Originally Posted by
LolaInLove
THANK YOU for your advice! I kinda thought that was mularky, but my state (South Carolina) is not the most progressive sometimes. I'd love to have a midwife come out and assist if the baby and I are healthy and well, and just cry oops, we didn't make it in time. What happens when you do that? Are you supposed to bring your baby in to the doctor the next day or something?
Well...if the midwife was seeing you throughout the pregnancy for prenatals etc, she would be doing your PP care as well. No one would need to see the Dr. for health purposes other than a PKU test for baby. I would not get near the hospital because they will want to admit you and baby because you had an "unsanitary" home birth...sigh. I don't know all the details of how you could do it...but I do know many women that have their babies off the grid, in the States and although they sometimes have to jump through hoops for registering the births...it's all very smooth. Sometimes women lie about where they had the baby, they tell their Dr. that they had a homebirth across State lines(where it's legal for midwives to work) and that they would like to bring the baby for a visit. Pretty laid back...especially if your Dr. is supportive and doesn't freak out about it.
I have been reading about natural birth....and honestly, I had a good experience with DD2's vbac- I got to 9cm naturally, but having labored hard core for 14 hours (yea- with no meds at all, it took me that long!), and I was TERRIFIED of the ring of fire so I caved and got an epidural and rested for a bit before I had her. So, I'm not really opposed to having another one of those, but I would also love the homebirth experience.
Now that you've had one baby vaginally, the ring of fire may not be anything like the first one. And also-the ring of fire isn't as scary as what it's made out to be:) The fear that was in your head may have made the labour last longer as well- a woman emotional state plays a huge role during birth. As for me, I didn't feel any pain when I pushed out my third....no stretching pain at all which is most likely because your body remembers from the last time. Also- technically your second baby was your first birth...your second vaginal birth will be most likely be much faster and pushing will be much quicker and easier:) All I can say is there is nothing like reaching down and catching your own baby. Feeling your baby and your body through the entire experience....it's incredible:)
Everytime I read about you ladies' experiences, with getting to climb into your own bed immediately and have the family there, I want that. Plus, this is my last baby, and I am one of those "bucket list" kind of people, so I'd love to have the experience and know I did it. Any advice would be awesome, DoulaMama!!!! If you PM me your location in SC I will be able to get more info for you:) I'm going to talk to a very prominent woman in the birth industry in regards to midwives, and hopefully she'll be able to give me some info:) It may take a day or 2 to gather all the info...just bear with me... LOL Take Care and talk soon!!
