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Mommyof3boys, I think most of us have felt that way. Don't beat yourself up for it, it's tough to see others getting the gender we're so desperate for, so easily.
LO123, good luck with your scan tomorrow-I hope you get some great pics even though it'll be too early to nubsess over them. Enjoy!
I was watching it too. I really felt for that woman who had her 5th son, and the partner was saying no more as they were unlikely to ever get a girl and he didn't want to keep having sons just in case they hit the jackpotQuote:
Originally Posted by Mrs_P
mummyof3boys....totally understand what you are feeling. I feel the same here every time I hear of friends getting girls...I just keep thinking why am I the one who gets all the boys?! I never in my life thought I would be a mom of only boys.
LO123....best of luck hope all goes well! Looking forward to hearing how it goes! I had a scan at 9 weeks 6 days and was convinced I saw a forked nub pointing upward indicating boy....but apparently at that stage it is too early too tell....still it has stuck with me!
Ah girls, I'm feeling very sad today. A friend of mine and I were pregnant together, I'm 15 weeks now and she was 18 weeks yesterday when she lost her baby. They couldn't find a heartbeat and she had to deliver last night :( So awful. I don't know what to say to her and my growing bump will only feel like I'm rubbing salt in her wounds. What if she's never able to be around my baby because it will be painful for her to think "my baby should be here too...he'd be the same age as Jadis' baby". I wish I could say that her devestating news is enough for me to no longer care whether or not mine is a girl or boy, but that's not completely true. Sure, I feel incredibly lucky to be pregnant with what, at this point, looks like a healthy baby...but I'm still crossing my fingers for a girl. Does that make me a terrible person? Should this tragedy have been enough of a slap in the face for me to give up any preference at all? I'm going to be terrified at my 18 week scan now. I want to see a heartbeat, especially because I'm not feeling any of baby's movements.
Sorry you are going through the lost of a close friend's baby. That poor woman. Every pregnant woman's worse nightmare and fear come true.
No, don't feel guilty for still having a gender preference. I'm sure at the end of the day a healthy baby is your first desire but it's only natural to want a girl after a couple of boys.
Yes, I think it may be hard for your friend for a while as your baby will remind her of the baby she lost but all you can do is be there for her and let her cry when she needs to.
Hi Ladies, just got back from my first scan. So happy to see little baby and really strong HB. My ob was really happy and said all looks great. I feel so much better now knowing all is going well. Has put my dates back a bit but I don't mind. Put me at 9w3ds, I thought I was a couple more days along. I couldn't help myself and did try and look at the nub but a few people have said it is too early. Heidith, I think you said that, is that correct? I wasn't going to obsess over the nub but can't help myself now. I was just looking at some nub shots and wow one lady had all girl guesses and it ended up being a boy. I don't think I could cope with that. Anyway for today I am very happy my baby is doing well and does look so cute already to me.....
Jadis, that is just awful for your friend, you think by that stage all is good. I often feel after finding out I had a low supply of eggs left I would be just so happy to be pregnant and gender shouldn't matter but it still does. We can't help the way we feel and it doesn't mean the health of the baby is not the most important, of course it is, but we can still wish for our girls....
LO123 I saw that lady and it freaks me out because I too recvd all girl guesses on here and on babycenter an u/s tech said she would also guess a girl. I just keep saying that it is called a "guess" for a reason. Nubs can be very misleading especially if it is too early or a bad angle :-/Quote:
Originally Posted by LO123
Praying we both get our girls!
Oh, Jadis, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I can relate, I have a very good friend who had a baby with anencephaly (the baby had no skull and was missing most of the brain), in August, and she lived for only 10 minutes. My friend has a little boy a couple of months older than my ds3. While I can honestly say it made me appreciate having healthy children 1000x more, it didn't completely erase my gd. But I am sure my friend would have gladly taken a healthy boy over a little girl she had to bury. :( So I try to remember, we never know what the alternatives were. What if the alternative to me having a healthy baby boy is a very sick baby girl? I would take the boy, no doubt. But still, the gd lingers. So don't feel bad, you can't help your feelings.
DS had the flu the last 3 days, he's better but now I have it :( just hoping I don't get fevers like he had. I don't have good luck with sickness this pregnancy!