Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

I love ladybugs, from my research the chamces of the baby having downs from one isolated soft marker are very remote. I should expect even more remote than the 3% you were given. That number was probably based on babies with downs who had the kidney issue BUT in all likelihood had a multitude of other markers!! It's horrid having the sickening worry. As parents the only thing that truly matters is that our children are happy and healthy. To consider they won't be is not something we allow ourselves which is why we feel the freedom to think about gender etc... I'm sure your little girl will be fine. Thinking of you! Ps for peace of mind, though it does cost a small fortune in the Uk, there is always the Harmony test.

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Originally Posted by Tree

I love ladybugs, from my research the chamces of the baby having downs from one isolated soft marker are very remote. I should expect even more remote than the 3% you were given. That number was probably based on babies with downs who had the kidney issue BUT in all likelihood had a multitude of other markers!! It's horrid having the sickening worry. As parents the only thing that truly matters is that our children are happy and healthy. To consider they won't be is not something we allow ourselves which is why we feel the freedom to think about gender etc... I'm sure your little girl will be fine. Thinking of you! Ps for peace of mind, though it does cost a small fortune in the Uk, there is always the Harmony test.

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How are you holding up? Are you doing the Harmony test? It is $800 here..different name, but opting out as it doesn't change the outcome. I will know a little later than sooner, but I love this baby all the same. I need to be home to hold my other two a little closer!! 500 miles is far away...and 2 days feels like forever!! Lol, I realize how great the odds are for a healthy baby born in Dec. and need to look at that.

Ah Bug! I can't imagine how mixed you are feeling, everything crossed for her xxxx

Bugs: I feel like taking your back sac, giving you an energy bar and walking up that hill with you! You will get there and all will be fine;)
Rainbow: I am totally with you, am going to speak w midwife.
Afm: told my mom and grandparents, they are happy, no bump, no kicking due to my placenta being in front.

Ladybugs - So sorry that you aren't leaving this appointment with perfect peace in your heart. It must be so scary to hear that your sweet baby has medical issues...sounds to me, however, that the issues are fixable (or are livable). That is wonderful news! I'm so sorry about the concern about a chromosomal abnormality...but like someone else said, the chances are OVERWHELMING that she has perfect chromosomes! Try to rest in that. Prayer is a miracle worker, too...will continue to do so for your little ladybug. I am so happy to hear that she's a she! Congrats! (And BIG HUGS for all you are going through right now!)

Mathilde - Yeah, considering bringing it up to my doc, but thinking I'll wait till I hear gender for sure. My placenta is anterior, too. Bummer! It was with DS2 as well, and I really didn't feel strong movement till 18 weeks. Not excited about that this time either. :( Glad your parents are happy! Mine will find out when we get our MaterniT21 results next week. When is your anatomy scan?

Iloveladybugs massive congratulations on your girl. we are all concerned for you and hoping that everything turns out OK but as someone else said, lets not forget your fantastic ladybug is pink!

I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Like the other ladies have said, 97% is a very high chance of no chromosomal abnormality. Doctors like to cover themselves just in case and 3% sounds like this sort of situation. Fingers and everything else crossed for you.

Myrainbowgirl, i know exactly what you mean! Are we all totally bonkers trying for another child when our existing ones drive us up the wall? Probably! School holiday are the worst - i know as i have had school holidays is a new country where we know almost nobody, there are very few things to do and most if the boys' toys are still being shipped. See how you feel when September comes and if you are still feeling down i would seek advice if I were you. There is no stigma to depression and you are being a good mum by keeping on top of it.

As for feeling guilty about counting down the days - don't! I would have had a tally tattooed on my arm to keep me sane if i wasn't worried about the needles here:) Last year some of the mums at my sons school had a girls night out to celebrate the end if the summer holidays so it Isn't just you it is truly world wide. We all love our kids but sometimes we need a break and they need structure and stimulation that is hard to do for months at a time at home.

Ladybugs, big hugs!! I'm sorry you didn't get all the news you wanted but 3% really is small, 97% is great odds! I know u are aware of this but please keep your chin up!
Congratulations on your little lady, what wonderful news! X

Rainbow girl, I'm sorry you are having a bad time! Your not the only one counting down days of the school holidays, I have friends doing the same! Please don't feel bad for it, we all need our space sometimes. I didn't send DS1 to nursery yesterday afternoon as he was poorly and I was disappointed as the afternoons he is at nursery it's like my respite, I can nap with DS2 etc doesn't make us bad mums only human!

Ladybug, I am sorry the appointment didn't give you complete peace of mind and I fully understand your remaining concerns, but your little girl's kidney/bladder issues sound fixable and as for the 3%...

I agree with the other girls, I am a glass half full rather than empty type of person and a 97% chance of all being well is a very good chance. Just try to think of that at times when things get on top of you.

Of course I cannot not congratulate you on your little ladybug. I am sure she will be perfect in every way. I have finally updated the 1st post. Now, we have one :ttcgirl: in December, I bet we will get one in January too, which can really only be Emily. ;)

In other news: Looking forward to the next week and a half as OH is off work and we'll go away for a bit.

Also, have felt the baby move around a lot last night. It's such a great feeling. It automatically makes you smile, but no-one other than you knows why. Not that anyone was still awake at 1am. :)

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Originally Posted by I Love Ladybugs

How are you holding up? Are you doing the Harmony test? It is $800 here..different name, but opting out as it doesn't change the outcome. I will know a little later than sooner, but I love this baby all the same. I need to be home to hold my other two a little closer!! 500 miles is far away...and 2 days feels like forever!! Lol, I realize how great the odds are for a healthy baby born in Dec. and need to look at that.

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If we could afford it we would do it. Our little girl has a mild echogenic bowel which is also a soft marker for downs. It can also be an indicator or cystic fibrosis or a virus, but I've been tested for those and the results were good. I was told as an isolated marker not to worry, but like yourself find it pretty hard not to. Most of the time I am fine but then the fear creeps in and gets the better of me. Apparently I can take some comfort from the fact it's mild, and there has been some suggestion that it could be the result of the baby swallowing blood. I had a tiny bit of spotting very early on... I personally think it was too long ago to be that. Unless there was another bleed I didn't know about. As odd as it sounds I hope that's the case as its harmless to the baby. Providing of course the bleeding was insignificant. Rather frustratingly there isn't much on people's experience with echogenic bowels. But in my research I stumbled across kidneys many times and the outcomes were overwhelmingly good.