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Pearl im also really tired all the time this pregnancy,i guess because im older too doesnt help:)
Its funny you all who had the epi want to try without,and now ive never had even gas/air,we dont have it here,and im starting to chicken out and want to do the epi after hearing all your easy labor stories:( Im getting too old for this now perhaps..im considering it anyways,i guess i have a while to decide.
love the belly pic needagirl, you look AMAZING!! I was heavy to begin with, so in all my pics I just look chunky and not cute and preggo!
I guess for me it is not so much the epidural itself but rather the cascade of necessary things that have to/usually happen after the epidural that I don't like. You cant move much - which does not at all help a baby who might not be in a good position and can slow labor, you almost always have to be given pitocin - which can stress baby and cause heart rate decelerations, you have to be on the continuous monitor - which can be wrong and has been shown to increase the risk of c/s, the epidural itself can give you a fever - which usually means antibiotics that can lead to thrush, yeast infections and nursing problems, if you get a fever your baby is likely to be given antibiotics and be monitored in the NICU just to be sure she is not infected, you have to have a catheter - again risk of bladder infection, antibiotics, etc. I have seen those women who the epidural can be a Godsend - those who are really tense, not dilating well and are exhausted but I really do believe that our bodies were made for having babies. The simple fact that we are on this planet means our moms, our grandmas, our greats and so on were really good at having babies!!
I'm not positive what I will do about the epidural, I think if I get to a point were I can't handle it then I will get it and if I can deal through the pain then I won't
When it comes to epidurals, I'm all for a woman's choice. If you want one that's okay; if you don't, that's okay too. The problems come when someone else pressures you to do one or the other. I saw an episode of 'A Baby Story' in which the woman really wanted some pain relief (her first baby and she didn't anticipate how badly it would hurt) and her husband was really giving her a hard time about it. Like, yelling at her. And she was crying and saying, "Please somebody help me." It broke my heart. She finally got her epidural, but her husband called her a quitter. I wished for a moment I had been her, because I would have popped him one in the mouth. Seriously.
OMG if my husband ever did that he would of found my fist in his faceQuote:
Originally Posted by Yuzu
Whoa, most of those complications from an epidural rarely happen. lol. But I am all for the mom chosing whatever feels right for her. I liked it both ways. Deliveries are all so different each and everytime. No one knows what is going to happen.
If men carried the babies, every family would only have one kid! ;)
It was my choice right from the start of DS#1! I was having contractions that kept getting worse and I just decided that I didn't need to prove anything to anyone! So I was done. Once they got that epidural in I was absolutely on cloud 9!!! Numb from the waist down feeling SO happy and relaxed.. and they put a catheter in because that is just what they do, but the luxury is you don't have to get up and pee! They put an oxygen mask on me to make sure I was breathing alright and that was fine. The only thing the epidural gives me each time is the chills but they always let DH hop in bed and warm me up until I stop shaking..LOL. Other than that it's fine, and it's the only way I will ever go!.. It was still A LOT of work to push out DS#1..and hour and a half of straight pushing.. I can't imagine if I would have had horrible contractions to go along with his birth. I do remember that after I pushed DS#1 out my breasts were itching pretty badly.. now I don't know if that was from the epidural or just my body pushing me to nurse immediately.Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkin2011
With DS#2 I was dialated to a 4 when I arrived at the hospital so they broke my water and then very soon in went the epidural. DS#2 labor was harder to deal with because I had Strep B and my labor stopped so they had to give me the devil drug pitosin..and they gave me 2 bags of Pit after my LABOR and delivery with DS#2 I will NEVER take that drug again. It's funny, they give it to you so you don't hemmorhage.. but I bled many weeks after DS#2
DS#1 no pitosin.. stopped bleeding in like 2 weeks! Oh well..
It's every woman's choice. But my choice will always be the epidural! LOL
My ob said because I had a straight forward labour and it was pretty quick that I should be ok to have an epidural. It took me 1 hr and 15mins to push my ds out and I only had gas! Its just my pregnancy is going so so fast and I am staring to freak out a bit.. I will get the epidural because I need to experience it for myself and everyones reactions are different. When it actually comes to pushing can you feel anything down there??
I don't think you should worry about getting the epidural, if you want it you should go for it, as for me when I was pushing I didn't feel anything when I had the epiduralQuote:
Originally Posted by pinkin2011
I know several of you saw the U/S post I put up for my neice, the one who is due 2 weeks after me.. most guesses were boy (as was my own guess) but I was hoping and she was hoping for a girl. She just had her 20 wk today and it is def another boy. I think she is happy with it now as all the boy guesses helped her get used to the thought. It is hard not to project a little bit of GD - I should remember that lots of people are happy with same gender kids.
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultr...tml#post229889
The only side affect I had on the epidural was itchiness. I get really really itchy all over, it's so uncomfortable. But not as uncomfortable as the pain :) I do agree it's a woman's choice.
The mid-wife at the antenatal class I went to before my DS1 was born was so funny. She was a real Irish country nurse and had been delivering babies for 25 years. She said that the majority of us wouldn't have straight forward births, and despite what we think the hospital didn't give awards or plagues for the most natural birth haha!! She said do what you feel is right for you and the safest thing for the baby but you won't be getting a year's free medical care or a medal. So I took the pain relief :) I still think it's great if you don't have to take it, I just don't want to be that soldier.
Congratulations on the new little boy joining your family Needagirl! :bluecheer:
Ugh, had a bad appt yesterday. Blood pressure was high and found protein in my urine. Have to do a 24 hr urine collection and lots of blood labs tomorrow. I was seeing my favorite Nurse Practitioner but have to see doctors only from now on and have to go back in a week for a BP check. :( I'm stressd now. This is way too early for pre-eclampsia. I cried last night, alot.
Fivebabies, I'm so sorry to hear that you're having troubles. What exactly does protein in the urine indicate? A reduced kidney function? Try not to stress, because that can raise your blood pressure.
Yeah, and another sign of pre eclampsia. I've been getting headaches alot too. I really cannot deal with going on bedrest this early. :( Hopefully it won't come to that.
Don't stress yourself out, hopefully its nothing to worry about
Yes, hopefully it is nothing. How high was your BP? Did you have Pre-E with your previous pregnancies? My BP always creeps up quite a bit during pregnancy but luckily has never been really high, just borderline. Will be praying all your tests come back normal!!
Thanks! I can't remember the top # but the lower was 94...not horrid but not good! I usually have low BP and did have a touch of pre-e with my 1st baby at the very end. Like the last 4 weeks. Way worse swelling and BP though. I'm trying to put it out of my head until I hear what the tests say.
Thanks!
The data on preeclampsia is sooo limited even after all these years. Dr. Brewer, way back when, had the "Brewer diet" which did seem to reduce pre-e and I have seen several women who started the Brewer diet after developing some higher BP and it seemed to prevent them from going into all out pre-e. A big componenet of the Brewer diet is high protein. Have to wonder if being on a girl diet made your protein lower than your other pregnancies. Also, he stressed dairy consumption. Since then, calcium has been link to lowered risk. There is not much you can do but I would def increase your calcium and protein intake. Wont hurt.
So sorry you're having problems fivebabies, thinking of you and hopefully you'll hear good news.
Thanks girls! And thanks NeedAGirl! I will definitely do that. :)
Hey ladies - been MIA and just enjoyed catching up on 10 pages of posting! Wow - lovely news all round!
I am so hopeless at remembering names and so on, especially during this pregnancy (and I have flu and am just finishing a major decorating/decluttering project so am pretty zonked) so many apologies for not doing personal congratulations! Love the way so much swaying has worked and that those with the opposite gender to their hopes are still so in love with their little beans.
My update is a bit nondescript really. We had the 20 week scan about a week ago and I told the tech that I didn't want to be told the gender but I wasn't averse to spotting it for myself if it worked out that way, so not to hold back on any potty shots. That way I kind of felt I'd know if I was meant to know. Well, I did watch very carefully and there were some accidental potty shots and I think she deliberately showed me a longer shot at the end too. No sign of any dangly bits that I could see, but I'm ok with being wrong on that. I had a pretty poor viewing angle anyway, and I was so in love that I don't think my scrutiny was perfect. Plus I'd got myself in a bit of a worried state that my baby wasn't growing properly so I was just awash with relief to see a healthy bean measuring right on track and looking delicious.
It was interesting reading your comments about birthing. I'm a hypnobirthing mamma but not because I have a strong feeling against epidurals etc. It just really suits me and my mindset about life and my beliefs. But I'm VERY much in the camp that you respond to what is happening rather than get bloody-minded and stick to a plan whatever. DS1 was a looooong induction (5 days), epidural and ventouse. DS2 was a loooong prodromal labour (5 days) and hypnobirthing till they tried to send me home because I didn't look like I was in full labour (yes dear, that's called self-hypnosis) and I panicked a bit. Then it was gas & air and hypnobirthing and just the most amazing experience. I'm hoping for a fully natural birth this time, but I won't be disappointed if it doesn't go to plan.
Hoping you are all staying healthy and that your worries about pre-eclampsia can fade away fivebabies.
Anyone having any SPD? I'm getting hints, but been so busy painting and decorating and sorting stuff that I haven't done anything about it like start the essential exercises [blush]. Staying active has probably helped though!
Hey there Gentle, glad you are doing well! (and that US sounds promising for sure!)
This morning the boys and I went to the farmer's market. We walked over to a smoothie truck and a mom was there with 2 boys, ages 5 and 3. She looked at me and the first thing out of her mouth was "Do you know what you are having?" I had to laugh - I know just how she feels! After I told her it was a girl she said "I was sure he was a girl until the ultrasound.. then it was obvious." She paused for a second and looked down at her little guy and then put on a happy face and said "Oh well, now I have 3 great boys!" Funny how universal this whole GD thing is. I asked her if she was going to have more but she said she was done. I wanted to be able to share the LE diet and all the great stuff we know with her!
NeedAGirl!, not that I don't love my sister's last child (her 4th boy), but if I had known about this swaying stuff before when she was pregnant with him, I would have def. shared my info with her to see if she couldn't get her girl last, not that it would have been a guarantee, but I feel for my sister, and it would have been fun to see if it had worked or not for her.
I agree..it's really hard not saying something but I almost feel ashamed. :( I think most poeple would think its stupid or that I was desperate or someting.
Im a little freaked today at my appt my doc says i have a very low lying posterior placenta,which ive never had before and it might move but if not ill have to get a c section!!!And i must take it easy and not lift heavy things,well my ds2 is really heavy ...how is this possible?Ive been having contractions too,so im a little worried as i have to travel by air in a few weeks which she didnt recommend ,but i have too! Anyone have a low lying posterior placenta that shifted?Or am i doomed?:worry:
Gentle.... i tried with ds2 genlte birth its called and it is a hypnosis birth program ,im wondering though if i should try hypnobirthing as the one i did wasnt the greatest,im just worried that it is so expensive ,i dont want to unless its really good..well if i end up natural anyhow ,fingers crossed,what do you think of it??
Hopefully it will move since your only 19 weeks.Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetsister
I have been having BH contractions, is that normal at 22 weeks? :worry:
I've been contracting since 14 weeks. I think the more pregnancies you have you're bound to contract. :(
Rest as much as possible sweetsister! It should move if you do.
Sweetsister - it will almost definitely move. (As long as it was not actually crossing the cervix.) After 20 weeks, the lower segment (area closest to cervix) is what expands as babe grows. As it expands it lifts upward taking the placenta with it. I have very rarely seen anyone who still had a low lying placenta at 30 weeks.
Oh, and I have lots of contractions daily. I actually think it is slightly less than with my boys but here every day many times per day.
Yes because it is your 3rd right?Ihave been having them ages now,my doc says also because i had 3 pregnancies within 5 years it takes a toll on your body,im on magnesium for mine though.Quote:
Originally Posted by dloui128
Thanks fivebabies..im scared only because my last pregnancies i was completely high anterior at this stage,and do you mean to help it i should be moving alot and it will move?I thought it would just grow as the uterus grows?Quote:
Originally Posted by fivebabies
Yes its my third. Do you get them everyday? I feel like I get a few everydayQuote:
Originally Posted by sweetsister
Sweetsister I have a low lying anterior placenta! At my big scan they told me to come back at 34 weeks to check it again. When I met my consultant he did a scan and said it would definitely move! Hope yours does too!
I have contractions, too. Also a lot of pressure in my pelvis. I know I am having more this time than in my previous pregnancies. I'm not worried, but it is very uncomfortable.
Sweetsister, with ds1 my placenta was over the cervix at the 12wk and 20wk scans so i had to have a late one to determine whether I'd need a c-section. By 36 weeks it was moved out of the way. They told me that it often does move.
Yeah, I liked the hypnobirthing programme. I bought it off ebay so not full price but I think it is worth it if you know you can commit to doing the exercises. You have new tracks to listen to each week (listen daily lying or sitting undisturbed) and should try to set aside 30-40mins to do them properly but I rarely could. I tried to listen properly once then put them on my ipod as I was going to sleep each night. This seemed to work fine, but I can see there would be a benefit is practising more carefully. It is just so amazing to get to the stage where you can induce anaesthesia quickly and get yourself calm in seconds. There is a lot of information in the scheme too, weekly reading - 5-10 pages A4. I read it with a little cynicism (I always wonder what the "other" side would say) and took from it what was useful and positive without buying into some of the more way-out things. And I felt like some of the nutrition stuff was a bit dated. But one of the great parts is a daily track called "affirmations" - the only one you can listen to any time. I was a bit of an English cynic about whether they would make any difference but they did - really helped me stay positive during the pregnancy. Plus there is a yahoo group where you get brilliant support from one of the scheme creators and experienced and new mammas alike.
I'm not having any contractions at all, but then, I didn't really with the previous pgs. My placenta this time is right behind my belly button which feels a bit weird... I can almost work out the shape of it! It does mean I only feel movement down low, and not at all over my tummy. I hope that changes so the boys can feel baby kicking!
I have contractions every day too. Sometimes few a day, the more rest i get the less contractions i have.
HI, girls. HOpe all is well with everyone! I too have contractions lots! Irritating but ok!
So I have a question for you all..
So, as you all know, I am pregnant with twins and swayed girl. I am not finding out what I am having. I go to a specialist office every two weeks in addition to my OB because they measure my cervix and the twins. Anyways, the receptionist there always talks about what I am going to have and teases me about maybe having 4 boys since I always have my 4 yr old and 2 1/2 yr old boys with me. When I told her I wasn't finding out a while ago, she said, "oh, when you have your anatomy scan I'm going to have to look in your chart and find out what you're having!" Obviously, I thought she was kidding. Well, today, I was there and checking out and scheduling my next apt, she starts laughing. I say, "What's so funny?" she replies, "remember what I told you I was going to do?", I reply, " you looked in my chart, you know what I'm having?!", she giggles and says, "yes, don't you hate when people know something you don't know?". I respond, " yes! I can't believe you know what I am having, I can't look at you!" and I leave. I was so upset, of course all I can think is that she was laughing because she found out I am having two more boys. I haven't stopped obsessing about it all day, her laugh just irked me. She was taunting me, and I will not be going back there, I can't deal with her comments and feel like I will be reading into it. I am so mad, it's none of her freaking business. She was being so selfish.
Do you think her laugh is because she found out it is two more boys? I can't help but think my dream of a girl is over. Thanks for listening...