trying for a cut off and not sure when to bd

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Originally Posted by mommy*duke

yes i do. they start getting darker about 2 days before the actual + normally. so maybe i can do it that day but no other day?

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I think that would be a good plan to try. Good idea!

Have you tried saliva ferning? I find it gives a very predictable pattern starting about 3-4 days prior to ovulation and at least 1-2 days prior to a positive OPK. That is what I am going to use for timing my 3 day cutoff.

I tried cutoff this cycle and I think it ended up being a 5 day cutoff so it can be frustrating cause w abstained for 14+ days and I didn't want to try again cause that would mean 5 days abstaining and that's boy territory! I think next cycle I will do frequent BD...I feel like I wasted this cycle :(

am i right in that peoploe are abstaining ans then DTD only once with a cut off?

According to the Dutch study (best current study on cut-off) - there was no specific instructions given as to frequency - just stop 3 days prior to O. I plan for frequent release (DH only - not BD) from AF to 4 days prior to O and then multiple bd between O-4 and O-3.

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Originally Posted by NeedAGirl!

Have you tried saliva ferning? I find it gives a very predictable pattern starting about 3-4 days prior to ovulation and at least 1-2 days prior to a positive OPK. That is what I am going to use for timing my 3 day cutoff.

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I agree and I think it is a great method to try. Thank you for sharing!!

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Originally Posted by Glittergirl

I tried cutoff this cycle and I think it ended up being a 5 day cutoff so it can be frustrating cause w abstained for 14+ days and I didn't want to try again cause that would mean 5 days abstaining and that's boy territory! I think next cycle I will do frequent BD...I feel like I wasted this cycle :(

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Personally, I think the abstaining sways much more than what particular day you had a cut off on. Don't worry or feel like you wasted a cycle! Worrying and picking apart old cycles (in a negative way, of course we can still talk about past cycles to help us with future cycles!) is strictly forbidden here! ;)

This has been quite a lucky month for BFP's (even very unexpected ones) so I am KFX for you!

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Originally Posted by aintnocinderella

am i right in that peoploe are abstaining ans then DTD only once with a cut off?

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People are trying all kinds of different patterns for BD. A lot of people prefer to do the opposite of what they did previously, but you don't have to. Do what is best for you and your DH. Here are a few things you might want to read.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...nd-girl-Part-1
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...How-to-do-O-12
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...tting-pregnant!

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Originally Posted by NeedAGirl!

According to the Dutch study (best current study on cut-off) - there was no specific instructions given as to frequency - just stop 3 days prior to O. I plan for frequent release (DH only - not BD) from AF to 4 days prior to O and then multiple bd between O-4 and O-3.

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I suspect that at least some of the participants in this study probably DID abstain in addition to doing timing. It doesn't take much effort to go onto the Internet and learn all about the Shettles method and follow it and it seems reasonable to assume that some of those people were using other swaying techniques in addition to the two that were studied.