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Can't wait to find out
If this baby had been another girl we may have tried again for a boy. This one is only number 2 for me but he is number 4 for my DP, i feel like i could happily have a 3rd and not sway just have a lucky dip but DP says he has had enough and is happy to finally have his boy.
I have always wanted 5 of mixed genders. Both myself and DH come from large families, I am 1 of 6 and DH is 1 of 7 and I love the madness of when everyone gets together. Also we always have someone around to call on if we need a babysitter for a few hours or need a chat or just need help with something ( luckly 7 of our sisters live close by). I think it is fantastic to be part of a family like that an even though we didn't have too many holidays growing up and most of my clothes were hand me downs from older sisters (DH is only boy in the two families) neither of us ever felt deprived.
I had a c-section with DD and hoping for a VBAC this time so that I can keep my big family dream alive.
I knew that I would not want to keep going, which is why I did IVF for #4. DS3 was a failed sway, and although we were only going to have 2-3 kids originally we decided we could have one more if it's a girl. But I needed that guarantee. If I was going to be a boy mom I would rather just have the 3 kids. We would not have tried naturally again if IVF had not worked for us. Although I have no regrets about having more kids than we originally planned, I know that I'm at my limit with 4.
But I think that each person's limit is different and each person's tolerance for an opposite is different, so it's a very personal decision for each of us. :)
I am struggling with this question right now. I always wanted 4 kids. Of course, my dream family was 2 boys and 2 girls, but that is out the window now. So I'm getting the "right" number, but not the right gender composition, unfortunately.
After each kid, dh has said he was done with kids, but then he always came around (even without me nagging!) But this time, we both agreed 4 is enough. We were supposedly done after 3. But I keep thinking I have to keep going until I get my girl. :( I feel so much like something is missing. So I've started to think about a 5th. There are obviously some big problems with this idea; mainly dh is totally against it. Also, a big reason I wanted 4 was that I like even numbers - everyone has a buddy. Five would throw that off. Plus, I am supposed to get a job at some point here, most likely when ds3 goes to kindergarten. And I'm 33; I really don't want to end up in "advanced maternal age" territory. And unless we go high tech (which isn't really an option, given our money situation), I imagine it will be a fifth boy. I feel like I had a pretty good sway this time and it didn't work. I will be very upset if I end up with 5 boys. I love my boys, but if I try again and get another boy, I think that will be very hard on me.
In the pro column, we already have a minivan that seats 8, so that is not a problem. We are currently working on selling our house and are planning on building a new house with 4 or possibly even 5 bedrooms, so there would be room for another baby. I am ridiculously fertile and have very easy pregnancies and births (thus far) so I have absolutely no problem being pregnant again (in fact, I love being pregnant!).
I have vaguely been considering NOT going on the minipill 6 weeks postpartum like I have every other time and just seeing what happens. I do extended bfing, so I likely wouldn't get pregnant anyway, but I feel like if we are going to do it, I'd like it to be sooner rather than later. I just don't know.
I wish I could, DH has said no more even though we planned one more and this time has been much worse and have had bad reactions from people even though its only number 4 so not a huge family and so this will have to be our last.
I ideally wanted 3, both me and DH are 1 of 3 (DH 1 of 3 boys!), but I now find myself saying I want 4, I think it initially was a fail safe (sounds awful I know!) but now think 4 would be great. Our house currently has enough space for 4 but any more would require us to move, having 4 would need us to get bigger cars though. I love kids, both genders have always been my dream though!
We always wanted four. Well, I always wanted four. DH was cool with three or four. But has no problem with four.
I did think about it before we got pregnant this time around...what I would do/feel if all four were boys (or girls, but obviously I already had boys...so that wouldn't happen! Lol). And I came to the conclusion that I would be fine. We know that four is good for so many reasons. Money, time, emotional involvement, house size, my physical health (I have a blood clotting issue and I don't know how many times we can get lucky and have uncomplicated pregnancies, it's hard on my body).
So my answer is no. I would not have a fifth simply because I wanted a specific gender. I feel it's too much pressure on the child and potentially could make things really hard in the family life department. But, I do feel its easy for me to say it now. We are getting a girl and obviously won't be facing having four boys. I did feel this way before we knew she was a girl. But I guess I'll never really know what I would have done after four boys. We do still plan a fourth. Without gender hopes.
#5 is it for us, this is my 11th pregnancy, I want off this roller coaster lol and close this chapter of my life and move on, I would love for this to be a girl but if not I will love this baby and just learn to live with the fact I will never have a daughter
This is it for us, no matter what gender we get. I always wanted a pigeon pair when I was younger. Now we have three boys and I couldn't imagine life without them. I desperately want this baby to be a girl. If it is not a girl, then that's that. Four is our max.