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Good luck for sure! And yep, you're so right, HT is no magic solution either. It definitely has drawbacks, risks, high rate of failure, and for most of us the biggest factor is the immense cost.
A difficult decision for sure, certainly. I hope you can come to a decision you can find peace with. :)
I think I understand how you feel. This will be our 4th and final child. So I will be happy with either gender but I think hearing boy this time will be different than any of the other times because this time there won't be a little voice in the back of my head saying "well maybe next time". There won't be a next time so if I hear boy again I will finally have to let go of my dream of a DD. So right now I can still tell myself "maybe next time" but when or if I get a bfp there will be a sense of finality. So that might be sad and that makes me afraid to try kind of.
FX to all of us for bfp's and healthy babies!
I'm in the same boat as you girls. Two boys and want a little girl so bad it hurts.
I know swaying is not 100% but I feel it will put the odds on my side. I also know that I will love a my little boy if that's what I have. I had GD with my second boy. I think about having a boy and it depresses me but then I look at DS2 and I realize how much I will love any child of mine boy or girl BUT I REALLY WANT A GIRL.
I know we are gong to try because I think the regret of not trying will consume me where as if I had a boy I would be disappointed but know once the baby is born I will love it dearly and I would not regret anything.
The regret of not know would be a million times. worse.
I also can not only afford going HT. So natural is the only reasonable method for us.
And like I said I know swaying isn't 100% but I would like to make my chances as high as possible
Hi Aussie, I'm new here and really wish I'd found GD a couple of months ago as I wish I'd factored diet into my attempts. :-/
I am currently doing tracking through a fertility clinic, after a gf of mine with 3boys and a baby girl suggested it to me. She 100% believes she has a baby girl because of this.
Basically I have a blood test on day 2 of my cycle, day 6-7, day 10-11 and an internal scan to check for eggs, and then according to my levels, I'm guided as to when to bd to conceive a girl. Another bt day 15-16 to check I've ovulated and to test progesterone.
I'm currently in my 2ww of my 3rd cycle in 4 months. Last cycle I had a mmc.
I have 2 amazing little boys who are the loves of my life but (like most of us) feel I'm still waiting for my BFF to arrive.
Just wanted to let you know there are other options. I'm in oz too.
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Am3a- curious- what is this method? What levels do they check? Is this a company or doctor?
Hi nbp, this is a proper fertility clinic, one you would go to, to have IVF. I had to get a referral from my GP, then I had to see one of the specialists for my initial appointment and now I only deal with the nurses. This is not gender selection (it's illegal in Australia). It's just a precise tracking system. I take no medication for this. On my BT forms they test E2, P4 and LH. When I have a scan they count my follicles on both sides and measure the biggest one (coincidently, the 3 cycles I've tracked my left ovary has always had the biggest follicle).
It costs about $350 a cycle, plus initial setup costs; appt with specialist, full blood count, full internal with 3rd party specialists = $400.
Hope this helps!
Hi Am3a - I am an Aussie as well - I am curious whether you will share the name of the clinic and where it is located. Any extra help is always welcome.
www.hollywoodivf.com in Sydney and Perth. Happy to help with anymore info. 😊
Aussiemato2 - I know exactly how you feel. I am paralyzed with fear thinking that I will have another boy if we try for 1 more. We have 3 of the most amazing boys in the world ... but I don't think I could have another - I felt my GD was so bad with the 3rd - didn't exist with the other two, although I felt sad that my first wasn't a girl - that passed very quickly. I think the hardest part is mourning the dream ... I still haven't let go of mine. I recently decided I didn't want to do HT for various reasons - but just not sure if I can even bring myself to try again.
Sorry - I don't think that there is any real advice in their other than sharing my own experience.
Am3a - I would love to know how this works in more detail and how your gf got her girl using this method - worried though that it will hijack this post.