Due in January, February & March 2019

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Originally Posted by Cassidy4

I never did test with a FRER, my SO forgot to pick them up. I did get a dark positive this morning though on the Wondfro so I feel a bit better now :) this weekend I started feeling a bit more nauseous too, as well as heightened sense of smell.

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That's great Cassidy!!! Sounds like things are going well so far!!

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Originally Posted by Pbn3

Gosh that bugs me when people think they have the answers... I wouldn't tell her until you know gender. Also you are not ungrateful for your boys!! That sounds like what people say to try and guilt you into feeling you should be thankful for what you have. Well of course you are thankful!!!!! Doesn't mean you're not allowed to dream and hope for more!! "At least you have your boys, think of the people that cant have kids" was said to me by my mum after my losses which pissed me off no end at the time. I know she meant well and was not sure what to say but people need to understand that sometimes when you don't know what to say it probably means you should say nothing at all lol. So hope away kittendreams! We know you love and are grateful for what you have and completely understand your hopes and dreams of adding some pink to your cherished family [emoji173]

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That's why we are not telling anyone I'm pregnant until we know the gender- I'm not strong enough to bear the judgement this time.

Thank you again Pbn you are such a gem xxx

I am so anxious guys. I can't keep obsessing over that 2 day delay in growth, and also that I'm supposed to wean off prednisone at 10 weeks (which would be this Thursday). I did research and found way too many women for my comfort level that lost babies after weaning :(
And it's frustrating, because I don't HAVE anything diagnosed for the pred. It was just a "kitchen sink" approach. And I'm on a low enough dose that supposedly I'm not even getting the benefits!! So I feel trapped if I do, trapped if I don't!

DH wasn't helpful when I expressed my anxiety and just snapped at me for "worrying about nothing and everything is fine, you heard the midwife." Worrying about nothing?? From the guy who was telling me not to get attached to most of the last 8 pregnancies!
I think I'm also just anxious because he's about to be out of town for almost 2 weeks, which he does often -- but hasn't during this pregnancy. And he just told me apparently a bunch of his family are coming home during the summer, so my plans of just avoiding people and not mentioning the pregnancy until we're way passed viability seem to be disappearing... but part of me is also so frustrated and sad that I can't just have a happy announcement when they're all here. I feel like just thinking about it is jinxing it!

I'm sorry TP as I have no ideas on how to deal with the stress and uncertainty other than take it day by day (which is so unhelpful I know [emoji17]) We never told anyone until after my 12w scan & nipt results (which I cant believe costs so much where you are [emoji50][emoji50][emoji50], I thought $500'ish I paid was expensive!) except for my mum who guessed. I asked her not to talk about it as I measured behind on my dating scan and in my mind the heart rate was too low and I was pretty sure it wouldn't end well. She respected my wishes thankfully. I just wish you could all be in the 2nd trimester already with your 12w scans behind you showing bub is thriving!!!! I know that is still not 100% but it is better than the 50% or less you're all feeling now....

TP I really don't know how to deal either, but I'll tell you what my DH keeps telling me (because obviously I'm very anxious as well!): It's natural to be stressed with everything you've gone through, but the level of fear and stress you have is also not good for you or the baby. Maybe try to shift your some of your focus from being stressed about if things are OK to trying to be more relaxed because being relaxed will be GOOD for baby - it's what the baby needs right now. De-stressing, taking care of yourself, distraction, etc. will probably do as much or more good for you and the baby as the Prednisone! Please don't take this as me lecturing you (which I would have NO right to do b/c I feel like a complete nut right now and need calming down all the time!). Mentally, I'm telling myself all these same things but I understand it's easier to talk to yourself and tell yourself what you SHOULD be doing than to actually do it! :)

I was worried about my blood test all day today but I went out and spent time with my kids at the museum and it really helped get my mind off things (at least until I got home and started obsessing about the nurse's phone call LOL!). But it was actually quite nice to have several hours of really not even thinking much about the pregnancy or the betas or anything - so I guess that'll be one of my strategies moving forward: DISTRACT DISTRACT DISTRACT! :) :)

I think if you feel like you should get a repeat scan to check growth you should try to do it. But I really really don't think 2 days is at all worrisome at this point - it's such a small difference and baby's heartbeat is SO good! AND... probably the best thing you have going for you right now is that you're getting so much closer to the end of the first trimester and your risk of miscarriage with a strong heartbeat at this point has already plummeted so low!! Man I would love to be at 9 weeks with a strong heartbeat right now! :) :)

As far as the Prednisone... Is there a specialist you can talk to about it? A high risk OB, an RE, etc? Maybe you need to get more advice on whether/how you should wean off.

So sorry TP you have been through so much I just want you to have peace and have your beautiful healthy baby here to hold at last! I have no advice about the medication I am so not experienced with medical practices but as for anxiety around telling family I think you should only have to tell them when you are ready to. Can you hide it until the 2nd trimester? I am planning to do that although I have no idea how I am going to do it!

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Originally Posted by ABC.2606

TP I really don't know how to deal either, but I'll tell you what my DH keeps telling me (because obviously I'm very anxious as well!): It's natural to be stressed with everything you've gone through, but the level of fear and stress you have is also not good for you or the baby. Maybe try to shift your some of your focus from being stressed about if things are OK to trying to be more relaxed because being relaxed will be GOOD for baby - it's what the baby needs right now. De-stressing, taking care of yourself, distraction, etc. will probably do as much or more good for you and the baby as the Prednisone! Please don't take this as me lecturing you (which I would have NO right to do b/c I feel like a complete nut right now and need calming down all the time!). Mentally, I'm telling myself all these same things but I understand it's easier to talk to yourself and tell yourself what you SHOULD be doing than to actually do it! :)

I was worried about my blood test all day today but I went out and spent time with my kids at the museum and it really helped get my mind off things (at least until I got home and started obsessing about the nurse's phone call LOL!). But it was actually quite nice to have several hours of really not even thinking much about the pregnancy or the betas or anything - so I guess that'll be one of my strategies moving forward: DISTRACT DISTRACT DISTRACT! :) :)

I think if you feel like you should get a repeat scan to check growth you should try to do it. But I really really don't think 2 days is at all worrisome at this point - it's such a small difference and baby's heartbeat is SO good! AND... probably the best thing you have going for you right now is that you're getting so much closer to the end of the first trimester and your risk of miscarriage with a strong heartbeat at this point has already plummeted so low!! Man I would love to be at 9 weeks with a strong heartbeat right now! :) :)

As far as the Prednisone... Is there a specialist you can talk to about it? A high risk OB, an RE, etc? Maybe you need to get more advice on whether/how you should wean off.

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Great advice abc that is my only coping mechanism- distraction and keeping busy with the boys. I find seeing joy on their faces makes everything bad fade away xx

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Originally Posted by Pbn3

I'm sorry TP as I have no ideas on how to deal with the stress and uncertainty other than take it day by day (which is so unhelpful I know [emoji17]) We never told anyone until after my 12w scan & nipt results (which I cant believe costs so much where you are [emoji50][emoji50][emoji50], I thought $500'ish I paid was expensive!) except for my mum who guessed. I asked her not to talk about it as I measured behind on my dating scan and in my mind the heart rate was too low and I was pretty sure it wouldn't end well. She respected my wishes thankfully. I just wish you could all be in the 2nd trimester already with your 12w scans behind you showing bub is thriving!!!! I know that is still not 100% but it is better than the 50% or less you're all feeling now....

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Is the generation test a good one Pbn? It is $395 here in Qld so a bit more affordable than the $500 the nipt was going to cost with ds2.

Kittendreams I'm in Qld and went with generation and it cost more than that as I opted for the extended testing (to include rarer disorders but risk increases with age). Plus the price had just gone up to [emoji30] $395 is what I remembered for the base testing and *think* I paid another $150 on top for extra...

Holy crap kittendreams!! I just checked and the testing I had done is now $695 [emoji50][emoji50] That has increased heaps!! I'm sure we didn't pay that much! Will have to check with hubby [emoji848]