Do you tell people you have a HT child?

No.

I just told my sister but no one else. If my asian community found out i'm going HT for a girl they will have a b**** fit saying "oh she has 3 boys why would she need a girl for"(they love the boys lol) so no thank you i'll keep this one to myself lol. If I told my mum she would have a go at me for spending so much money that could have gone towards the boys so only my sister will ever know.

Both our parents know, one uncle, one aunt, one cousin, and 2 very close friends. We were never faced with any negativity. I actually had a friend ask if we spun DH's sperm and I said no. Technically I wasn't lying because MS doesn't spin sperm. LOL!

No. We wouldn't want our girls to think they aren't good enough. Our families would not be supportive, either.

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Originally Posted by grits

If it works, we will be honest with anybody who asks but we won't offer the information. I'm guessing there won't be any questions as 1. We actually need IVF to conceive so that part is known and 2. We are trying for B/G twins. If somebody asks how we lucked out with B/G twins (if we are so lucky), I'll tell them about PGD.

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Or you can just tell that you got lucky, without further explanation :agree:

We also have told no one and we never will tell anyone. Only DH and I will know. I never want my boys to find out and wonder if we didn't love them enough or if they weren't enough. I never want anyone to treat my daughter differently because she was conceived under different circumstances and for different reasons. I never want anyone thinking that I didn't feel blessed enough with my two boys... Because that isn't it at all... But so many people just do not understand. So, we have decided to tell no one, and oddly, it isn't that hard to keep it a secret so far.

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Originally Posted by erinhen

We also have told no one and we never will tell anyone. Only DH and I will know. I never want my boys to find out and wonder if we didn't love them enough or if they weren't enough. I never want anyone to treat my daughter differently because she was conceived under different circumstances and for different reasons. I never want anyone thinking that I didn't feel blessed enough with my two boys... Because that isn't it at all... But so many people just do not understand. So, we have decided to tell no one, and oddly, it isn't that hard to keep it a secret so far.

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Very well said. This sums up our feelings as well.

The 1st time only my parents and a good friend. The second time the same. Now we are approaching our 3rd time. I guess I am over it. Now my parents, and 3 close friends know, but they are not telling anyone. Other than that no one knows. I just don't want her to grow up thinking she was conceived any differently (and i definitely do not want my boys ever knowing)...and i do not want people talking. Not that i care about myself, I just care about the girl and do not want people in her life knowing.

No, we would not tell anyone, its so many people that dont understand what we are going true..

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Originally Posted by norwegian

No, we would not tell anyone, its so many people that dont understand what we are going true..

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Are you planning on going HT, N? We have a large group of Internationals here that come to the States for HT. Most post in the private forums though.