Due in Mar/April/May 2015

Ooh , cuz I had like this once before my DD , it died at 6 weeks
And when I got pregnant with my DD they gave me aspirin

So I thought aspirin will help
Im so sorry ..

Eleena I am so so sorry what a horrible thing to go through, big hugs honey X
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I'm so sorry eleena! My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

So so sorry eleena. It's heartbreaking. I'm still scared to look at the screen straight away at scans. Take care xx

Thanks everyone.after the miscarriage is over I will have to think about when or if I want to TTC again but at the moment my head is saying no.x

Sorry to have to ask this but does know/think if the miscarriage will be easier the earlier the baby died? This one was 8 weeks they said.

I would imagine the miscarriage would be "easier" than if the baby had died at 12 but I don't think you can ever call a miscarriage "easy". They are rough no matter your gestation. I'm so very sorry.

Just doesn't seem real to me yet because I haven't actually miscarried.I kinda clicked a few seconds before she told me as I noticed baby wasn't moving and she said u look to be 8 weeks not 12 and I was like,that can't be right I know exactly when I conceived

I am so, so sorry Eleena :( It's crushing to hear that news. To be honest, the miscarriage likely won't be easy. Your uterus has continued to grow over the past four weeks (since you didn't miscarry, your body was clearly still producing hormones to sustain the pregnancy). At 12 weeks, you'll probably experience some cramping and a good deal of bleeding. You'll have clots and potentially will have what feels like milder contractions. It's different for everyone, but missed miscarriages are more difficult because they generally last longer in gestation (since they are missed). I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks (when baby passed) and after three weeks my body wasn't doing anything to try to end the pregnancy, so I ended up going for a D&C. My doc said that my uterus was rather large and it would have been fairly uncomfortable to miscarry naturally, if my body had permitted it. In a little surprised they didn't mention a D&C to you, only because it's been 4 weeks. But hopefully you get to do it how you want. (Sorry if that seems crass, I just wanted to let you know my experience and send my condolences). I'm again, so, so sorry for your loss :(

Eleena-- any miscarriage will be hard. Mine at almost 7 weeks lasted about 4 days with tons of back pain, early labor like contractions, and passing of clots. I spent several hours a day in the bath to help the pain (I'm a homebirther and both my boys were water births, so the water is where I felt most comfortable).

You can ask for Misoprostol (Cytotec) to jump start things if your body doesn't start bleeding on it's own. I had looked into this for my best friend who had a miscarriage at 12 weeks as well, and this is what I would have chosen over a D&C (which does have possible risks to future fertility). Maybe discuss all three choices with your doctor/midwife. I would also google "natural miscarriage experiences" and read other women's stories so you know what to expect. This helped me a bunch. So sorry you have to go through this. (((HUGS)))

I am so sorry Eleena. Very very sad news. I had a missed miscarriage but mine never even attempted to pass on its own so I had a d&c. My natural miscarriage i had was at 5.5 weeks and it just felt like a bad period but i was pretty early still. Like the other ladies said expect major cramping...bleeding...clots and probably contractions. Big hugs to you...take care of yourself.

They offered me d&c but I have never been under anesthetic and dont really want to that's why I prefer to wait.

But I also hate the not knowing and waiting for it to happen.x

Eleena - I second what essence mentioned about asking for the pill. That way you can avoid the OR (if that is your desire), but you can get things started rather than waiting. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Well. Just got back from my ultra sound. Sac was empty. Can't believe it. I am so frustrated. Sac measured 6wk 4 days. Dr wants to wait another week to be sure. Then she said if nothing had developed I could have a d&c or she could insert the pills(can't remember what she called it). Everything is kind of a blurr right now. Kind of hoping for a miracle. But I saw nothing in the sac. And I know when I ovulated, so my dates are not off.

I am glad my Dr took the time to see me today. She said if I started to bleed on my own she still wanted to ultra sound me next week. She said to expect lots of clots and cramping/contractions. I am not looking forward to it:,(

I am so glad my dh and I decided not to tell anyone we were pg. especially my boys.

Eleena, so sorry. You in my thoughts and prayers

I am so sorry QueenB :( Hugs to you

Omg...I'm soooo sorry to read ur update queenb. This is heartbreaking

sorry queenb.i can understand how u are feeling at the moment as i am waiting for my miscarriage to start too,im so scared.x

Oh queen bee honey I am so sorry lots of hugs your way X
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not to cause any offense to anyone at all but does anyone know is these miscarriages are anything to do with swaying? if the miscarriages are to do with poor egg or sperm quality surely thats got something to do with what we doing to our eggs and sperm when swaying?

I have wondered that same thing...

I am not going to lie, the same thing has crossed my mind. But I know I am just upset and want something to blame it on. There is something like 20% of all pregnancy end in miscarriage. I think it just seems like we swayers miscarriage a lot because there is a lot of us. You never know this many ladies in real life pg at the same time. Heck, No one knows IRL I am even pg(or loosing one) now.

Grrrr, I keep having this glimmer of hope that since my uterus is usually tilted that this baby was just hiding and next week the little bean will appear. Fat chance. I know.

Ladies i do believe there is a higher rate of miscarriage for pink sways. I thought i read it on the site somewhere. I don't know if my sways caused my losses but i do know i had zero fertility issues and period issues before swaying and now i have the worst periods ever and cant seem to carry a baby so either the change is coincidental or the sway was too hard on my body. Either way...no more swaying for me...just in case.

My own body reacted terribly to swaying. That's why I stopped swaying aggressively & looked after my own health. I must admit I have felt a great deal of confidence in the health of my pregnancy because of how well I was looking after myself. Even though I know my chances of a girl are pretty much zip.

Think mine will happen tonight or tomorrow as I have light bleeding now.just seems so unfair that this has to happen to us and probably just like any other woman,the thought never even crossed my mind that it could happen to me

I am sorry again eleena :( My mc took about two weeks from start to finish. It was a helpless, horrible feeling knowing what was going on with my body and little one. :( I wish you peace during this time and Hugs to you!

In my country there's a lot of poverty.. And women who are clearly starved go on to have perfectly healthy babies...so could it be the sudden change in our 'environment'??? Because even on LE our diet is plenty healthy

Good point odd. I wonder how much of it is to do with us adjusting to lower nutrition, rather than it being "too low" per se.

Well its 4.09 am and I can't get back to sleep wondering what's going on with my body.I has very slight blood loss around 7 hours ago,and now nothing.

Yeah i think it is more the change in the state of our body...it is essentially a shock to the system. Impoverished women are used to low nutrition and their body makes due for a pregnancy if it sticks. In my case going from high calorie and high fat diet to low fat and low calories with intense exercise...that is a bug change.

Eleena i hope you can get some rest. It is terrifying to not know what is happening, i know.

I don't know if it is the swaying, but when I had my mc (before the birth of my first DD) I was 7 weeks and nobody knows about it, besides my DH.
I think IRL a lot of women don't announce pregnancies before 8 weeks, so if a mc occurs noone really knows about it.
Here is a site full of women either TTC or pregnant that find out if they are pregnant even before AF is due.
A lot of pregnancies are miscarried at 4-5w and we don't even find out if we don't test, but consider them delayed AF.
After I had my mc I and my DH had a full blood test check, out of our pocket, becuase I wanted to see if there was a health factor that caused this mc. My OB at that time did not approve of the blood tests cause I was young, without health problems and so was my DH, so we did them at a private lab (and they were quite costy).
The tests resulted that I had a clot disorder and that could be blamed for my mc.
What I want to say is that there are many reasons for a mc, including just luck, if it was the diet everybody swaying a DD would have had miscarriages.

Just chiming in to say that whenever I have been on a TTC specific forum we have always had about 1 in 6 end in miscarriage :( If you aren't TTC and watching your cycle I think some early miscarriages just aren't noticed. I'm so sorry for all of you dealing with this right now. :(

I think it might up the mc rates, swaying.

But here I'm one of the few women I know whom has never had one. It happens a lot.
I was scared for one cause I hear it so much.

I want to wish you gals strength

QueenB I am so sorry to hear. I will keep you in my thoughts.

I do remember reading once about the higher rate if Mc particularly in girl swayers, but I don't remember where now and I don't understand it fully.

I have a baby shower to go to today.

*sigh*

Last. Thing. I. Want. To. Do.

Don't go honey, say you have a tummy bug and you will pop over one on one and give her the shower gift at another time Xx
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I agree QueenB, don't go. Too emotional. I would never want someone coming to my baby shower if they were hurting & it was going to cause them pain.