I feel like a terrible person...

I was the same, I never in my wildest dreams thought that I would have a daughter, never mind two!!! I argued that I am a boy's mommy and I'd love more boys, it was a shock but now I'm getting excited! Once she's in your arms you are going to fall in love with her. Try to focus on all the good aspects this brings, you get to experience the best of both worlds, something some women would love to have. I think you don't know it yet, but you are blessed beyond. Try to focus on the fact for now that you are growing a baby, enjoy the kicks and your expanding tummy, you'll soon get very excited and realise that a baby is such a blessing - regardless of their gender xxx

I don't know why that makes you a terrible person. You *might* be a terrible person if you said you wished you could drown all the girls of the world :holysheep:. But having a personal reaction to the fact that your "dream family" involved two sons is nothing to be kicking yourself over. You are just letting go of something you pictured for yourself. I think most people have some form of GD at some random point of their lives. Be it that they didn't get the gender they hoped for first. Or that they didn't to experience each of the genders. Or they had their children further apart than they hoped and it affected their gender wishes for each pregnancy. It is probably more prevalant than most people will admit.

I cried at my second ultrasound. NOT because I was having a second son, I actually always wanted two boys as well. But because it was one less chance I had to "get my girl." I feel pressure to have a daughter for both myself and my MIL (who has two sons and desperately wanted a daughter). So that second time, I thought I would have a girl, no more pressure and then I could have a couple more sons to round out MY ideal family. But, alas, I was meant to have a squishy, bouncing, zany little boy. Who is nothing like I expected him to be. So it just took a day or two for me to adapt to the idea. Give yourself some time...even if it takes months. I think you will feel differently by the end of pregnancy and, especially, when she gets here :)

Hi dontwantagirl just wondered how your doing now the shock of the ultra sound has sunk in x

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I hope she's feeling better.

I'm so sorry, DG just plain sucks. I do have to say, I know a lot of people who have close together boys and girls, and they are rough and tumble! Hope your gd goes away quickly.