Due in December/January/February 2013/14

Thanks ladies for all the well wishes for Grandma. This morning they informed us she is being released from the hospital! We were all very surprised! Seems she is in no shape to leave but here we are. The next couple of days will give us a much better idea so we will see how it goes I guess. So frustrated with her doctors and all the "well we don't know what's wrong with her but she can't stay here." Comments. I want to shake these people with their 5 day hospital stay rules and ask if this was their loved one would they be ok with them being released? So annoying and so the roller coaster ride continues and so does my bad eating!

No Braxton hicks contractions over here so I guess that's really good!

As far as more children goes.....since we have had a ton of family come visit for Grandma I have gotten that question so many times this week. 3 kids huh? Had to try 1 more time? Trying for a girl huh? Oh hope this one is a girl. You really need a girl. Do you want this baby to be a girl? Maybe you can try again if its not? Oh man....I was smiling thru it all but my goodness they were all asking me the same question! My filter was about to blow, but instead I just ate a French fry! Haha! I think we will be fine with 3. It will be crazy but I really like it that way. My answer is always yes we are very excited and can't wait! 3 after all is the new 2! Haha! Normally they laugh and we move on.

Soar, great news about your grandma, will send more positive thoughts your way! You are amazing for keeping it all together :)

Side note, are any of you ladies eating lunch meat? My dr told me no during my 1st pregnancy because she has lost 2 babies to listeria with patients so I have skipped it with this one as well, but at a work meeting today all they had was lunch meat sandwiches...I ate plain bread and cheese :)

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Originally Posted by onthepond

Side note, are any of you ladies eating lunch meat? My dr told me no during my 1st pregnancy because she has lost 2 babies to listeria with patients so I have skipped it with this one as well, but at a work meeting today all they had was lunch meat sandwiches...I ate plain bread and cheese :)

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In Australia we are told no cold meats or lunch meats unless they are cooked in a meal for 3+mins at boiling temp. Mind you, 3rd time around I have made a few exceptions but only at places where I know its clean and hygienic. Technically you aren't supposed to, so you did the right thing.

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Originally Posted by Soar

Thanks ladies for all the well wishes for Grandma. This morning they informed us she is being released from the hospital! We were all very surprised! Seems she is in no shape to leave but here we are. The next couple of days will give us a much better idea so we will see how it goes I guess. So frustrated with her doctors and all the "well we don't know what's wrong with her but she can't stay here." Comments. I want to shake these people with their 5 day hospital stay rules and ask if this was their loved one would they be ok with them being released? So annoying and so the roller coaster ride continues and so does my bad eating!

No Braxton hicks contractions over here so I guess that's really good!

As far as more children goes.....since we have had a ton of family come visit for Grandma I have gotten that question so many times this week. 3 kids huh? Had to try 1 more time? Trying for a girl huh? Oh hope this one is a girl. You really need a girl. Do you want this baby to be a girl? Maybe you can try again if its not? Oh man....I was smiling thru it all but my goodness they were all asking me the same question! My filter was about to blow, but instead I just ate a French fry! Haha! I think we will be fine with 3. It will be crazy but I really like it that way. My answer is always yes we are very excited and can't wait! 3 after all is the new 2! Haha! Normally they laugh and we move on.

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I agree, 3 will be crazy but I do like it that way too. I get bored easily and like to be super busy, if i'm honest!!!

So glad about your grandma! But its frustrating when the hospital has a different opinion to the family who know her so well. Hang in there.

ps. DH's family are the kings of comments like that! So frustrating. I've started saying really inappropriate things to shut them up, like "oh what will you do if its a boy"? "leave it at the hospital and try again". I laugh and it makes light of their stupidity. Then they usually follow up with a negative comment about 3 boys which I always answer with "I love the idea of 3 boys, there is something special about starting your own soccer/football/basketball team, and anyway at least then we dont have to buy anything new, since we already have boy coloured everything". That usually shuts them up. Its so annoying!

I don't understand why the idea of 3 shocks some people? From everyone I've heard it's not much different then 2. Once you hit 2 kids you already have to have a routine and schedule and the 3rd just falls in line with everyone else. I've also heard someone say that no matter what number of kids you have you always feel busy or overwhelmed at that number and it just becomes the normal. I read some blog where a lady said at 2 kids she was way in over her head and couldn't deal, then somehow they got pregnant with a third, same thing happened and she now is on #5 considering a sixth. Apparently it's the same feeling regardless of how many you have that becomes your limit.. until you move on a realize you can handle more! So all this gives me hope it's not that big of a deal. Plus, almost all families I know that are done having children all have 3 so it can't be that bad!

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Originally Posted by MSBLAKELY

I don't understand why the idea of 3 shocks some people? From everyone I've heard it's not much different then 2. Once you hit 2 kids you already have to have a routine and schedule and the 3rd just falls in line with everyone else. I've also heard someone say that no matter what number of kids you have you always feel busy or overwhelmed at that number and it just becomes the normal. I read some blog where a lady said at 2 kids she was way in over her head and couldn't deal, then somehow they got pregnant with a third, same thing happened and she now is on #5 considering a sixth. Apparently it's the same feeling regardless of how many you have that becomes your limit.. until you move on a realize you can handle more! So all this gives me hope it's not that big of a deal. Plus, almost all families I know that are done having children all have 3 so it can't be that bad!

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I have been told by those who have 5+ kids, that the hard work is the first two...the rest follow what you have taught them! I tried to answer on your other thread before you edited it....lol, I am not sure on the swaying myself. I do think that for me, doing exactly opposite of what I did for my boys did change things and in so doing "swayed", but maybe to a 60/40 split of which I got lucky. I had 4 weeks of thinking 3 boys and all....and realize that it is out of my hands no matter what I did anyway!!!

I am excited to be a mom of three....DS1 has been longing for a sibling other than his brother. He has such a sweetness about him when talking of his baby.....I miss him and DS2 being so far away from them.

Meeks...I had started to use those lines with the comments that I was getting....especially the one about three boys being amazing...I know it would have been so true for me!! I always comment in a positive light about my patients who have 3 or more boys...they are gorgeous families and most of the time better behave that the PP!!! :) There is only one exception to that....lol, and I just hope that I don't work the day they show up!!!!

AFM....last night here, will be on the road home tomorrow, already have the next appts lined up. I am trying my best to just breathe, focus and love on the kids the way they are!

The comments are driving me NUTS!!!
The second I posted I was pregnant on Facebook, the text messages, inbox messages & FB posts started.
"So....you were trying for a girl, huh?" - from a friend who has 3 girls, no boys. I wanted to say, so if you have another baby, does that mean you were going for the boy???
My main concern is HEALTHY & I've said it over & over....but the idiots still keep coming.
I think maybe I'm just extra sensitive today, but it is SO ANNOYING!!!

Sorry....y'all may resume your previous happy chats now....lol ;)
<3

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Originally Posted by BeadinMom

The comments are driving me NUTS!!!
The second I posted I was pregnant on Facebook, the text messages, inbox messages & FB posts started.
"So....you were trying for a girl, huh?" - from a friend who has 3 girls, no boys. I wanted to say, so if you have another baby, does that mean you were going for the boy???
My main concern is HEALTHY & I've said it over & over....but the idiots still keep coming.
I think maybe I'm just extra sensitive today, but it is SO ANNOYING!!!

Sorry....y'all may resume your previous happy chats now....lol ;)
<3

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I'm with you beadin, sometimes it bothers me more than other times though. Some of the first few comments I got on fb were "oh you need a bigger car", "there must be nothing to do down there in the country, you keep having babies", "hope its a girl" and "what are you going to do if its another boy". I mean SERIOUSLY, was it that hard to write "congrats!" if you had a judgy thought, keep it to yourself!!!! I started getting snippy and replied "we already have a 7 seater, so I don't imagine with 3 kids we will need to upgrade" etc.

I think your friend with 3 girls was probably speaking from her own experience, she probably had a third in the hope she'd get a boy. Which as we all know there is nothing wrong with, as long as you dont put others down for doing the same, or imply they wouldn't love an opposite too.

I am still fuming over my MIL's comments when I told her I was pg, "oh... can we have a girl this time then?" and 5 mins later "so how many weeks until we find out if its a boy or a girl?". Those just topped off everything else i've heard. Clearly she is going to be disappointed if I end up having a boy!!!

That drives me INSANE!!!
Somebody told me that today..."Can we have a girl this time?"
I said, "Sure, just put your order in at the drive-thru!! LOL!!"

And go AWAY!!!
I didn't have another baby as a gamble...I had another baby, because I wanted a BABY. As long as I have a healthy baby, I win.
Ugh. Sorry.

Thanks Meeks...you are always so sweet & you truly understand. Means a lot. XO