How to prepare for the outcome of the gender scan

I'm 11 weeks pregnant and have two gorgeous DSs.
Quite a ways off for me to find out yet, but my plan is:
We are having a private gender scan at 16 weeks and telling no one (4 weeks before the official 20 week scan), so that we, or rather I have time to love the idea of three boys, before going public (and the inevitable comments!)
A while ago I met a mum with three boys, who were just beautiful, well mannered and amazing and I keep picturing that in my head
I am convincing myself it is a boy (very similar pregnancy, although I'm craving more sweets and also more spotty this time, which is cruelly giving me hope!), only thinking of a boys name
I think if the day comes and chances are we are growing a little blue bundle, I will just try to really bear in mind how lucky we are. I've got lots of friends and family who've been through hell trying to conceive in first place or who have children with special needs. At the forefront, I just want a healthy baby. I am going to try to keep perspective (she says!).
Finally, I am going to let myself grieve for a while for never having a daughter. There's no shame in wanting a particular gender. My unborn child, whether blue or pink, will never ever know my feelings, he will be loved and cherished. This is just something I'll need to come to terms with. And I will.

Ipadmad and all the other lovely ladies have some amazing ideas...go figure, amazing ideas come come incredible ladies!!

Anywho, I recommend having a plan like the other posters. I did not have a plan when I found our DD3 was my 3rd girl and it was a miserable 3rd trimester.

Have a plan that involves lying if you need to and keeping things to yourself if needs be. If you want to be open about it, (if its a boy), then have a plan for that too.

Their is nothing wrong with saying, "baby wouldn't cooperate, we'll just have to wait until birth" when you know darn well what the gender is. Even from MIL and mom, its your baby and your business.

FWIW, having been there, done that I would keep the gender to myself (and DH) and just lie my lips off telling everyone I didn't care about the gender.

Hugs sweetie, we've been there and know your anxiety! Keep us posted!

I just wanted to add, that I was very upset when I found out ds3 was a boy, but I was feeling pretty okay about it by the time he was born. Now I love that little bugger to pieces. He's my little curly-haired snuggle baby, and I seriously cannot imagine my life without him. I can honestly say I love having 3 boys! So that really helps me in preparing for the possibility of boy #4.

Thank you so much for your thoughts and ideas ladies. I really value the fact that yall know where my heart is and where im coming from. That is something that ppl IRL don't understand at all (besides DH).

I just wanted to update with something that i have found that hopefully will curb any GD should our final baby not be our dream girl...DH asked me what i wanted for my birthday, so i told him i wanted a private early u/s to find the sex out. So we are booked for that March 16th. That is about 3-4 weeks earlier than when i would have originally found out (at the the "20 week" scan).
We are not going to tell anyone IRL that we are getting this scan. So if we do end up having another boy, then i wont have to answer to people nor hear their negative comments (which is something i worry about bc it happened w every other pregnancy). This will also give me time to let it sink in and get used to the idea of being a blue house. (should the baby be boy, which is something im trying to convince myself of so that im less disappointed but at this point im failing miserably at that :blush:) Anyways, I figure DH and I can keep the news to ourselves for a few weeks and just deal with our emotions and things, instead of having to deal with everyone elses on top of that. iykwim? I think this will also help when i go for my fetal survey. In every other pregnancy, the moment they tell me "it's a boy", i get upset and then i dont even care about the fact that im seeing my baby (in my head, i dont show my feelings during the scan though i do ball my eyes out in the car!) So i hope that this helps with that bond and connections. Hoping ill be over things on time for the 20 week scan and actually be able to enjoy the u/s.

If it's a girl, the entire universe will know. HAHA but im trying to not get my hopes up.

...only 21 more sleeps until we know!

hey falling2grace we have exact same story except mine I found out once i had them, i think finding out asap is the best damage limitation, i was sad when ds1 was a boy and gutted when ds2 was a boy you have to put a brave face on it when you've safely delivered a baby and everyone is healthy i couldn't eventotally share with my dh how i was feeling

this time i'm finding out as soon as possiable so i have as much time as possiable to deal with the feelings before baby arrives and so i hope find it easier.

no easy answers this is just a really sad situation and hard not to be jealous when other have girls which i hate

i hope we both hear girl my gender scan is a christmas pressie from dh, 33 sleeps till mine i hope we both hear pink - i'll be stalking you ;-0

Falling2grace, I think it is a great idea that you are finding out asap. I am the same way, it gives you time to decide what to do.

I am praying you have a girl but I do want to caution you if it is a boy. My GD was bad when I found out that DD3 was another girl, but the lame ass comments from everyone around me made it much worse.

FWIW, I make the suggestion to those who are having their 3rd of the same gender to keep it to themselves until they have a baby in their arms. People are much nicer when you have a beautiful baby in their face as opposed to the looming idea of 3 of the same!!!

Hope that helps and all my pink dust is on its way to you and fish2012!!!

I'm with you girls. I have two sons and although I am only 5 weeks along with my third I am already worrying that it is a boy. Last night I dreamt about giving birth to another boy! I love having my two boys but will forever be sad if I don't have a daughter.

After reading your posts I will definitely form a plan for coping if it does turn out to be a boy. Great ideas so far. One thing I had thought of was getting the sonographer to write the sex on a piece of paper rather than show me in the room so that I can concentrate on the real purpose of the scan at the time and then fall apart privately at home later if it is not our DG. Good luck to everyone waiting to find out.

^Thats a great idea as well!

13 days until our private scan!!!!!

So we picked out our boy and girl name. I feel like coming up w a boy name prior to finding out the gender will help if I have to deal w GD. I'm excited about the name and using it. I know I'll still be sad if we don't get our dream girl but using the name is giving me something to look forward to and be happy about.

Oh! And the name is Levi Israel. This baby will join biggest brother Isaiah Joseph and big brother Elliot Nehemiah. Though I'd be even more happy of we got our DG, Macy Victoria. But I'm glad I have at least something to look forward to if we end up hearing 'its a boy!' For the final time.

Fabulous names!