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Not patronising at all. I can already see a massive difference in myself now than what I was when I first became a mum at 20. I used to obsess about everything, especially how other people perceived me. Not anymore tho! I'm happy with my way of parenting, happy with the way my children are (even when they drive me up the wall) and I'm happy with the way I am.
Thank you for your reply <3
The mothers I interact with on a daily basis on another site (actually an iPhone app) are constantly judging each others parent styles, when they aren't busy patting their own backs for being an "ap, cd, ebf, blw, bw, etc etc mom." "Oh you have a crotch dangler?!! It's so bad for their hips!" "Disposable diapers have harsh chemicals in them, could lead to infertility!" "You should sprinkle breast milk on the child's pink eye, it will fix it right up. Oh you don't have breast milk... you don't breast feed?! That's probably why they have pink eye, formula is just so awful." Like really? And I find these sorts of comments always more unsettling because they were never asked for. No one asked you what you though of their bjorn carrier or their babies diapers? you can tell the people who are receiving this "friendly advice" are always uncomfortable and annoyed. i breast fed, have an ergo, cloth diaper, make my own food, etc, and i still find it supremely annoying. Everyone says, "no two children are the same," nor are any two parents. So I don't understand peoples' need to try and compare or judge parenting styles/choices.
Mothering is a competition, always has been always will be it's in human nature! Your kid will always be better than someone else's kid no matter what! I think it is some kind of built in instinct.