Advice please

So.....it's a boy! I should have known, my 5-year old kept looking at my ultrasound picture from my 12 week ultrasound and saying it's a boy because it doesn't have long hair :) Gotta love the 5-year old mind! I did cry a little during the ultrasound, now I know why they have so many tissue boxes lying around. I cried just because I didn't want to tell my daughter, because I felt like I would break her heart. Prior to the ultrasound, we had planned on doing the balloons in the box for the kids, where they open up the box and pink or blue balloons pop out. We were also going to do the Hershey bars and darken the he or she, depending on if it was a boy or girl. I felt like that would have been too much surprise for her, so I just told her directly 1:1, and she was a trooper. She said it's OK and we talked about the fun things she would get to do with her baby brother, and then I asked her for help surprising her brothers with the news. Then she got pretty excited and we will be going to get the balloons, etc....together later, maybe some retail therapy to find some cute boy outfits (thanks for the idea Mama86). I told her she and I could do more spa weekends now, just the two of us and dad would stay home with the 4 boys....hahahaha! I feel very peaceful about it right now and I am in a good place, hopefully this stays this way. I feel like I can move forward now and make plans and not look back, it is what it is, right? Thank you for all of the kind words, it helps think about the bigger picture. Good luck to all of you, lots of pink dust going your way Mama86! Please keep us updated :)

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Originally Posted by fish2012

my friend has a dd who was 2 at time of her being preggie and she wnted a sister if you said it could be a boy she just said no sister.....well my she had a ds (so jealous!) and dd asked so where's my sister ;-S right after birth but weeks later she was fine with having a brother...don't worry kids adapt x

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I am going to keep pointing out the positives of having a baby brother and told her she'll always be "my girl!" My luck my boys will change their mind and want a sister, who knows? I really believe that things happen for a reason and God gives you what you need, not what you want.

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Originally Posted by Dreamofpink

Surprise5th - I have a sister and although we got on okay growing up I always wanted a brother. I was always the tomboy out of the two of us and now we're adults we're not that close at all. I speak to her maybe only once every other month. It's only the two of us so really we ought to be really close, sometimes it just doesn't work that way. Also, please don't worry about your daughter not being able to form close deep relationships with other women without having a sister as I've always felt a lot more comfortable around men. I have some great female friends with whom I am close, but nowhere near as close as I am to my hubby, he's been my 'best friend' (I sound about 6!) since we met. I don't think siblings have that much influence as my sister's a lot closer to our cousin than she is to me!

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This does make me feel better, I have always gotten along better with men, my hubby is my best friend too (most days!) I have envied women with sisters because I feel that they have a special bond, but I guess that is relative too. I was always closer to my younger brother growing up than he was to my older brother, so I guess there is a perk that I never thought of before. This will all work out, I know it ~I may just have some rougher days. Thanks for all of your support everyone!

Congratulations Surprise 5th!! I was so hoping girl for you and your daughter, but I'm so happy for you! I've been looking at pics of my son when he was born and cooing over how he was just as adorable as my daughter was when she was a baby and they're still as beautiful! So what if boys can't wear dresses or headbands (well, they could, but could end up with some confusion issues when they get older! Lol), baby boys are cute in their own ways. I still would like a baby girl this time around for my daughter to have a sister, but I appreciate and love this baby just as much if it's a boy, I mean, I love him/her so much already, why would that change because they have a penis?! Lol. Again, congratulations! I hope your pregnancy goes great and your beautiful boy is born healthy! :)