Not finding out sex before birth?

I had 2 surprise babies, one of which was a girl--not what I wanted. But I didn't care when they handed her to me, and I really wasn't disappointed. I had spent the whole pregnancy excited for the baby, and was happy when she was born, even though I had hoped for a boy. With my 3rd child, I found out at 20 weeks. I was hoping for a boy, and when I found out she was a girl, I was devastated. It ruined the last half of my pregnancy. I didn't enjoy feeling the baby move; I resented this baby for taking over my body. I didn't bond during the pregnancy and then had a really hard time at the birth, feeling disconnected. It was awful. I know I would have been happier having a surprise baby, even though I would have still had some GD--I honestly think my GD got so bad because I had 20 weeks to sit and stew about gender.

I absolutely will NOT find out gender this time (my u/s is next week). I am even considering not watching the u/s at all so I don't see something by accident!!

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Originally Posted by Hobbermittens

I had 2 surprise babies, one of which was a girl--not what I wanted. But I didn't care when they handed her to me, and I really wasn't disappointed. I had spent the whole pregnancy excited for the baby, and was happy when she was born, even though I had hoped for a boy. With my 3rd child, I found out at 20 weeks. I was hoping for a boy, and when I found out she was a girl, I was devastated. It ruined the last half of my pregnancy. I didn't enjoy feeling the baby move; I resented this baby for taking over my body. I didn't bond during the pregnancy and then had a really hard time at the birth, feeling disconnected. It was awful. I know I would have been happier having a surprise baby, even though I would have still had some GD--I honestly think my GD got so bad because I had 20 weeks to sit and stew about gender.

I absolutely will NOT find out gender this time (my u/s is next week). I am even considering not watching the u/s at all so I don't see something by accident!!

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I have to completely 100% agree with this. I was told my 1st was a girl, I was THRILLED, I cried and I never cry. Then found out he was a he, devastated. 2nd was surprised pregnancy I went to an elective ultrasound at a clinic and found out he was a he and like her I HATED that pregnancy. I really honestly just wanted to die. I was so miserable. I will NOT find out the sex again. I really dont think I even want them to tell me until I hold the baby (assuming I don't have another NICU baby that would throw a wrench in the plan). Because then I'll get to see it's a baby and a human not just a boy or a girl. Then I'll look or have my DH tell me. I don't want to be so miserable and hate the pregnancy again that was just awful and I felt so guilty at the same time.

I still am deciding whether I will wait until birth with this pregnancy or get an elective scan. Either way I'm 6 months now and not ready to know yet. It's such an individual decision though. You have to be prepared for possible GD either before birth or at birth. Or hopefully no GD at all! GL in whatever you decide!

I didnt find out with my first and my last baby, the two inbetween I did. I did have GD with the two inbetween, as for this one I cant say yet.....I am hoping when I hold my baby that gender doesnt matter and in that moment it will be mother and baby.....hoping!!

I didn't find out with any of mine and they were all boys. I think this worked for me because I would have been devastated the rest of the pregnancy and I didn't want to cry for months and I knew I would. At least when their born the opposite gender you have the joy of a new baby and the joy of not being pregnant to help offset the sadness of not having you DG

I have two boys and I am pregnant with twins and not finding out. I feel the same exact way, I am really nervous that it is two more boys and I don't want to know. Once they are here I will love them, and hopefully only be a little disappointed, but if I found out now I would have a hard time dealing! I am reallllly scared!

i am TTC number 4 at the moment (going for a boy after 3 girls) and i was so sure i was having a boy last time it never occured to me that the tech would say girl. i asked him was he SURE like 5 times through the session lol. Even after that i was convinced he was wrong. Well he wasnt!

i really hope when i finally get preg with the next one that i will be able to hold off on finding out. Its just i worry that, what if it is a boy? Ill be denying myself the chance of a really exciting last half of the pregnancy. and ill probably be going through the whole thing hoping its a boy but secretly knowing its probably another girl.

I think if i get pregnant again i won't want to find out the baby gender. I have 6boys so more than likely i know it will be another boy. But you have a way better chance then me, well it seems like everyone does, good luck!

I am giving birth in two weeks. I did not find out the gender but im not sure that has made GD any less. I have been obessing over every OWT, comparing my pregnancies, looking at skulls anything!! I've convinced myself that this baby will be the gender that I want in two weeks so im not sure what is going to happen if they say Congrats its a Boy. Will I turn my head away or will i immediately fall in love with him because he is here? I really dont know but im hoping for the falling in love bit. I currently have four boys and i would love a little girl to add to the family and this is my last baby.