Oh ELP he is just devine and your family is so beautiful!!
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Oh ELP he is just devine and your family is so beautiful!!
ELP, Foxy, WP, TTC5, how you ladies deal with rude comments about having more than 4 kids? You all know i'm expecting #4 and People Just can't keep their mouths shut.
I have learnt to just laugh them off. If I don't have a smart remark back ;)
Funny thing is, when I first got there we were talking about my pelvic problems and he said to me "No you can't have coils otherwise you wouldn't be pregnant" told him to look in my files and he did and his jaw dropped! "I've never seen this happen before" he says!!! lol
So kind of contradicting to tell me about contraception, don't you think? LOL
ZB I get this 1000%. I had to keep reminding myself that I wanted 3 kids regardless of gender, because once I found out it was girl #3 I really, really regretted getting pg again. And one of the things that helped me during my pg was knowing DH was OK with us going for a 4th. We even talked about it again this weekend; he's completely up for more kids. But here's the thing ... I don't know what I would change about my sway. Do you know what you'd do differently? I mean, I am SURE my sway "worked" because my body changed so much, but clearly even though I did it "right" it didn't work for me. So why try again? I honestly think for us to be able to have a 4th at this point I have GOT to get OK with a girl, and I don't think I'll sway again.Quote:
Originally Posted by Zivic-Bubac
ELP what a doll!!!! Thanks for posting pix!
Flava FWIW when I got my BFP I wasn't happy at all. Even at the 1st u/s I left feeling in my gut that this was a bad idea. Finding out it was DD3 was just confirmation for me. It was such a hard pregnancy emotionally. I hope yours gets easier hun :hugs: If not vent here; you know there is no judging.
MFC big ol hugs to you love!!!! Praying for you and your little man!
How's girlmom???
Flava I wonder about CapAquarius too. I hope she and her babe are a-ok.
Hobber I find it interesting (and great!) that your GD with DD2 evaporated as she got older. I think part of the reason I am ok now is DD3 is a baby... just a sweet little one; babies are pretty gender neutral KWIM? I worry as she gets older and more girly, like 2, that I will have more GD.
I still can't believe I have 3 DD. All I ever wanted was boys and not a single one. Crazy how life works; I mean if 50% of people have 1 of each, and then 25% have boys, 25% have girls ... I had a 75% chance of being either PP or BB. And yet I fell in the 25% I least wanted. Oh well. They are healthy and I am 110% sure I wouldn't love a son more, or be more loved by my kids if they were boys, and I have to keep focusing on that.
Such a shame people aren't more kind re: more kids MFC! I know here it is completely acceptable to have 3 but 4 is pretty rare, so I am sure if we go for #4 we'll get oodles of comments too. Most I assume would focus on how we must be trying for a boy... and how can I really get too mad about what would be true.
In your shoes I would likely just answer that you feel blessed to welcome a 4th person into your family. Or not reply at all. After all, not saying anything usually makes people really uncomfortable and it's fun to watch them squirm when they realize their comment was rude.
ELP: He is sooo cute. Your pics just make me say, ahhhhh, to be able to sleep without leg cramps and a little fella playing in my belly. I am not ready to have him, but getting very sleep deprived.
MFC: I get more old ladies telling me how wonderful my children are than people with rude comments, but I don't handle them well. I always think of something sassy to say after the fact. Most of the time I just say, yep, we enjoy and love all of our children. I think alot of people think you must me opn goverment assists if you have a lot of children and that is just not true. I wish I had a good answer, but there will always be people that don't agree with things you do. I just love my children and teach them not to judge others as they sometimes do us.
I hope everyone had a great Easter. I have to catch up on laundry and dishes, I'll do more personals later :)
My friend just lost her baby boy, born 22 weeks gestation :(
Has really hit home for DH and I that our baby's health is way more important than gender...
Oh 5 I am so, so sorry to hear it. Hope they have a good support system.
Re: the comments about lots of kids, I read one mom say her comeback to "you must have your hands full" is "Not as full as my heart!" I thought that was sweet :) Though I don't get comments about the size of our crew, just the gender.