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I miss POAS.
Day 1 of the easter holidays and I'm asking myself why I want another baby at all lol
I went to hang some washing out and someone let ds4 through the baby gate so he appeared behind me in the garden splashing in a bucket of dirty water. And ds3 has had at least 4 melt downs.


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I've got 1 hour 20 mind before Easter holidays! First one with 4 kids. House is a tip. Been a busy week. I'm so tired too. I foresee a frazzled mama within the first few days! Xx

Ds4 has got to the stage where he wants me to do stuff or get him things but can't actually tell me, so he just keeps climbing in me and pushing my shoulder and pointing. 90% of the time the thing I work out he wants is something he can't have.


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My 3yo is bug enough to get most of the things he's not allowed but i can tell his guilty stance a mile off lol x

I don't know why they think they can get away with things, ds2 you only have to say "look at me" and he can't do it without laughing if he has done something wrong or is lying.


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I'm waiting for a lady to come and value the house for the landlord and ds4 wants to go out, he just keeps saying "shoes" and pointing at the door then getting annoyed because I won't take him out.


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How did the valuation go? I now know how my mum used to catch me out, i have as good a poker face as my kids do!! It used to amaze me how she could tell i was hiding something... Even in my late teens/early 20's lol! X

It was over quickly, thankfully. Just awkward as she had to measure every room.


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Another facebook friend just found out she's having a girl after 4 boys. Can I really delete yet another person because it's just too painful to see her 80+ congratulations messages?


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Crap, one of the people I deleted who's due a girl after 3 boys just friend requested me again.


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Oh crap awkward! Will you accept her? If you do and she questions it just say one of the kids was playing with your phone and has probably deleted her by mistake!! ��
Were on Easter hols too and it's already been a long day today, should be a nice Easter but everything with house move is just going tits up and I'm just so sick and tired of others clicking their fingers and everything in their perfect little lives falling into place. Today is not a good day ��

I don't know, I haven't accepted or denied it yet. I'm not sure if I can take it, but is it just pathetic to cut people out because they got what I want?
Ds3 is unbearable at the moment. He is naughty from the moment he wakes up to the moment he falls asleep. I just ended up shouting at him really loudly because he wouldn't stop making ds4 scream and he laughed at me and asked me to do it again!! Everyone else seems to get what they want out of life, even if it takes a while, they eventually get the nice house, or the baby girl, or the career they want or whatever. I won't get a nice house, because we will never be able to afford anything nice, it'll be bigger but won't be what most would call nice, if we ever move. I don't see us having another baby at all now so no girl for me.


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If past lives are a real thing I must have been really awful in my last one. I mean I haven't asked for a lot from life, just enough to get by, and for my babies to be safe and healthy, and all I wanted was 1 healthy baby girl of my own and I don't even deserve that.


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Hugs mob xx

Thanks


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Ah hun sending you massive hugs too, it's so unbelievably hard but they are justified, everyone is entitled to their feelings!
Ds1 is being a real challenge to me too if that makes you feel any better, I too have to shout and he just smirks in my face, makes me want to cry. He's a lot worse when step ds is here too it's like he gets middle child syndrome! DH doesn't help as he yells at ds1 even for step ds naughtiness. It's a massive bone of contention in out marriage, so bloody hard.

Oh and DH threw in my face today that I'm just miserable today and is the hell would I cope with another baby as I'm so tired today due to broken nights sleep last night with ds2, which is a rarity. Not that he'd fooking know he never got up with him as a baby and didn't last night either funny enough! He's just pissing me off so much right now lol

I just feel like everything I've been through and the large percentage of my life I've spent depressed I ask for 1 thing and can't even bloody have that. Is a daughter really that much to ask for? Yet I feel stupid for it mattering. Ds3 is hard work at the best of times but he just seems out to wind me up. Dh told him a week ago that if he gets so many ticks on the calendar he can go to toys r us and spend the money he had for his birthday last month. Even an incentive like that isn't enough to get him to listen.
The only time Dh ever mentions anything to do with babies is to mention all the stuff he needs to get rid of from the loft (countless prams, a few car seats, stuff like that) and if he mentions girls it's always to point out some kind of lucky escape, like school text to say nits we're going around and he said about what a nightmare it would be trying to treat a girls hair. Because that's enough to put me off, obviously.
I feel like he can't possibly understand because he has his boys and can do all those boys things, and it's not that I don't enjoy those things too, but I want to do other things too, things they have no interest in. How would he feel if he had 4 daughters and desperately wanted a son but I just kept saying "well thank god we don't have to stand in the rain watching a boy play football matches!" He enjoys that, just the same as I would enjoy doing some of the things he seems to think are a blessing to have escaped. And yet I know he wants a girl too. Ever since I was pregnant with ds1 he kept saying 'she' with every one of them and refused to believe they might possibly have been a boy until he saw the proof on the the screen at the scan.


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Oh and I deleted the facebook app on my phone, don't know how long I'll be able to stay away but I'm rarely on the laptop so hopefully won't see too much or have to deal with it all. 1 of the many pink bumps is now a week over due so any day now there's going to be pictures. I feel horrible that I can't just be happy for those people. But honestly the way she goes on about not believing the sonographer and asking them to double and triple check if was a girl at every one of her scans. She only has 1 son so it's not like if someone with a whole bunch of boys suddenly got told it was a girl


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Your DH sounds exactly like mine! Like he thinks if he points out any thing that may be remotely hard with a girl that I'll just move on! We had a talk last night and he's adamant he doesn't want anymore kids but feels that he should for me I suppose, he kept saying how we won't be able to do nice things for even longer! I wouldn't mind but I am at college to give us all a better future so he kind of loses that argument! Oh and he goes on about the sleepless nights, he didn't do any with ds2! So again he can't argue.
Know how you feel I think deleting the FB app may be good for a while especially as you know someone is due soon. If needs be you can just hide any posts from her! It's not blocking her it just wont show on your newsfeed!

It's awkward, I know about 3 people due this month with girls after boys, one is one of my oldest friends and I'm hoping she doesn't text me and just announces on Facebook and when I'm ready I'll find out. Another (the one over due) her son is friends with ds3 and he wants her son to come and play at our house in the holidays so I do really need to contact her but just can't. The other I unfriended but she is still part of a larger group I'm on so even though I won't see all the updates I will see when she has the baby.
Dh hasn't said anything, at all, still. I've not mentioned babies or little girls again, but I'm just struggling in general and he hasn't even asked if I'm ok. I think he's afraid of what my answer might be.
I can understand wanting to do nicer things and I am really looking forward to the next stage of parenting when we can do things with out carting a load of nappies everywhere and worrying about naps and sleepless nights and wiping butts. But I just can't let the idea go. I was torturing myself yesterday thinking if I took out a loan or started playing the lottery and won then maybe I could go high tech, but according to the site I looked at Id have to be out of the country for 10-12 days and dh would have to join me for 2 days. What do we do with the boys in that time? No one would help out, especially if they knew we wanted another baby.


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I wonder why we just seem to struggle of a sudden! Watched obem today and one lady got a dd after a ds and I got a little Pang of jealousy! No idea where they all of a sudden come from!
I've been is bad recently I've not been on diet at all, in fact I'm worse than ever! I'm scoffing meat like it's going out of fashion. Maybe I'm psyching up to swaying but I don't know I feel so low at the moment, what with this DH keep changing his mins bad the house move taking forever I'm just so fed up! At least we're not alone I suppose!
I often think of ht if I could afford it and get out of the country for that long I'd do it and not tell anyone just let them think it's a holiday, but we'd never be able to afford it unfortunately

I looked, for a loan for 1 round, plus getting out there and and staying etc I'd be paying almost £300 for 10 years. And that's if it worked first go. There's no way that would be do able. Lottery win it is then lol
I considered making out it was just a holiday, but even if we all went I wasn't sure how it worked, like if we'd both need to be at the clinic at the same time, it's not that sort of thing you can take them along too. And even with a holiday cover story we wouldn't get anyone to look after the boys while we went alone.
I've not watched the last episode, possibly the last 2.
The only diet I've ever been on was when I briefly started the LE diet last summer. Other than that I've never dieted, and ATM I'm just as bad, pigging out constantly. Definitely not girl friendly. Mind you all the people I know getting their girls reckon they didn't do anything different. It just seems like an unbelievable amount of people outside of the world of gender desire forums are getting those girls. I'm not saying that I don't think that it's worth swaying I just mean that at the moment it's really disheartening to see them all get it so easily while we are here going crazy over it


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Deleting the Facebook app didn't work out as well as I thought. Walking up to the park we passed one of the houses and the little boy was just going in with a big bunch of flowers shouting "nate nate my mum had the baby, it's out already nate! She's called annalie" so of course when I got home I logged on via the browser and looked at her pictures because I'm cruel to myself like that. Dh doesn't seem to get that it hurts seeing others with what I want. When I told him and showed him he seemed pleased for them and aww'd at the baby.


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have anyone else bought clothes for their prefered gender..im terrible for the past two years I pick up pretty dresses then think how stupid im being and give them to who ever is next to have a little girl in my family.. im not buying anymore but ive kept 3 and im determined these are going to be for my baby girl one day..im trying to keep positive because im worried the depression will spiral out of control. thank goodness my two youngest are keeping me busy in the easter holidays. I hope we all get our daughter/sons one day xxx

I can't do it, I can't buy something knowing I may never get to use it. I know this might sound stupid but when I was first pregnant with ds1 dh was convinced he'd be a girl and he talked me into buying a little sylvanian (sp) families set that was Christmas themed in the sales. I had told him I always wanted them as a child but was never allowed them. I told him at the time he had just jinxed us and that baby would be a boy but I never realised that they ALL would be boys!



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I know what you I see loads of people getting their DG without doing all the stuff. We do makes it all the harder, wonder if small things change in them though to make it? I don't know it's just bit fair sometimes! :(
Sorry you didn't get away from the dreaded news either just when you're trying to avoid it as well!
I don't buy bits but just in case I never get to use them it worries me, however both times I was pregnant I stayed team green so bought a boys and girls outfit ive still got the girls oitfit from ds2 just in case......one day hopefully

Last time I kept wondering if I should buy boys stuff to jinx it in the other way and end up with a girl and a load of boys things I couldn't use lol


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If only it worked that way....

I know, right? I mean I already had enough boys stuff to jinx it if it worked that way. I think I'm going mad, today I feel better than the last few days, more positive and less like it matters, but at the same time I'm thinking "what's 10 years of debt if I get a daughter out of it?" Which is just ridiculous. But if ever I discover I have a rich aunt I never knew about who leaves me a decent amount of money I will be seriously considering it. I noticed that the sites say gender selection is illegal except for medical reasons. I wonder if they would class depression as a medical reason, I mean they'll do boob jobs on the nhs because of the woman being depressed and having low self esteem. I'm just "thinking out loud" I know it's not something that would happen, but that's wishful thinking for you.


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I hate GD. I'll be going about my business quite happily and then something so simple sends me crashing down. And the worst part is what if I never get a girl? What if this is it for me? Pro do have more and they are all boys? I know I'll love them and I'll be even more protective over all boy families, but I'll still have this feeling!


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so i went back to facebook,the profile picture next to the friend request I was avoiding has changed from her and her son, to a picture of a baby girl. I'm trying to come up with ways to make a quick £15k but sadly I don't think even selling my body would work (after 4 kids I'd probably have to pay them! - I should add I'm joking) I am becoming so bitter! I don't like this new version of me, but while people keep getting daughters and I don't I can't see it changing.

Hugs :( I am in the same boat, my two boys are my absolute world but my heart aches for a baby girl. I hope and pray we all get our dream xx

I know what you mean totally why can't we just wave our magic wands and get what we want? It scares me feeling this way forever if I never get a daughter but I'm hoping if we ever have another baby (dh being bit of a dick tbh) then I hope I'll be able to make my peace in knowing that if it's another boy we done all we could to try for our dd.

I'm hoping we do get to follow the plan and try again and I can say the same.
I know people say one day we will have granddaughters but when I look at my family and DH family and how often they see their grandkids and how involved they are if does make me feel like it won't be the same. I can't help feel that there will always be that 'what if'


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The "what if" spurred me on to ttc#4. Even tho a part of me knew the GD would be horrible i knew the "what if" of not having a 4th would be just as bad if not worse. I truly believed i would have a boy. I'm not sure how i would have coped initially but at least I would have felt better having tried ... I think. I know i would have loved boy #4 but i know how much hurt i would have had to carry too. Hugs xx

I didn't find this place until I was already pregnant with ds4 and although now I wouldn't change him, if I had known this site existed I could have swayed and if he was still him then that would have been that. But I feel like I need to try, I need to know I gave it my best shot.


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I'm with you mob I didn't find this site until I was pregnant with ds2 and tbh (sorry atomic) it was a cursory glance as I was pretty IG brainwashed by then and so sure my cup of cranberry juice a day with my 4 day cut off defo meant I was carrying a dd! Lol!
After I had ds2 a friend who has 2 girls showed me this website properly after getting her much wished for ds! I've been on here ever since!! I do wished id found this site sooner but also wonder if if have ds2 if I had!
At least with having found this site I've more or less managed to convince dh to go for one more. At least in my heart of hearts I'll know I've given it my all and I hope I can move on from that even if it may take a little time

Ds3 is an IG opposite. My longest ttc journey by a mile. Dh went along with ig swaying for me, but thought the 7 factors were a bit bogus. I wanted to believe. The monkeys finally took over around the time I had him. I briefly went on plumlily to catch up with some of my ig friends. Life with 2 kids and a colicy baby meant I couldn't get on much. Luckily one of my friends told me they'd moved here. The fact that atomics sway plan made more logical sense helped me convince dh to even up the numbers. Not sure he believes dd was anything other than luck, I disagree! Although I sucked at diet for swaying, the blighted ovum pg did that part for me as i felt ill a week after conception, one attempt, being a lot less Martha thanks to therapy (not for swaying), 1 attempt month after MC, being "older" mum ... X


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i guess we can't be too sad about not finding it sooner because we wouldn't trade our DS's but it would be nice to have a girl too.