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when did you ladies first feel baby's movement in your pregnancies and was it earlier with each baby? I cant really remember with ds2 but ds1 it was definitely around 20 weeks. Hoping this one will be soon! Bearing in mind my ticker says he's the size of an avocado, it never fails to surprise me that you cant feel anything at this stage!
Deaks I felt movement at around your stage, and I've got an anterior placenta, they were only very small movements tho. From about 20weeks I could see the kicks and rolls and now well she's a little nut case for sure!
I'm the same as Kell have an anterior placenta so it took ages for me to feel anything. I was getting worried as I thought it was supposed to be earlier for each pg. Must have been properly around 20 weeks and in the last couple of weeks much stronger movements, DS1 felt the baby for the first time yesterday, was lovely! I'm sure you'll feel something soon.
Oh Babymad, although its lovely to hear from you, i feel so helpless that you are feeling down. I so wish there was something i could do to help and you really mustn't think you can only come on here f you are cheerful. Are you able to talk to anyone around you about your feelings? If you ever wanted to speak on the phone, i am always here as im sure all the other ladies would be too. Did you feel like this with ds3 or has it become worse as this is your last baby? Im still hopeful that baby's arrival will surprise you and you will fall head over heals for him. And you will do a great job of juggling a newborn and 3 other children... you are clearly an amazing mum, please don't be too hard on yourself. Lets hope bubs doesn't keep you waiting for too long though im sure he is very happy and snug in there. Again, if you want to speak, i am here... just pm me. Much love X
Babymad - sorry your feeling no better. Once he's here you will be 100% better Im sure. I wasn't sure how I would cope with one, two or third kids! Once they arrived I didn't think about as I had no choice but too cope. I'm a bit of a control freak but I find it helps to lower your standards. With each child my standards go down. They are pretty rock bottom some days! I get the kids dressed and clean, homework done, don't leave the house in my PJ's and DH just happy enough not to walk out ;¬) I will post your clothes this week. Dave is still in some things that I though you might like. You like stars and spots?
Deaks each pg I felt baby move later which is weird! Maybe due to my increased gerth! Mind you Dave is sucking the fat off me know - I remember why I love breast feeding! Cheaper than lipo-suction!
Inglewood - I really don't understand these taxcredits as what they said to me seems so high! I've never had more than £10 in the past but there tables are good. Will post a link
HM Revenue & Customs: You work 16 hours or more and pay childcare: entitlement tables
Same for me! but i guess all anterior placentas are different because with ds2 i felt strong kicks very early on and had an anterior placenta whereas with dd i had an anterior placenta again and only got very light fluttering kicks at 17 weeks and didn't feel anything 'strong' until well after 20 weeks.Quote:
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babymad ~ i can't tell you how sorry i am to hear you're not feeling any better.. i do agree with the other ladies though that you can come here anytime, doesn't matter if you're happy or if you're sad! we are all here for each other at all times, good or bad! i hope you feel better once he's here and you get to hold him in your arms and see his little innocent face.. no doubt he'll be just as beautiful as your other boys! :)
Inglewood~ love your pics on fb!
maybebaby ~ i dont understand tax credits either.. mine go up and down like a yo yo! i've recently had it cut by half without a letter or anything to explain that they were cutting my tax credits and why.. this was only a few weeks after i had a letter explaining that my tax credits were going up :S i give up with trying to understand the english system..
Big {hugs} Babymad, I'm so sorry you're feeling crap. I have no idea how I'm going to 'do' 4 children either. Easy enough at the weekends when nobody has to go anywhere in a hurry but we struggle to get out of the door and to school on time as it is. I suppose I'm going to have to get more organised - not good at that!
I had plans for packing my hospital bag and washing little clothes today but I was really ambitious with my walking yesterday and today my pelvis hurts and I'm knackered so I'm sat on my fat bum instead - and will hopefully get the hospital bag packed tomorrow!
Babymad I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, have u spoke to any one about this I.e doctor or midwife?
I agree denial is a bad place to be in, and wonder if putting some sort of support into place before he arrives might be worth a thought? Just in case?
You sound as tho you are taking all this onto your own shoulders, you are fully entitled to help if you think you need it?
oh babymad, it was such a hard situation for you to be in and i know i will face the same if pgd fails. In a way you didn't have much choice but to just go for it like you did... it could have gone the other way and then you wouldn't have regretted a thing, its just such a risk but one i can understand anyone taking... i will probably do the same myself when the time comes! I think at the moment it is much harder than when baby is here. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to bond immediately and there will be lots of help for you if you dont. But i think the maternal instinct is so strong that it will override any other feelings. You will possibly always dream of a dd but it wont stop you feeling the same about ds4 as you do about your others. And im sure there are ways to deal with gd once and for all when you are faced with definately no more babies... there must be someone who can help. Please please please keep talking to us... we all care so much for you. Much love X