like the flu vaccines etc I don't really see as necessary unless you are elderly or have other health issues. x
I saw my doc yesterday and he was still pushing me to get the flu vaccine! It was SO annoying.. it's like.. leave me the hell alone, it's my body and my pregnancy!
I even decided not to mess with the GD test this time or get the rogam shot (Don't need it anyway due to blood types even though in the past I always got it)
We compromised..
He had me prick my finger to check my iron and my blood sugar anyway.. I was fine.
It's just SUPER annoying when they try to push you into doing something you aren't sure about or flat out don't want to do. I'm learning to be more assertive, but politely. :)
Go with your gut, that's what I say!
My local news has a story on the FLU like daily, and they are trying to scare people into getting vaccinated.. and that's more motivation for me to just keep sanitizing all the way around the shopping cart or our table and chairs and surrounding ours at a restaurant that has kept us well better than any shot! :)
When I got the shot in the past, and DH got the shot in the past we got really sick, and it was during pregnancy with DS#2. I won't go there again. It just all comes down to personal beliefs too.
I wouldn't get the whooping cough one either. If anyone you know is sick, just stay away from them and advise them to stay home from work and take care of themselves. And sanitize yourself and kids.. when you think it's needed! It works! :D
Another thing.. if someone sneezes or coughs in front of you.. don't walk through it.. and even hold your breath when you have to if you know germs could be in the air.
But anyway, I hope all you ladies can make the right decisions that make you feel good. It is your pregnancy and you don't have to listen to anyone about what THEY think is best!
What a pain he keeps pestering you about it!
With the wc one both my boys are already vaccinated as they get it age 2 over here along with diphtheria and tetanus, and hubby and I both had it as our standard childhood vaccinations too.
Could you ladies look at a pic I posted of a friend's 12 week u/s. Thank you!!! Hope all is well.
I've refused the flu vax and the wc vax I just really feel funny about this kind of thing when I'm pregnant , I have always refused when preg with ds2 there was the swine flu scare here aswel but I stuck to my guns and I was fine, I've heard of ppl having the jabs and then miscarried (possibly not linked I just don't wanna take the risk) but I'm not saying I think ppl who do vax are wrong its just my personal beliefs (im not a hippie either haha) at the end of the day your dammed if u do dammed if u don't....my boys have both been vaccinated for wc and so have me and dh, I will keep away from baby groups until she gets her jabs at 3mths and just make sure as butterfly said everyone keeps up with good hygiene :)
It is so hard to know what to do. I know when I was pregnant with ds1 who was due in January 2010 I got pushed a lot to have the swine flu vaccine. I refused and was given a very hard time but you had to sign a waiver at the time and it has been since found to have side effects so I still stand by that decision.
Here the list of vaccines that the children get here between between birth and 13 months. Both of mine have had them and most people do here:
At Birth - BCG - Bacille Calmette-Guerin (TB) vaccine
At 2 months - 6 in 1 - Diphtheria, Haemophilus influenzae B (Hib), Hepatitis B,
Pertussis (Whooping cough), Polio and Tetanus vaccine and
PCV Pneumococcal conjugate vaccine
At 4 months - 6 in 1 -Diphtheria, Haemophilus influenzae B (Hib), Hepatitis B,
Pertussis (Whooping cough), Polio and Tetanus vaccine and
Men C Meningococcal C vaccine
At 6 months - 6 in 1 - Diphtheria, Haemophilus influenzae B (Hib), Hepatitis B,
Pertussis (Whooping cough), Polio and Tetanus vaccine,
Men C Meningococcal C vaccine and PCV
Pneumococcal conjugate vaccine
At 12 months - MMR Measles, Mumps, Rubella vaccine and PCV
At 13 months - Men C and Hib Haemophilus influenzae B vaccine
I think because these are the standard vaccines here I never really though much about the baby being infected but if people were not vaccinated I probably would.
I do that when someone sneezes/coughs when we're out, I hold my breath and cover my mouth and nose with a scarf, my shirt, ect.
Other than DH and the kids, I would ask if they are planning to get the shot but that's all I can do. My family is usually reasonable about illness and up front about it if they're sick.
Here is the packaging leaflet for the WC vaccine if anyone is interested. Definitely talk to your doctor- because it says right on here that it is not recommended during pregnancy.
http://www.medicines.org.uk/emcmobil...cumentId=17377
I won't be getting the flu vaccine or the one for WC. The baby will be getting his vax at 2-3 months old- which will be in the middle of the summer.
I got the flu vax once after DS1 was born as I felt pushed by the Dr - never had the flu vax before and that year was the worst for me so I decided from then on Id never get the flu vax again (I was super pi**ed that I let her talk me into it as Id gone in with a clear view of not getting it) My kids wont get it either unless there was a really good reason to - I think it's mainly for the elderly and people with compromised immunity). The WC vax isnt given during pregnancy here, they give it to you after birth. They say you lose the immunity to the vaccine as you get older and that is why they are encouraging parents and grandparents to get reimmunized. I was hoping you could just get a blood test to test your immunity but that appears "too hard" I could trust my friends to not visit if they were sick but I dont know about my sister or MIL... My sister would probably think it would be good for my baby to be exposed to germs and my MIL would think of herself and her needs to see her grandaughter before thinking about the fact that she might be sick (I hope Im wrong of course!) I think I have become super paranoid this time, I never worried with my others so I dont know why I am now..
Ladies just bk from my midwife app, I'm abit worried apparently I'm measuring 39wks when I'm only 34 omg I'm scared this means baby is going to be huge! The midwife wasn't concerned just said if when I go in 2 wks time I'm measuring bigger then I have to have the gtt, has anyone else ever experienced this? If so how big were your babies? Xx
I know I measured bigger with my second- but I can't remember how many weeks bigger..... He was born a day shy of 39 weeks and he was 9 lbs 5 oz and 21 inches. If he had been born on his due date, he would have been at least 10 lbs - and I did not have GD.Quote:
Originally Posted by homebirthing princess
Why don't they just do an ultrasound to get a size measurement and to check your fluid?
Omg jark both my boys were 7.5lbs I can't have a 10pounder :omg:
They won't scan me as its the NHS so basically they don't wanna spend money..... Surely if it was GD I'd have symptoms but I'm perfectly fine xx
Maybe you have a lot of fluid hun I wouldn't worry They measure the size of your uterus don't they not actually the baby??
I've always measured to the week but on my last visit to the midwife I was measuring a week behind, my boys were 8pound 3oz, 8pound 4oz and 8pound 7oz. So not sure if the measurements have anything to do with the size of your baby as they told me with ds1 he would be 7 pounds ish.
Xx
I was thinking maybe its fluid, I just wonder sometimes because when I had my 3d scan she measured 1wk ahead then, I just feel so heavy and uncomfortable like I'm,about to pop its horrible! Midwife said she's still head down but facing out not a great position for birth and apparently I also have a hernia x
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Ahhhh, I'm worried about this, too. This girl is measuring so ahead of when I was pregnant with my boy... I was researching if it meant she was going to be massive (because I want to have a homebirth... and I'm 5ft, so even though technically 9lbs is normal, that number intimidates me when my son was only 6lbs, 12 oz) and during the anatomy scan, her stomach measurements was like 2 weeks ahead! Length was right on for gestation and head a little more. I was looking online today to see if I can slow it down... haha. I have been eating a LOT of sugar this pregnancy. I didn't eat nearly as much with my son... at all... but it's all I've been craving. Sugar sugar sugar sugar, so I bet that might be part of it. So I told myself I was going to stop eating sugar and start shifting to more whole foods the remainder of the pregnancy...
...then I got home 30 minutes ago and saw leftover birthday sponge the childminder made my son (his 3rd birthday was yesterday but we were both working so no celebrating...) and I ate almost all of it... there was like a big wedge.
Crap, I'm doomed! DOOMED!! I have a tape measurer and I'm going to measure my bump tonight (it hasn't been measured yet... I don't see the midwife until 28 weeks, though I'm worried I'm getting mild SPD symptoms so may call if they don't ease up. I'm hoping it's just from walking around in all this snow after not walking as much while over in the US.)
And my bump at 18 weeks this pregnancy looked like it did at 22 weeks my first pregnancy. :(
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That's me at 32 weeks with my son.
I SWEAR I look like that now... at 22 weeks! OMG! :(
Me too sweetie i feel so big I've put on so much weight it's unreal.Quote:
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My ds3 was back to back I didn't think it was anymore painful than my other two?!
A hernia are they going to do anything about it? Will it interfere with your birth etc? Xx
I had my gtt last Monday and all is fine,at midwife last tue I was 27 + 5 but measured 30 weeks,going back a week on tue and if I am still measuring 2 weeks ahead I need to have a growth scan,also on 21 week scan all measurements on baby all came out bigger than 21 weeks,argh worried now:.(Quote:
Originally Posted by homebirthing princess
Suregena I've been eating loads of sugary things too its so hard not to when that's all you fancy. But hay I am getting to the point when I don't really care it's the only time when your "aloud"
to be fat lol x x
I was told with ds2 he was going to be a big baby and that was from an ultrasound at 32 weeks. Scared the heck out of me as ds1 had only been about 7lb 4, ds2 was 10 days early and weighed just 7lb!
You may just have a lot of fluid so don't worry too much, the way I look at it as long as baby is healthy then you won't know the weight until after you've delivered so no point in stressing about it now. ;)
I've actually put on less this time than either of my previous pregnancies although my bump is measuring pretty much the same as it was with them at this stage. I think it is just because I was at my lightest pre pregnancy weight this time, and I was off food for longer at the start so I didn't gain as much. I still don't have much of an appetite now and struggle to eat normal size meals without feeling really uncomfortably full.
I also really don't want to have tons of weight to lose after the baby arrives, I felt so good about myself after I lost the weight on the LE diet so I really want to be back in my jeans and feeling like a yummy mummy again asap. I think it is maybe part of me dealing with not having a girl as I want to be able to wear nice things and be all girly again myself without feeling huge once the baby has been born. xx