I know things like this shock you to the core and make you reprioritise everything.
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I know things like this shock you to the core and make you reprioritise everything.
It certainly does and I hope that I can hold on to that, so I don't have to worry about being upset by not having a girl again. I've really seen in the last few weeks how DH and BIL and have pulled together for their parents while SIL has further distanced herself. And of SILs 2 children it is her son who wants to come home to his mum to support her through the loss while her daughter visited her on the day FIL was supposed to get his op and called a couple of times but that's it. Her son bought an open ended train ticket so he could travel home any time in the next month and is talking about moving back. We live 2 doors from SIL and her son is considering asking the landlord (who we know personally) if he can come straight in here after we leave.
I think it just reinforces what I said before (a long time ago) about it being personality, and the relationship you build that dictates how close you are rather than your gender.
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How you doing mob? How's dh and the boys? I've been thinking about you
Getting there. Ds1 ended up crying over Game Of Life, when he drew a card that said his job was a video game designer or tester or something and DH asked if he'd like to do that when he grows up. He just started crying and said "I told grandad in going to be a palaeontologist" like he has no choice but to be that now.
But I'm not much better, went to buy cards because they have 2 birthday parties this weekend to go to. I turned around and there were Father's Day cards behind me and just for a moment I thought about looking at them for him. Dh and I don't really bother with that sort of stuff for each other but we do for his parents. It was the realisation that actually we won't need to buy those things this year that made me sad. I put a lot of effort into his gifts because to me he was more of a dad than my own or my step dad.
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Oh bless your ds1 this is such a hard time for you all, it's so unfair. There are no words i can say, I truly wish I could to make it better for you all. I'm glad you could see your fil as a father figure. He must have loved that and thought the world of you xx
I told him the last time I saw him, just to make sure he knew. He couldn't really respond but he could hear us and give little signs that he knew who was there and what they were saying so I couldn't miss what turned out to be the last chance to say it.
Ds1 is mostly ok then something like that will happen, or he'll pick up a book and FIL was the type of person who wrote in the front of books "to Jimi, have a wonderful christmas 2014. Love from nan and grandad" and that will set him off.
We are trying to concentrate on more positive things, one of the last things he said to DH while he was able to was "be happy, you always be happy" and he would have been so pleased for us that we got the house so I'm trying to concentrate on that and be excited for that. I've been spending hours in Pinterest looking at colour schemes for decorating.
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Bless you, he would love the fact you've got the house. So glad you got to tell him you love him. I'm glad you've got the house to focus on too. Have you got a moving date yet? I love Pinterest
We actually got the call this morning to pick up the keys at lunch time. We've been round again on the way back then DH went back to work. I can finally start packing as I never had anywhere to keep the boxes once packed before.
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Yay enjoy packing! Fingers crossed well be following suit soon!!!..
I started the packing today. Ready to scream already ha ha ds4 just wants to unpack all the boxes as I pack them and follow me around grabbing at things and screeching to be picked up.
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How's everyone getting on? We've been busy painting. Living room is pretty much done, should be finished today then it's just carpets and we can get furniture in there, and ds2 and 4s room is about half way through painting.
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Ah fantastic! When did you move!? So exciting! How's dh and boys?
I'm ok our move is progressing so fingers crossed a few weeks time well be in!
We've not actually moved in there yet. We've had to give 2 months notice on the old house so DH said we might as well get it sorted before moving the big stuff in so we don't have to worry about painting around it.
It's exciting, I've never been able to do a nursery so making their rooms the way they want them now is like finally getting to do that lol
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That's fantastic! Really gives you time to get the house just how you want it! So exciting!
mob's what a dream come true!!!! You are not gonna know yourself once you are in, your are just going to have a thing called 'Space!!!' LOL :bigsmile: When we moved from the 2 bed to our 3 it was the strangest feeling, being able to move your arms in a circle. Let us know when your in ok. BTW when I moved into our new house I did conceive 3 pinks in a row but thats another story LOL!!!!!!!!!
Doing lots of packing today. OMG how many books do these kids need?! Luckily most of their stuff is already in tubs so will just be moved in them.
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Spent the first night in the new house last night. I am so beyond stressed, I know they say moving is stressful but we I did it before it didn't seem that stressful. Then again when I did it before ds1 was only just turning 14 months old and he was an angel of a child. He was not unpacking boxes and throwing breakables down the stairs (ds1s bedside lamp now doesn't work) or tearing pages out of books he found (Minecraft book missing a section on The Neather, whatever the heck that is lol) nor was he clinging to my leg when I needed to do stuff then wanting to run away from me when I needed him to stay out of the way and bf my side to keep him safe and out of the way of people moving heavy things. I also didn't have to break up fights or have people asking for things they haven't wanted in months and are at the bottom of one of the many boxes or following me round complaining of hunger or "he did this/won't let me do that".
I was however very pleased after hearing most of the people I know who moved in the last year tell me that they had to wait 2 weeks for sky to be fitted, to find that I could have it fitted today and that my landline and Internet are also active today.
I'm so cold today, it's pouring hard outside. I'm tempted to put the heating on just to see what it's like to live in a warm house with central heating but seeing as ds4 is wearing just a tshirt, nappy and socks (I really should get trousers on him before the guy comes to do the sky but he is napping ATM) and the others are upstairs on the xbox in just thin pjs I think it must just be me so won't.
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Oh ilm so pleased you're in! That's fantastic news! God moving is soooo stressful but at least you're in! Yay! Yay for sky and Internet too! Hope you enjoy your new home so much
I want to fast forward a few weeks so everything is where it should be and there are not boxes everywhere lol
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Mob's hows the house going !! :)
Still up in the air, not doing this again with small children lol very slowly getting there.
How are you doing?
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