Does my daughter need a sister?

I have one girl and three boys and my daughter is really really hoping I am having a girl this time around! She feels overwhelmed by boy stuff and really wants a sister. To be honest, my gender disappointment would really happen because I feel that I let her down. The boys already have brothers and a sister, but she only has brothers. She is a great big sister and they all adore her, and she has great relationships with them, but her dream is to have a sister. My heart wants a girl for her but my head says a boy makes more sense. We will be finding out in 2 weeks!

I think a girl and 2 boys is perfect - 2 older brothers to protect it and all his friends to flirt with it will be fantastic - i dont think she will miss having a sister as she will be so close to her friends anyway and they will argue over sharing rooms or make up etc and if she is the only one she will be your spoilt litte princess both by you and her brothers as they grow up.

Having two same-gender siblings gives no guarantees to the quality of their relationship just as having children very close together in age doesn't guarantee they will be best friends.

My mom had two girls and then two boys. My sister and I have never really gotten along and it is not getting better as we get older like people have said it might. It is totally a personality thing that has nothing to do with gender. My brothers also cannot stand each other and constantly bicker when together, even as adults. Again, their personalities clash.

The sibling I am closest to is my youngest brother who is 7.5 years younger than me and the opposite gender. Despite the age and gender differences, we just 'get' each other and get along great.

There is never a guarantee of siblings being best friends, especially not just because they are the same gender. That being said I grew up with two brothers and always wanted a sister. I still want a sister. There are things you can't control in the end like their friendships but it is never the wrong choice to bring another girl or boy into the world, it is what it is, do it for you and not for your children at that point.

I always thought the ideal family was 2 girls and 2 boys so each one has a best friend. But, there is no guarantee siblings will get along. It all depends on the personalities. I see a lot of brothers, IRL, not talking as they get older which is sad. I feel they should be best friends. sometimes it depends on the parenting that encourages competitive behavior by picking favorites. They may brag about one kid and not the other without realizing how it effects their children. I also feel if you are the only girl or only boy in the family you will be spoiled which can cause resentment. My brother is the only boy in my family and he was soooo spoiled...he was the prince and got away with everything while my sister and I always got yelled at. My sister and I would pair up because of that. If we had another brother it would have probably been different...who knows? Or if my parents didn't spoil him so much it would have probably been different. If you want another daughter go for it but don't assume your daughters will be best friends. You can only hope ALL of your children get along and look out for each another.

I agree Blue, I was the only girl and I was spoiled because of it.

i had only my brother (1.5 year age diff) as company growing up and while we fought sometimes, mostly we got along and spent a great deal of time with each other.

My three girls fight like cats and dogs a lot more than my brother and i ever did and each of them would tell you they wish they had no sisters im sure!

Even as adults now my brother and i speak to eachother almost every day despite living an hour apart, i wouldnt have traded my brother for any sister and yours may well have that same relationship with your son/s

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Originally Posted by Rosie85

There is never a guarantee of siblings being best friends, especially not just because they are the same gender. That being said I grew up with two brothers and always wanted a sister. I still want a sister. There are things you can't control in the end like their friendships but it is never the wrong choice to bring another girl or boy into the world, it is what it is, do it for you and not for your children at that point.

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+1. Pretty much what I was going to say.

I had a sister (no other sibs) and we were not close at ALL. In fact, we were night and day in personality and have become estranged in our adult lives. :( Sigh. Long story, but bottom line is we were just not cut out to be best friends, and there's no guarantee that even if you had another girl that your daughters would be great friends.