That's right! GL and FX for you! I'll most likely see you in the Feb 2ww too! I won't test until the 8th or the 9th at the earliest.Quote:
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That's right! GL and FX for you! I'll most likely see you in the Feb 2ww too! I won't test until the 8th or the 9th at the earliest.Quote:
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I'm very sorry to hear that AF arrived. Many people don't temp while having AF or at least not for the first few days- but if you are excited to start- go for it! :) I would count today as CD1. Big hugs- do something nice for yourself tonight!Quote:
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I've found it really interesting to read all of your ideas and experiences with things like IF ladies!
I have to say that my personal opinion is that for *most* people diets (all diets) are terrible. All the energy that people end up spending on thinking about food (foods which they can't eat, foods which they can, when they can eat, when they can't,etc) are such a waste. Diets normally fail and I found my time will doing LE to be really unhealthy for me personally. Before I literally never thought about food- besides hmm what am I hungry for/what should I make for dinner/what should I order and it was great. I ate when I was hungry, and depending on what was available what I was hungry for. On LE I constantly thought about food. Can I eat that? Ooh I would love to eat something but that would be a snack... how much fat/sugar/protein does that have? Of course over time it became easier but it was never natural for me to eat that way and I can't imagine trying to live with restrictions as a permanent or semi-permanent lifestyle.
My husband and I recently watched the documentary "Fed Up" which is about all the sugar in American food (80% of the food in the grocery store in the U.S. has added sugar), the terrible fast food which is offered in many school cafeterias, the huge increase in diabetes in children,etc. It was very eye opening and sad and just recommitted to me that the best thing people can do is just try to cook from scratch. I don't think it needs to be organic/vegetable based/without fat/etc but just the simple act of not buying processed foods or trying to avoid them would probably make a huge difference for many people who struggle with diet and exercise. Obviously I've veered a bit off track now but I guess overall I could never consider something like IF as a healthy choice that anyone should make without very clear reasons for wanting to do so :) However I would say the same for most diets.
But since we all have the very clear goal of trying to have a boy or girl I think the diets definitely make sense! :)
I hope you can hold out until Monday! It is hard not to test earlier but the BFNs which are inevitable (due to it being too early) are never fun.Quote:
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Junie- the LE diet is so much of a habit now for me. When I started back last March, (very loose then very strict since last May) I never thought I could get used to it! I was like you, always thinking about food and counting everything. Now the only time I need to count things is when I need to drop calories. Once I get the hang of it, usually about a week, then I can eat things without thinking about it. It has become easy for me to avoid snacking. Before marrying DH, I naturally ate the LE way. My habits slowly changed and that is why I have two lovely boys! The LE diet does not or should not be unhealthy! I still eat very healthy, just LE foods. I am doing the fertility version with limiting protein still, so a fertility hybrid. I do stick to upper limits of fat as I don't want my fertility to get even worse than it already is!
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I know you do it in a healthy way XX! And things like no snacking definitely aren't extreme. I just think for normal life diets aren't necessary. Clearly you can eat in many different ways and still be healthy and I think people shouldn't fight their nature. Unfortunately some have never been allowed to develop a healthy relationship with food and I think that is really sad as it can lead to a lifetime struggle.
But yeah I think you and Maiden are very aware of your health and eat in a way which works well for you :)
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I feel like my life since I was 12 years old been a diet, no I can't eat this or I need to run 10 miles because I ate a cookie! Constantly obsessing over what I put in my mouth.... even water, because heaven forbid I add water weight! I have lived this way for 24 years now... I know I will never be free of it. Atomic doesn't even have me counting my intake for fear of relapse.
All of this makes me wonder if God didn't give me boys because of my struggles being a girl with an ED? His way of maybe stopping the spread of that mental gene? I may not be making any since..... Just rambling on my thoughts and feelings:). I'll stop now!
Tarasue- Reading this just makes me want to give you a very big hug. I'm sure if you have a girl you will go to great lengths to make sure that she grows up with a happy and healthy attitude to food :)
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Thanks junie for the cyber hug and kind words. I want a girl so bad, but at the same time it scares me to death! Girls struggle so much with body image as it is. But if I do get a girl I know I will need to watch my words and actions as not to set a bad example. Time will tell, I can't worry about having a girl yet, as I'm not even pregnant;)
Tarasue I feel the same way about why I didn't (and won't) get a girl. I don't struggle with an ED but self image and self esteem have always been an issue with me. I feel like I am not pretty enough to have a girl or have the right body to pass onto a daughter- and what kind of mother wants to pass poor self esteem into their child? For those reasons I feel like I am not allowed a girl- for I will surely screw her up.Quote:
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Tarasue- I think you'll be a great girl mom! I think the best thing to do is always be honest. You can tell her about your struggle when she is old enough to understand and not effect her negatively. I agree about watching actions/words to a point. You do have to be honest and kids always KNOW when you are not! Maybe talk to your doctor and counselor for advice too. I would also let the pediatrician know too, privately, so he/she can be aware too. We all have vices though, that could potentially effect our kids. We just never know what they'll pick up! I think good communication and fostering acceptance early on in their childhood has a dramatic impact.
I am a high school science teacher, and this is what I have noticed over the years, before and since becoming a parent. You'll be great and deserve a girl just as much as anyone [emoji8]!
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I just want to give you two a hug! 2boys and Tarasue- you most definitely deserve a girl! The fact that you two are aware of your weaknesses is what sets you apart from those that don't. You'll be mindful parents to these girls and make new and different mistakes with them. Hugs [emoji8]!
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Thank you xx and 2boys. It's nice to have you guys to get my fears and frustrations out without being judged to harshly.
Well I have finally gotten to a place of peace. Tonight, while playing with my boys a sense of calm and peace overcame me. I can totally be satisfied with just my boys. I love them SO much! I am glad this happened. I'm sure we will still try and have well timed BDing, but I can finally say I will be ok with just my boys.
I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders! Perfect timing too, since I am 3dpo!
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I get feelings like that too xx, I love my little family, why mess with that. Then I see a diaper commercial or a couple in church with a new baby and I'm back to square one:/
So normal Tarasue! I also had feelings of contentment when it seemed like DH might not come around but especially after losing the baby both DH and I are as sure as we can be that we want a third and I think it would take quite a bit for us to give this dream up.
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Junie, the thing about IF, especially the way I do it, is you can eat any foods, as IF only describes WHEN you eat, not WHAT you eat. I don't consider IF a diet at all and I completely agree with you about diets (with the exception of swaying, but that's a very special circumstance). IF is a lifestyle for me, and the way I usually do it doesn't involve calorie counting or avoiding any foods. I spend much less time thinking about food when IFing.
2boys & tarasue - you both have every right to daughters and there is no reason you won't be fantastic moms to girls. The fact that you are concerned at all proves that. Bad mothers don't worry about their parenting skills. Plus, there are SO many mothers of both genders who don't deserve to have children at all (my own mother, for example) so obviously who gets children and which gender is not based on justice or fairness. As far as I can tell it's utterly random.
I get that. I'm totally good though. It is surreal still, but I am ok with JUST my boys [emoji4]! I only wanted boys, when I agreed to ttc DS1. I got my wish! I feel grateful for that. We will keep having well timed BDing and acupuncture, so I won't ever wonder what might have been down the line. But the yo-yo emotions of ttcing won't be there and that is a BIG relief for me!Quote:
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Come on BFPs! Who's due to test soon?
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Maiden- I know you are so mindful of your health and diet that I totally believe you when you say that for you IF isn't a diet.
I'm having a bit of spotting again today (TMI WARNING) and it is a bit mucusy and I'm wondering if it is CM mixed with old blood. It would fit on my timeline and the Dr. said everything looked great so maybe I will be ovulating soon...
Xx- I hope to hold out until Monday to test, Monday is 10dpo. I almost tested today & I know 7dpo is way early, I peed in the cup but ended up throwing it out w/o testing.
I am having a HARD time exercising! Yesterday and today I am SO exhausted. I took a 1.5 hour nap yesterday, and I am going to have to again today! I don't really want to take two days off so I'll set my alarm to workout after a 20min nap.
Looking back at my chart. I am 6DPO and Oed on the 24th. I got my second estrogen surge a little earlier than I usually do. I am a day behind you Tarasue! I won't test at all until the 8th at 15DPO though. I am sick of getting a BFN, and I do t want to know in case of a chemical. I would rather stay ignorant and think AF is just being cruel and usually heavy.
FX for you Tarasue! I am sure you caught the egg and will get your girl! By the way, I love your avatar! You are SO beautiful, and your son is HANDSOME!!!
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Junie, thank you, and I'm so glad you understand. Bc I totally hate diets and think they are almost always silly fads! That mucous sounds VERY promising.
tarasue, I completely agree with XX, you and your son are both gorgeous. You both look like models. Good avatar choice :)
XX, guess what...both yesterday and today I have been strangely exhausted, for no apparent reason as I've been getting plenty of sleep and it's not like I do anything tiring. I fell asleep around 7pm and slept for about 4 hours last night, and I've been fighting fatigue since 8pm tonight. I wonder what is up with us? I HATE feeling tired, too. My meds are sedating but I haven't been taking as much as usual so I'm stumped.
Thank you XX & Maiden! That picture was taken in November after finding out we were pregnant again, we had a couple pictures taken that were supposed to be new baby announcements in our Christmas cards...... that never happened, but we did end up with some other good shots. You girls are too kind, I think model is a bit of a stretch, but it made me feel warm and fuzzy inside, thank you!
I have noticed the days I ovulate and the week or so after ovulation I am exhausted and need to take naps. I just woke up from an hour and a half one:sleeping:
XX- I understand the ignorant is bliss approach. Honestly, I didn't do the test because I really wanted to have a drink tonight and if by some wacked out chance it came up positive, I wouldn't. Maybe a bad reason, but it is what it is.
I hate to symptom spot.... but... full-achy bbs, pinching sensation in lower abdominal area, tired, vivid weird dreams, sensitive teeth?(had this before with my last pregnancy), super dry mouth & my diet coke made me almost throw up this afternoon(i drink diet pepsi, so maybe it was just that I had a diet coke instead!)
Tarasue- things sound promising for you!! FX and [emoji120] you get your girly BFP [emoji179]!!
Maiden- If it wasn't for the fact I am two years older than you, I would swear we were separated at birth! We have so much in common, it is so funny and reassuring!
AFM- I was able to get my exercise in! I feel good about that! The only strange symptom for me is the fatigue. I never have that. I think since I have reduced cals, only BF DS2 once a day now, and switched up my exercise routine, this has caused my fatigue. I am over it though already! Ugh!
FX we see more BFPs!!!
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Xx- I know if I don't exercise I have a hard time sleeping at night. And my husband, when ever he starts up a new exercise program or starts jogging he is exhausted all the time. I think once your body adjusts to the new caloric burn your exhaustion should subside. That is unless you end up pregnant, and then you'll be exhausted for a new set of reasons:)
tarasue, I agree with XX, your symptoms sound very promising. And I wasn't exaggerating, I don't believe in false compliments. Obviously the pic isn't a close up, but from what I can see you are both very good looking. You have such lovely olive skin!
Alas, as I have not Oed yet, my exhaustion is not from that. I think it must be due to my SAD. It is always worst late Jan through early Mar, but I've really been struggling since Dec since moving to Germany, bc the 'house' I live in is very dark and depressing, plus it is overcast here from Nov through Mar. Though honestly, wherever I go I bring/cause rain. I have broken several droughts just by moving to a place (and I've moved A LOT).
XX, you know I feel the same! I'd love to see your natal chart bc I wonder if we have much in common astrologically.good for you for exercising, that should help perk you up. I always feel more energetic when exercising regularly. I bet you are going through hormonal changes, too, what with dropping feeds lately and even recovering still from your high FSH.
I have been eating a bit more on fasting days out of caution. I dont think my CBFM is working right (it hasn't been the past 2 cycles, I think I confused it by not using it exactly as directed) and I don't think my CBAD is working either bc of the false Peak from the smeared tester. I really think the last two days should be Highs and today as well but both monitors still read Low. My cheap OPKs have been almost positive yesterday and today. My cervix is High and Soft (and my cervix is my most reliable predictor of O) and I have EWCM. I think I will O tomorrow or the day after. I was too tired to attempt last night but I must tonight or tomorrow am!
Hey girls! Sorry I posted the IF blog post and then disappeared! I was just worried that the fasting could be affecting things negatively as many of us have been TTC for 6+ cycles now and may need all the help we can get!
DS2 and I have been battling pink eye for the past few days! He's all fine now and is going back to school tomorrow, but I still have a pink ring above my iris! WTH!? We've both been on drops since Friday. So I can't wear my contacts and I hate wearing my glasses out of the house. No fun!
Anyone testing soon?