Cvd - If you and DH love the name then don't let her ruin it for you!
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Cvd - If you and DH love the name then don't let her ruin it for you!
Bama.. I'm sorry lovely. I don't know if it's early or not (I might have missed the part where you mentioned how far along you are.. Lets call that baby brain.. ;) ) In any case, I hope she was wrong and it is your boy xx
Cvd. In all honesty, that kind of relationship with a name would possibly put me off of it. If it was something I was going to constantly think about. However, I don't think - if it's not an honest to goodness problem for you - that you should ditch it. Maybe wait a bit. See how you feel about it over a little while, and if you really feel strange about it, toss it. No one else will relate his name to anything remotely like that so it's not a "reason" as such to reject it. Does that make sense? I love the name Maverick and it was on my list but my dh wouldn't have it. ;) xx
Bama sorry you didn't hear boy. But as someone who grew up in the middle of 5 other sisters. I can honestly say that sisters are a brilliant support and true friendship. If I do get my boy this time I will definitely be aiming for a girl with the next one. But for some reason I think it will take me several attempts at swaying Before I get my son
Cvd I wouldn't tell this friend any more names and if she asks just say you haven't decided on any yet. That is what we do as people always have an opinion before the baby is born but rarely will they criticise the name of the baby in your arms
Not that you did any of those things, huh? :wink:Quote:
Originally Posted by Praying4Pink
You're probably right, it would just lead to more obsessing, which is definitely not healthy!
I am super excited for your gender scan! Your nub shots looked very promising. :)
CVD - After ds2, I no longer share the baby's name before it's born, because people can't seem to keep their opinions to themselves sometimes. I loved Charlie, (but I don't like to use nicknames as names, so we were going to name him Charles) and my MIL was all like, "I HATE Charles, it makes me think of Charles Manson." So then dh started disliking the name. And it was out. :( And then later I mentioned something to my MIL about how she ruined Charlie for me, and she said "Oh, I like Charlie. I just don't like Charles." Pain in the butt! So with ds3 we told no one except our boys and swore them to secrecy. We will do the same this time.
I have a similar problem, but to a lesser degree, with the name Samuel. DH really likes that name, and has mentioned it with both ds2 and ds3. I also like it, but I had a serious boyfriend in college whose middle name was Samuel and we always said we would name our son Samuel if we had one. So it just seems weird to me. Now, this is a person I will never see again, but we are FB friends. So I might consider it this time. In your situation, I do think it would be odd to use the stripper name of someone who know. Just knowing it is a stripper name would make me not want to use it! I'm not defending this knucklehead who told you, but maybe she thought you should know now rather than finding out after the fact that you had named your son the stripper name of an ex-fling.
Sorry you didn't hear boy bama! I really hope your elective gender scan they say boy and maybe they were just wrong! Sending my blue dust to you!
And thank you ladies for your comments. I'm super upset but I don't think I can use it now, I really loved it but its too weird I think. I know we would have found out eventually i'm sure but just the way she said it really made me angry. I hate when people just like to rain on your parade. Back to the drawing board for us :( hopefully we can find another soon so I'm not sad over this lol
I think I will be taking your advice of not telling till baby is here! It's easy to relate a name to something else when baby isn't here but once in your arms, if the name fits, nothing else would matter! Thanks again ladies!
CVD I can totally understand where you are coming from with not wanting to name the baby Maverick now. However, even though your friend was probably trying to be a big witch, she has actually done you a favor. Just think if you found out after you named the baby Maverick!! So in a way she did you a favor maybe??
We would have probably looked at it a lot differently if we found out we named him that after he was born! But now going INTO it knowing seems too weird. You know what I mean? So maybe she did do us a favour, but this guy has been a stripped for 2 years now and we've never heard his stripper name brought up before lol so I think we would have been fine, I wish I never told her :(Quote:
Originally Posted by WantingPink
Yeah, CVD. I totally get where you're coming from. My SIL ruined the name I loved for DS2. We picked a new name for him and kept it to ourselves, we'll be keeping this one top secret too. People feel free to critique the name you've chosen before the baby is here, but they won't feel as entitled to do that once they're looking at the baby. Good luck coming up with a new name! Can't wait to hear what you pick!
I feel for you cvd - my sil and my mum and my mil are all about as tactful as that - the thing is though they don't seem to know they are doing it unless they are very calculated. If she had said anything different I think I would use the name anyway but something like that may keep popping up in your head - I would be angry too x