Ladies due in Sept/Oct/Nov 2012, gather here!

It's not like I play every day .Sometimes I take a break for months or once I didn't play for over a year. And I only play when it's nap time or at night after the kids go to sleep. But lately just at nap time.

You guys are very patient with the DH's .I could not do that...And don't even try to blame me fro some crap you did lol .
Also I send DH to the store a lot he know things are so expensive. It's like so easy to say I spend to much if he is not there , but we go together and he don't say nothing because he can see how much it cost and that's it.And we eat meat with almost every dinner we make because that's just how we are. I wish I know some good recipes with no meat...
But here DH is the one who spend money I like to save it. or would like too...

I fully relate with the depressed DH's thing... my DH has depression too and I think has been prone to it for many years, although he was fine when I met him and at the start of our relationship. He spent years working towards getting his dream job (a policeman), and eventually got in only for us to have a MC a month in and then, whilst he was still grieving, he became bullied by the staff at the training school for it especially by a pregnant woman who should have been more sympathetic. He was forced out of the job and lost all of his self-worth. It then got worse when our son arrived and he's been deeply depressed since then and I've had to do almost everything in the house/childcare/etc since... plus working full time! I've also lost my patience with it...

He has got help, though, but has just recently stopped taking his pills *sigh*

I guess in a way I learned from my parents.... Both of never saved and don't even have a retirement in anyway.

My dad currently lives in a really bad area. He makes $900 a mth from SS checks and about $300 in food stamps because my sister is only 16. There are 4 people in the rental (my step sis gives nothing but eats what she wants). My dad owns only clothing, furniture, and a truck that has a 24in hole in the floor. He is getting ready to move into a single-wide trailer out in the middle of drugy town.... the only good news is when his MIL passes they get everything and trust it would be the best for them to sell a Pasadena Cali house.

My mother currently lives in a worse area and does nothing to help. She chooses to not work and still spends like she works. My stepdad is about $300,000 in debt and that is only from the last 10 years he has been with my mother. Everything they own is crap. Anything they my get from MIL would just pay off some debt.

Because of my parents I have learned to live below our income. We grow and preserve a large garden. I only get/buy used clothing. And we limit what we buy the kids. I buy stock pills of meat when marked down. Even with our house payment and DH college loan and traveling we have been able to save 10% every year. Once my youngest goes to school I will return to work but everything I earn goes to small savings for the kids (car if they get into college), vacation, and retirement. I don't have new furniture because I am just to cheap to spend to much but we do buy new mattresses and appilance when the other completely fall apart. I believe i living life like we only have 1 income so the rest can be fun money.

Ugh, money stuff is so hard. I think most people are in some kind of debt and it is highly stressful. I totally know what you all are going through also. Having to harp on each other about what you spend is awful. My DH is terrible with money- to the point where I can't even let him have a debit card (he just carries a little cash)! I just gave it to him to get a few groceries and had to say, please don't buy anything else. He said he was hoping he could go buy a new pair of jeans, to which I frowned because he has like 10 pairs. He says none of them fit him right. Whatever. I guess we all struggle with it one way or another. I honestly don't know many married couples who don't have money issues of some sort. I think the debt thing and depression is super common also. Mine's just depressed because his balls don't work and neither does he right now (he works only 6 months during the ballet season as he is a dancer), so he's a SAHD the other 6 months. Having to deal with a blamer is hard, too.....I hope all the DHs get their sh*t together soon. It doesn't make it any easier on all of you preggo ladies, that is for sure. I'm sorry everyone is dealing with it! At least we can vent here. And gosh, sorry I hijacked your due date thread!!!!

Good for you, PP, that is awesome!!!!

I'm glad you joined us, Lola - it's always good to hear about what others are going through :HH:.

Mocha, I am right there with you on the finances. We have been struggling for a while. I am more worried than DH, though... he just says kids don't cost much and we'll be fine. Can you guys do debt consolodation or something to help out with what you owe? I have considered doing that.

Flava, I bet 5 kids isn't much different than 4. You can do it!

Auroara, your DH shouldn't complain about you playing a game in your free time. He needs a hobby!

Lola, you are welcome here anytime! Sorry that you are having financial issues too. :(

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Originally Posted by Hobbermittens

Mocha, I am right there with you on the finances. We have been struggling for a while. I am more worried than DH, though... he just says kids don't cost much and we'll be fine. Can you guys do debt consolodation or something to help out with what you owe? I have considered doing that.

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Most of our debt is in a low interest PLC, so we've sort of done that already. Unfortunately it doesn't help if you don't have enough money leftover at the end of the month to pay more than the minimum. Oh well, enough of my complaining - LOTS of people are in far worse situations than we are. It's just dh's reaction to it that bothers me.

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Originally Posted by Mochagirl

Most of our debt is in a low interest PLC, so we've sort of done that already. Unfortunately it doesn't help if you don't have enough money leftover at the end of the month to pay more than the minimum. Oh well, enough of my complaining - LOTS of people are in far worse situations than we are. It's just dh's reaction to it that bothers me.

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The thing I keep telling myself is, we can scrape by fine until kids are all in school, and then I will go back to work full time. When I first became a SAHM, it was really easy to survive on one income, because the economy was doing great, and DH was making a lot of money (he is a carpenter). But then the economy went to crap, and DH hasn't worked as much, makes less money when he does, etc. I babysit and bring in a little $ that way, but I know once I can get a full time job thigs will get better.