If you have kids very close together in age...

ds1 and ds2 are 26 months apart and FIGHT ALOT
ds2 and ds 3 are 34 months apart and get on ok though when they dont its cos my ds2 is a little git !! ha ha honestly !!
This means that DS 1 and DS3 are 5 years apart and they are BEST FRIENDS :-) It might be that ds1 is mildly autistic and has severe dyspraxia but he loves his baby brother to bits and ds3 loves playing with ds1 - they share a bed at night to watch DVDS and always play together while ds2 does his own thing.
If we have another now there will be a 4 year age gap and i dont think there is any right or wrong time to have another but im looking forward to all 3 boys being old enough to help pass me nappies etc and also at school in the day so i havent got them all under my feet all day - though saying that iw ork with 8 other children that are not mine daily so apart from my 3 weeks maternity leave its going to be hectic !!

At first I thought it was crazy that I am actually planning this, but you ladies make me feel sane! It will be fun for sure to have DS1 and DS2 together and DS3 and #4 as their own little pair. They will still be in preschool when the big boys will be in elementary school. When we go to amusement parks the little ones can ride kiddie rides with me and the bigger boys can ride the scary rides with dad. It all makes perfect sense!

My boys are 21 months apart. We planned it that way- but if I were to do it again (and guarantee to have the same children) I would have waited. I think 3 years apart would have been best. It has only now gotten better. It was very stressful an overwhelming to have a newborn and a 21 month old. However- even now my boys constantly fight and are VERY competitive with each other.

The good thing about their age difference is that they are the same gender and the younger one can use the older one's clothes soon after he grows out of them. They are also into the same toys at the same time (can be good and bad). I'm excited that there will be a bigger age difference between my second and third. He will turn 4 about a week and a half before this one is born- and my older son will be almost 6. I'm already enjoying this pregnancy more than my second- and I think the baby phase will be MUCH easier with the bigger age gap.

Also- I read somewhere that kids born close together tend to have a higher probability of being the same gender. I will try to find that article....

I read that too somewhere, especially if it is less that a year. Not sure where I read it though, if it was just someones observation or it was a stat somewhere...sorry

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Originally Posted by jark22

Also- I read somewhere that kids born close together tend to have a higher probability of being the same gender. I will try to find that article....

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Maybe it's just an old wives tale....... Can't remember where I read that. Seems like it may not be right since we 'technically' have a 50/50 chance every time, right? But it seems to hold true for all of my friends and a lot of people that we meet at playgrounds and other play areas.

My first two are 22 months apart. And my second and third will be 19/20 months apart. Two and three were planned that way. And our fourth will be planned the same gap. I sorta love it. There are lots of benefits and my personality is more suited to do all the stages in one big ball. I know I will want to move on once diapers and sleepless nights are done. So for me, it's good to have them close.

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Originally Posted by jark22

Maybe it's just an old wives tale....... Can't remember where I read that. Seems like it may not be right since we 'technically' have a 50/50 chance every time, right? But it seems to hold true for all of my friends and a lot of people that we meet at playgrounds and other play areas.

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Maybe it is b/c you are prone to doing the same things when you got pg the first time....like maybe you have a boy and fall back into boy mode with foods and meat, etc. and then go on to have another boy. Maybe if you have a girl, you go back into girl mode with dieting and bad eating habits and have another girl... who knows!!!!

Have you looked at the downsides at all? There is an increased risk of placenta previa, miscarriage and a higher chance of developmental disorders in that baby since your body has replenished since your last pregnancy. Not saying this will happen to you, just important to view all sides of things! I really hope you get your dd some day!

I know there are downsides to it, but I will also be waiting until 8-9 months PP to start TTC....that is if this ends up being something I still want to do. So much could change in a year so really, who knows what will happen this time next year. I will be sure to take folic acid if I do follow through with it all.