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I would deliver if you decide to go that route. Surgery has risks always. I know here, after 20 weeks, an induction is protocol. A C-section is done past 20 weeks here if a baby is lost after that point and the induction fails.
I had a family member that lost a baby at 20 weeks and they induced her. It took 2 days for contractions to begin and she was able to deliver the baby but had it gone on any longer, they would have performed a c-section on her.
I would certainly consult with specialists and make sure you are okay with going forward and do not have any what-ifs left.
I know others have special needs children and I have a mildly affected child but it does change things. Everyone is impacted- me, my DH, her siblings, it impacts them all and there have been unexpected beautiful moments and also WTF moments along the way.
I do shudder to think if I had found out about my daughter's condition prior to giving birth. What I read on the Internet is NOT my daughter. Not even close. Lots of information is out there and what I have learned is the worst-case scenario is what gets posted. People with children that are mildly affected by a particular syndrome or disease do not share their stories. There are very few (if any) positive stories on the Internet about my child's issue yet I have met several parents that have the same situation as I.
Just don't rely on the Internet for your information I guess is all I am saying.
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Google is the devil! Never google anything you will only ever see worst cases!
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Longing, that's great news!
Northern, I'll be thinking of you for your next appointment. I hope it goes smoothly and the decisions you need to make are clear cut.
Salsa, I think for the rest of us September ladies you should get yourself scanned at work! We all need some good news.
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Northern, I'm at a loss for words. I just can't believe you are having to deal with this. Will they be doing the amnio tomorrow? I really hope so as you can never rely solely on an ultrasound for a definitive diagnosis. Even though we are at 20 weeks, these babies are still pretty small and scans can very easily be off by several millimeters if not more. And in your case, that can make a big difference. I find it odd that they didn't ask you in for a second scan after they told you to go have a drink.
I hope my words aren't making this even harder on you. But as the others have said, you want to get as much solid and reliable information as you can before making any decisions. Google really does make everything sound worse.
I know you've already touched on how you want to bring this little girl into the world, what to dress her in, etc, but I won't go there yet! Miracles do happen and I am praying for one tonight.
Lots of love to you.
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Northern, I just read your news. My whole heart goes out to you. I can't imagine what you're going through. :( I haven't had a chance to read the last few pages but I just want to say that ultimately you will know in your heart what is best for you and your family, and none of our opinions here are relevant compared to that, aside from the fact that we all care for you and feel for you, and will support you through whatever happens. You're in my thoughts, both of you. Xxx
Fish, still crossing everything for you.
Longing, so very glad for you.
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Hi ladies I know I'm not part of this thread but dint want to read and run!
I am so sorry to hear your news!
Northern, I can't began to understand what you are going through or how you are feeling. I pray that you are given the strength to deal with the situation and that you find peace in any decision you make. You are in my thoughts!
Fish I hope it all goes well today! You are also in my thoughts!
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Fish - I just wanted to say good luck to you at today's scan. I hope it is better than what we know our prognosis will be.
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Northern and fish,
I'm in a different due date group, but spent time with both of you when we were ttc. I just want to say that I'm thinking of you both. My words are few, but you've both been on my mind constantly since I read your posts.
I think you have a scan today fish? I will be stalking to see how it went.
Northern...HUGE HUGS for you and your beautiful family.
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Hey so more bad news bloods came back positive for toxoplasmosis so this whole thing is my fault, I guess this twin will now die too and it's entirely my own fault I really don't understand how this has happened I hate animals especially cats I never touch animals at farms or stuff or people's pets I haven't done any gardening I just don't understand I've lost babies and its all my own fault
Northern hoping today may bring you better news
I also have an anterior placenta which I guess is why I don't feel so much movement
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Northern and fish, thinking of you both today and praying you hear some reassuring news. Bigs hugs go out to you both x
I'm now suffereing with food poisoning and feel terrible. I can bearly keep water down but hoping its short lived. If i'm the same tomorro ill be going to A+E as i'm getting some terrible pains in my bump, bad times :tissue:
