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Agree with ELP I can only get online in the evenings when my 2 are asleep. I sometimes read in morning but never have time to reply. Btw I always seem to be the one that closes the thread too and lately with a lot of controversy as well!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by ELP
Just found out that one of my relatives who is a vegetarian is having a boy. Her first child is a girl. I felt a weird tinge of jealousy and thought: great here I am stuffing myself with meat and she does nothing different and gets a boy. Isn't that terrible? I do feel guilty about it. I am trying to work out what she has done differently from before she felt pregnant with DD. I know she eats a lot of nuts tons of them, she does eat fish and eggs and dairy too, but i am pretty sure she was eating all those things before DD too. The only thing that I can think of is that she used to exercise a lot before DD. She was thin and mascular. After DD she stopped exercising as much (I think she still did yoga) and put on quite a bit of weight. Not good news as that was my least favourite part of ttc boy diet, but oh well we must learn and accept the good with the bad.
Thats interesting Layla!! And remeber the weight is temporary, you'll lose it chasing that little fella around;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Layla
YEA!!!!! This made me so happy this morning! Jen, SOOOO glad all is ok, and sounds like you have an amazing mw!Quote:
Originally Posted by 3PinkNeedBlue
Well, feel free to disagree with me anytime, but glad I did not offend or read it wrong! LOL And yes, you are right about swaying getting media coverage....I personally don't talk about it with anyone but DH, because I feel like it opens the door for commentary that I don't need to listen to right now, even if from my well-intentioned friends. I did learn my lesson there.....about 3 months into swaying, and after a few unsuccessful tries, I was emailing with a friend who has BG and asked her if she did any specific timing like Shettles for either, and she was like, WHAT? And then gave me a bit of a derogatory "it's all in God's hands" and then proceeded to tell me she just got lucky. To be honest, I haven't talked to her since. It just pissed me off. That's when I decided I wouldn't mention swaying to anyone outside of the forums.Quote:
Originally Posted by Layla
Iluv, I could not have said everything I want to say to you better than what Layla wrote here. Do not fear a little break....sometimes it is the best thing for you. A wise veteran swayer from IG told me that once. It gets your head right, your body right, and your sway better. You know, I personally didn't want to take 3 whole months off from ttc after the m/c. I thought one should do it, but I decided to listen to the doctors and also decided to use these 3 months to really amp up my attitude and my body for swaying, and now I'm on the verge of trying again and I feel really good about it. I hope you can find this same peace with a break if that is what you need to do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Layla
And please do not EVER blame yourself or your body for your son's death. I know you have probably heard this a million times, but there is absolutely no good in blaming yourself or feeling guilty. It was just one of those shitty ass shit things that happens to people. I've had a world-rocking thing happen also, and you just have to let it go into a realm of "it just was" and be thankful to the universe/God for the strength given to you to overcome and move forward, the lessons about life you were given from that experience. I know that is hokey, but I know how badly you are feeling with it all, and I just want to offer you massive hugs. xxoo
That IS interesting.....especially since I am wanting to become a vegetarian now. I think I have over-meated myself in the past year. You know, I bet the little bit of weight is what changed.....maybe it is that the male coneptions are favored because there is some fat there to live off should a famine occur. I hope so at least! And yes, it is BY AND LARGE not my favorite thing either, the weight gaining part, but I do consider it to be temporary like ELP said, and also am using a bit of denial thanks to the excellent advice of 3PNB!Quote:
Originally Posted by Layla
Well I'm still waiting to O. I'm on cd9 today. CP was low and firm last night and this am it was definitely softer. Still haven't figured out how to tell if it's open or closed yet. So I guess my body is gearing up to O soon :D
I am kinda bummed though. DH and I went grocery shopping yesterday and he is starting to complain of all the extra food/supps he has to buy for me. He said I sure hope you get pregnant this month! He has been supportive up until now. Which I think he still is because I know he really wants a son too. But his job is starting to cut out OT lately so we've both been stressing about money lately. I do understand that this swaying stuff costs money, but....idk. If no BFP this month, idk if I'll be able to keep up with the swaying anymore :( I can probably still keep up my salt intake but idk about my potassium intake. We do have a small vegetable garden I guess I can just eat all of our tomatoes lol!! But, probably won't buy anymore supps for either of us.
Any of you on a budget with your swaying? I guess we really do buy a lot extra: V8, orange juice, lemon juice, and bananas every single week. :( Praying for my BFP this month!!
Hope you all are doing well!
TTC5- waiting on an update. Hoping no AF for you!
I hate being broken so I'm sorry to blast everyone. Today is 11dpo. It looks like I had a big dip yesterday on FF but it could mean nothing and this is the 1st month I've used it. I plan on testing in the a.m tomorrow (CD12)Quote:
Originally Posted by ELP
I agree w/ Laya, lola!Quote:
Originally Posted by Layla
Thanks everyone for your kind words! I'll take the preg test tomorrow a.m. and go from there.
Ummmmm, TTC5 where are you??? Did AF start or was last night maybe just pregnancy spotting?
Good luck!!Quote:
Originally Posted by iluvmyman
Stupid cycle... temps still souring by af came??!!!!!!!!!
I think all female cycles are an absolute mistery full stop. I have been using those opk things and yesterday the test line was visible but not darker than the control line. So I was thinking Good looks like I might O soon. Today the test line is completely gone again. No sign of it whatsoever. I think I am just going to forget about timing and just bd every 2nd-3rd day. Atomic appears to recommend this strategy. DD2 Was conceived on O day. How quickly is my sway dwindleing down to nothing and I have not even attempted yet...Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
Lola - I haven't put up my sway with DC4 on my blog yet, but that is a good idea. I will make a note to do a post on that :) I did do a post last weekend on all of my babies and what I thought influenced each one's gender from a swayer's perspective - http://blog.getting-pregnant.com/my-baby-history/
Begonia - I am doing well, just having a hard time sitting down the forums with balancing life. It seems like anytime I get a spare minute, Honor is fussing. I love her to death but she is one fussy baby. Part of me thinks it's probably my fault for all the stress and emotion of GD during pregnancy :( But she really is so wonderful - just a high maintenance girl!
3PNB - your friend's baby is sweet!! Try not to feel too guilty about the detached feeling - I had that through a lot of my pregnancy with Honor. I felt so bad about it, but I love her to pieces now. It is just part of you protecting yourself. Remind yourself that you love your little bub :) Sooo glad you had a great appt!! FX for that bean being on the left side ;)
Ttcboy2011 - welcome to the group!
Cemas - I agree with Lola, I would stop the BSD after your attempt, but continue with the weights. It's good to stick with the physical activity throughout your pregnancy, or keep building up for another attempt :D
Layla - glad the blood tests all came back normal! Best of luck with your attempt... hope O comes for you soon.
Tink - I think what helped me the most with the boy diet was just eating lots of meals and snacks and totally avoiding even looking at sweets :p Being on the diet for a few months is really good.
Cheeky - CONGRATS!!!!
TTC5 - (((hugs))), hopefully your cycle decides to let you know what is going on soon! Is it still just brown or did you have full-on AF starting???
iluv - (((hugs))) to you too sweetie
Alexis - I hope that you'll get your BFP soon too. Remember that the extras are nourishing you and helping make you healthier for pregnancy - that's one of the ways I think about it with the diet and supps.
Meeeeee - haha not much to say about myself girls... Just trying to keep up with my home and family and a very fussy baby! She really is a little grump! But I love her to pieces. When she's sweet she's so very sweet. And after five babies I now realize how quickly the fussy baby period goes and I need to enjoy her being a baby while I can! I've still been keeping up with my little blog and have gone into a little more detail there :) http://blog.getting-pregnant.com
I have got to try and keep up better!!
Skrimpy - full on :(
((((hugs))))Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
Thanks x
So sorry TTC5...mabye third times the charm..... :(
I think I am going to have some time off... I am feeling AWFUL.. I am SO FAT and UGLY at least this is how I feel :(
I weighed today and a 74.6 :O
I used to weigh 60kilos at the very most!!
I want to take some time out to focus of myself and my family than obsessing over "swaying"... would like to drop a few kilos to put me at least under the 70 kilo mark.
I'm going to get a new plan in action with possibly LESS supps this time! And I don't think I will bother will charting next time, it goes to show my last cycle it is pointless and just stresses me out!
Oh 5:( I was popping in for some big announcements from evereyone not to hear you were out:( I know whtat you mean about the weight getting you down, I had to take a break for a few months just to stabilise the weight gain, and I did make me feel alot more positive!
TTC5 I think taking a break can be a good idea if you're feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. I know how you feel on the body image issues - I am having a hard time myself right now, even though I know mine is "baby weight" and it hasn't been all that long since I had a baby! It's always frustrating to think you don't look your best and weigh what you ought to. Hopefully taking some time to reflect and have a break and re-evaluate your plan will be helpful :)
TTC5, I totally agree with Skrimpy....a break is a very good thing sometimes. And as I've complained about many times here, I have gained 35lbs in this last year of swaying and ttc, and it is very hard for me to deal with. Mostly that none of my clothes fit and I just feel very unsexy and not myself, but I am over my little break myself now and feeling MUCH better. I am so sorry you didn't have luck these past two months....but PLEASE don't give up, just have a breather month and I promise you will feel better!
Skrimpy, does your little buggar have reflux? That was the problem with my 2nd.....she would fuss for a good hour after nursing, and I did EVERYTHING I could to make my diet not the culprit. I felt like I could barely eat anything although I did eat plenty. We had to try Zantac and then Prevacid, which was much better. I hated giving my baby meds like that, I am pretty anti-med, but this helped her so much. I know she was in pain. I don't know if any of your other bubs had that, but just thought I'd share my experience. I was just beside myself for the first couple of months because I couldn't figure out what was wrong with her, and my first was just as easy as the breeze. I LOVVVVE your blog, by the way!!!!
Alexis, we are on a pretty tight budget ourselves, and I do know what you (and your DH) means about the cost. We've been spending a ton on supps and vitamins for a year! Actually, what I've done is rearranged our budget a bit. And I am in charge of the money in our household, so that makes it a bit easier for me there, but nonetheless....maybe you can tell your DH that you are willing to forgo this expense each month or something like that in order to have some extra vitamins. And Skrimpy is right about them being good for you anyway, good for making a healthy baby, so you can totally argue that point. As far as food goes, I don't think you need to go broke buying all the drinks and stuff.....it just takes some REARRANGING with the grocery budget, ya know what I mean? We don't buy any cookies or junk food anymore, and make popsicles out of good juice for the kids to have treats. I guess my best advice is to try to whittle what you need down as much as possible. Some of us just can't afford to buy a lot extra, but there are ways to get extra veggies and stuff, just like your garden, which is awesome! I go to the farmer's market on Saturdays and get lots of good organic veggies pretty cheap. Also maybe just talk to your DH and let him know how important this is to you to try for the boy, plus you want to be super healthy for a baby either way. HTH!
Iluv, excited to hear what is up with you!!!!!!! I hope you are doing ok....I know you are going through a rough time with everything. ((((((hug))))))
As for me, just waiting for AF. I took a FRER yesterday just to be sure, and it was negative, thank goodness. Would have been a big oops month again with a 5 day cut off. Anyway, getting excited to try again, especially with this Clomid boost. I got a bunch of vegetarian cookbooks today, and am planning my ascent into veggie land. I hope I get pg this first try because I am ready to not eat meat anymore. I don't want to change it up NOW of all times right before I ttc, but am really feeling a pull to try this lifestyle out. DH is all about it too, so we are going to try to change the whole family over. My kids will love it, they hate meat.
Interesting read on your babies, Skrimpy. I can look at my conception times, how I was living, and see how they point to girls also. Here's to hoping this next one is a boy since I'm so heavy now! LOL
OK, I have good and bad news at 12dpo. I took a earlyprenancytest.com hpt this morning and there was such a faint 2nd line I thought my mind might be playing tricks on me so ran out and got a FRER. The 2nd line is still light but there. Soooo, BFP for me. I know everyone will congratulate me but I'm scared to death right now. If my thyroid levels are still off (pray they are not) I can m/c or my baby's brain development could be effected and other birth defects and issues. I've emailed my OBGYN & GP to let them know. I'm not scheduled to take another thyroid test until mid-end of August but the damage is done during the 1st trimester so I'm really scared. I wanted this to be a happy occasion, now I'm just scared.
the fun part is we found out on DD2s 7th b-day!
BTW- my symptoms during the 2WW have been some nausea when I hadn't recently eaten but not for like a 7 dpo (I'd have to look at FF to give an exact day), very bloated/somewhat gassy up until dpo11 then it went a way a bit, cervix has been high since O, had creamy CM at 11dpo. CM & CP aren't reliable ways to confirm BFP but I thought I'd let you know. Had what I guess is a implantation dip at 10dpo.
If this hpt is wrong then I take it all back. :) I will update you guys a little on my sway too but I need to get ready for DD2's b-day party.
Iluv, great news!!! Congrats i'm sure hpt is right
TTC5, sorry to hear about bfn i really thought it was month for bfp.
Lola, DH's a vegetarian & my youngest doesnt eat pork so it can be stressful making dinner for all in this house so i've thought of being a vegetarian myself to make life more simple. I dont know though if i can give up meat entirely..
Congrats iluv!!! FX for a healthy baby!!
Thanks for the advice Lola!! I've already been eating out of the garden lol. I guess DH and I will have to have a talk about all of this if I get a bfn this cycle. I know we both are hoping this is our cycle. :D
iluv, congrats!! Praying all goes well!!
AFM had a dream last night and have a strong feeling it may be telling me something? Now, I was not going to listen to the moon but dreamt we dtd on a full moon and got a bfp... Up to now have always o'd on a new moon so maybe this is telling me something ;)
Cheeky- love your baby is forever theory on the weight gain. If this baby is a boy I will carry my fat with joy lol if it's a girl I know I did my best.
B- yeah my appt was great, not sure if I'll get a nub shot because it's mostly just a "see, still ok" kind of an u/s, we'll see though :)
Iluv- I'm so sorry this is so tough for you, don't give up. It'll be a bit of a journey but you'll get it straightened out. Congrats on the bfp and fx for a healthy little bean :hugs:
Layla- sounds like your veg relative has a high fat/protein/nutrient diet, exactly what's recommended here. Don't be bitter you'll get yours :)
Ttc5- time off can be good and I'm all for less sups and less charting. Temping nearly drove me crazy.
Lola- dd3 had sever reflux, so severe that my pedi (who I'd been telling for weeks something was wrong) sent us to the children hospital with failure to thrive. She was 8 wks old and had only gained 14oz, needless to say meds were prescribed and I got a new pedi. Anyway reflux sucks!
Nausea has completely lifted but the aversions continue, thank god for the u/s or I'd be freaking out. I still can't stand to eat meat unless it's really messed with i.e. chicken nuggets, or covered in a sauce. Basically the farther from it's natural flavor the better lol dh isn't thrilled but we are going to try to work with that to get me back to as close to paleo as possible.
Anyway tomorrow is my spoiled nieces birthday party, I have no doubt that we will full on be asked if I'm pregnant. We are working on a vague, mind your own business kind of answer in case they attack us separately. If they push I'll have to get slightly ugly, I really wish they would just take a damn hint.
:hugs::hugs::hugs:Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
As women, I think we try to be "rational" about our weight but I just don't think we are made that way. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by skrimpy
iluv congrats but irealise it is prob mixed feeling atm....hopefully there is stuff they can do to keep you in check?? and oviously monitoring let us know what they say:)
Congratulations on your BFP Iluv!!! We're all prayin your thyroid levels are fine and the baby is growing normally and perfectly!!Quote:
Originally Posted by iluvmyman
iluv, fantastic news!! I hope you have the smoothest 9 months of all of us xxx
TTC5- I hope you are feeling a bit better :) I really feel for you...that was such a good chart and what a let down for you ....silly hormones...... :(
3Pink- glad your feeling better but I understand the worry...I am not feeling ANYTHING yet - and despite some tugging in 2WW have felt completely myself - perhaps why I was sooo shocked at the BFP...but I am stressing thinking it is not gonna stick and stressing it will and my sway was not as good as it could have been.........FYI- I have posted my sway .......and am now stressing no one has comented on it cause it suxs and they don't wanna tell me...LOL hmmm mabye I have some symptoms......super hormonal/irrational ? LOl
Im sure your post doesn't suck Cheeky lol so yeah maybe you are a little irrational :P
You're due date is 8 days before mine, are you gonna find out the sex or wait for the surprise?
FIND out for sure:bigsmile: at the first possible chance LOL For me I just know I will need to grieve for the son I will never have to then move on to celebrate another gorgeous girl.... but for me personally it has never been a problem having another girl the problem was I would have liked to experience a son and my selfish dh LOL won't let me keep having kids till I randomly hit gold .....Are you gonna find out?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kris217
Skrimpy - thank you. I have been reading your blog. Great information you have on there. I am sorry about your GD, sounds like all is better right now your DD1 must be over the moon to finally have a sister. I am sorry to ask you and if you feel uncomfortable talking about it then you don't have to answer, but it sounds to me like you did try to sway blue but you got pink. You say something about avoiding grains on your blog as the reason. I am avoiding carbs. I do eat bread maybe once a day and have cereal in the morning. Do you mind telling us more about your previous sway, lessons learnt, what you would do differently, but only if you feel comfortable.
Iluv - congratulations. I wish you a problem free pregnancy and a happy and healthy baby boy. Us women are so hard on ourselves, we immediatelly find the worst thing that could happen to us, then research it and find (or more like imagine) things that support our theory and then become convinced that it will happen to us. I have been told many times that I need to reverse this type of thinking, you know replace the negative thought with positive, but it is damn hard to do yourself and so much easier to advise someone else to do. Distraction works best for me until I hear good news. Reading a good book, watching a good movie, playing with the kids, crosswords... anything... before you know it, it will be time for your test results... and they will be good news for sure...