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I know. Itching I can say will comfort you in any way :( I honestly can't imagine the pain your feeling...
I do understand you making the decision of terminating cause maybe prolonging it might seem more painful
Months ago I found a woman's blog and cried like I've havnt cried in sooo long. 2012 September
You might have to go a bit further back then I have it to get the full story... Please read it! After reading it.. It made me wonder wow this woman is amazing for what she has been through they are such a strong unit... And then made me wonder if this was me what would I actually do obvious I will never know unless I am I. This situation... But all the joy that this little girl brought to this family for just a short Time is amazing
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I'm so sorry. Definitely see a specialist and get all the facts. We are here to support you.
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Itching is supposed to be nothing lol my auto correct has been crazy lately
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Oh northern this is so bad such sad news so sorry for you and your family, the hospital can offer a trained midwife councillor to talk to please call and find out if your hospital do the same
My only thought about waiting for an amino is at least you will know black and white and never in the future think but maybe.......iykwim?
So sorry you can't talk to dh about it at moment it's not your fault your issue or anything you should feel responsible for its a joint situation and joint sadness try and be open with him as possible I'm sure that's what he wants xxxx
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Northern, you're right, you can't really be your husband's support person although i agree with Fish that being able to talk to him will be helpful. Do you have family that could help? Both for emotional and practical support.
After the specialist appointment you'll have access to grief and maybe genetic counselling. I agree that nothing will make any of this better but maybe talking to someone independent and knowledgable may make the process a bit easier.
This must be one of the hardest things ever, I feel so sorry that you and your husband are going through this.
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I don't judge you, my pregnancies are terrible and to go through it to the end knowing the baby wouldn't survive anyways I couldn't do it, I couldn't mourn for 20 weeks while i carried him/her and then start all over mourning when I delivered , I would rather go now so the healing process can start now, my heart cries with you, I would take whatever help or counseling they offer, if they don't then I would find some, this is something you need help through and dh can't help you because he is hurting too, I am so sorry this is happening to you, it's not fair, it shouldn't happen to anyone :hugs:
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Northern we are all here for you to listen and support you any way we can :( you are never far from my thoughts. I'm so sorry you are going through this.
Fish I have you and your little girl in my thoughts too and pray for the best outcome possible.
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Northern my next scan is Tuesday too hoping and praying for two miracles xx
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Northern and Fish, I pray Tues brings some better news for you both. You are both in my thoughts constantly.
Northern, we are always here to listen, and offer whatever support we can. But the other ladies are right, seek counselling on a professional level also. That doesnt mean to stop talking to us - we want to offer you support any which way we can. And if it feels right to tell us your thoughts that you just dont have the strength to share with DH we will always be here to listen. But keeping those communication lines open with DH will help both your healing processes in the long run. But understand this takes time, and you must just do everything in your own time. I think I'd be the same as you, not wanting to wait for the amnio, however, just make sure you dont decide on something that later down the track you wished you waited a bit longer to know. But I cant imagine how difficult it must be as the days go on and you feel her move inside you.
I wish I could offer you strength to get through this. But know that you will get through this in time.
Thinking of you x x x
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Northern, you have been in my thoughts all night since I read about this yesterday. I am so immensly sorry and I still cannot find any words. I am still praying for a miracle for tuesday and still holding out hope for you.
I do understand though how you feel this is it. I really hope you can get a very good counsellor and the help that you and your DH need to go through this time. I hope you both will also find a way to lean on each other and mourn together, feeling someone is always beside you. This is so tragic, I know there are no words of comfort for this difficult situation. I can only imagine how you are feeling and it makes me cry. Nobody should have to go through this, I am so so sorry you have to. A friend of DH went through almost the same. The baby had Edwards Syndrome and they decided to go through the rest of the pregnancy. That must have been so hard. The baby lived for 10 days if I remember this correctly. I cannot imagine the pain the must have been feeling. And I agree with the others, feeling this little girl inside you every day, going through the rest of the pregnancy would make it so much harder. I would make the very same decision as you.
I am sorry I am not much of a help. We are all here for you if you need emotional support. I wish we could help you in any other way as well. I feel so helpless and just wish I could make it all undone. I am so deeply sorry.
Fish, I am praying for you too!!! I hope you will have good news on Tuesday.
Unbelievable what you both are going through :sad: How are you doing anyways?
I am so sorry :sad:
