Thank you, Swish! Wishing the same for you and for more positive comments. xxxxx
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Thank you, Swish! Wishing the same for you and for more positive comments. xxxxx
Don't think of them as 3 boys, just your 3 children. I say this because personality-wise, after infancy, I truly believe that there's no such thing as girls OR boys all acting a certain way.
My first is quiet, introspective, a book worm, and likes his own space. Not at all cuddly. So, rather like me when I was young. He also hates most sports except soccer. My second is hyper, sassy, and loves to dance. In fact he begged for dance lessons! He's the only boy in the whole dance school, which bugs him, but I tell him he's gonna be the STAR of every show and that rocks! He also haaaaates getting sticky or messy or dirty.
My third is ALLLLL typical boy. Rough and tumble. If we had three like my youngest I think we would've been DONE and not even thinking about a fourth, LOL. My youngest is also much more cuddly than my older two.
My last pregnancy, sure I was disappointed it wasn't a girl, but it really was more everyone else's stupid comments and reactions that sucked. And we had an u/s scare (thickened nuchal scan) and the docs promptly scared the sh!t out of us with Down's predictions and stuff, and that REALLY drove home the point that all we wanted was a happy, healthy child.
So really, I guess what I'm longing for in a little girl is the baby/toddler experience - all the pink and bows and princess stuff, but after they have their own mind they all develop their own preferences/personalities anyways, and you just never know how it'll turn out! My middle son, the dancer, wanted to try on my dresses and get his nails painted when he was 3-4 years old! LMAO! (Freaked the hell outta my mom!)
One of the things I get pissy about is the lack of cute boy things. Really bugs that all the stores ever have are flannel shirts, jeans, and sneakers. Blah. So I solved that one with DS3 by sewing him the CUUUUTEST little sailor rompers with matching hats. So cute. At least until he was mobile enough to rip the hats off his head, LMAO.
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OMG, this is SO TRUE. This is exactly how it is - mine too fight like cats and dogs but get over it quick too. And my DS2 is a total drama-llama as well!
And +1 about the toys. I've gotten used to a nice, tidy house, with no toy clutter everywhere. Lego breaks down and is much easier to put away than, say, a big princess dollhouse!! One thing I wouldn't look forward to at ALL if we had a girl, is having all the little girl toys scattered everywhere.
I don't have 3 boys, but I was raised with 3 brothers and almost all male cousins, and i have to say, boys adore their mother. My aunt has 3 boys and no daughters. She was diagnosed with breast cancer 4 years ago and her boys never left her side. They are grown men, and will look you straight in the eye and tell you their mother is their world.
My 3 brothers dote on my mother, and to them she can do no wrong. And you know what? I was the first to move away! Not my brothers. All my aunts and their sons have such special bonds. It is really amazing to see. (and almost all my family have 3 boys)
There's always someone who has something to say. They make assumptions about your life based on their own experiences. If you were doing an exam and someone said "ooh you should do it, it's printed on blue paper and they're so much harder!" or some other random statement, you'd think what utter rubbish. Yet these people assume they know how our lives will turn out based on the gender of our children! We pick up on it because we're sensitive about it, but in reality no one can predict the future. AND we all know what if you were expecting your third girl you'd meet just as many wise-cracking idiots who would tell you how awful it is to raise three girls. I have driven myself round the bend worrying about what people have said to me. They have made me feel like a freak who is doomed to a life of misery because of the hand I've been dealt. My advice to you is stick your fingers in your ears and hum "LA LA LA LA" next time anyone tries to tell you anything negative. You and your precious babies don't need it! xx
I LOVE this thread! I have two boys, but would be totally fine with 3 boys. It would just be a nice change to have a girl, but it says nothing about your future happiness. The more kids you have, the greater the chance that you'll have a greater bond with one of them.
It really comes down to the relationship that you build with your child (regardless of gender) and how your personalities mesh together. There are many daughters (as much as sons) that have bad relationships with their parents. Healthy children is the most important outcome. Also no one knows what tomorrow will bring, so make the most out of your family and build strong loving relationships with your children.
Further, on a side note, most people say that they want a different experience and therefore, want 'one of each'. But don't parents get a different experience with each kid regardless? Even parents that have identical twins have a 'different experience' with each twin. No two kids are alike. Who says that your son will play football and that your daughter will be a ballerina? ie You can have a son who plays football and a son who prefers to be on the debate team.
My third boy was something special. Everyone told me he would be, but we had swayed and I think both hubby and I were upset to hear boy. Once Andrew came though, he just filled an empty space in all our hearts and is a perfect fit! PLUS...he had red hair and we had always wanted a red-head, but didn't think it would happen!