Let's cross our fingers! :fx:
Let's cross our fingers! :fx:
DH said he isn't coming with me to the US this time because he doesn't want to see me cry...
I, too, worried about letting my family down if this baby was our 4th boy. It made me sick. My mom made it worse by calling me and texting me to "think pink" or "If you believe it, she will come". Sometimes it came off as joking, but it was hard to hear bc I wanted a daughter so desperately. My MIL has 2 sons and has put serious pressure on me to have a girl. In fact, when we found out we were actually having a girl she said, after sighing, "it's ANOTHER boy, isn't it?". That really hurt my feelings. I thought to myself, and what if it was a boy? Now I have to deal with her showing favoritism for our daughter over our boys. If that happens, she won't be allowed near my children. Anyway, I also didn't want anyone to know how badly we wanted a DD. So I understand that guilt. I didn't want anyone to pity us or think that we didn't want our baby if she was a boy. We didn't tell anyone when our u/s was bc I didn't want constant texts and phone calls asking what we were having. I knew that if our fourth and last baby was a boy, I would have cried my eyes out. I hate admitting that. I know I would have loved him just as much as I would have loved a daughter.... But the thought of never having a daughter was heartbreaking. It would have been even worse bc I had a gut feeling that we were having a girl. Anyway, I completely understand what you're feeling. You're definitely not alone :bighug: .
Hey fellow Navy wife, we are a rare and tough breed aren't we??Quote:
Originally Posted by Navywife620
Like the others have said GD is a mean monster and affects our thinking to an extreme. You are perfectly normal for wanting a girl and being anxious about it.
What you said to your mom was completely fine, If it makes you feel better tell her next time you talk to her all the details of what you will do if you have a boy. There is nothing wrong with playing 'what if'?
While we should all be grateful with a healthy baby, not getting your desired gender is tough and is a separate emotion.
Don't let your GD feelings mess with your head because you are in good company of a lot of ladies who truly understand your heartache!!
I'm sorry you feel like this, you are definitely in good company!
With DS2 I had done an ill informed IG girl sway, my pregnancy was also completely different! I was convinced he was a girl! My 20 week scan proved otherwise!
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A few of my very close friends (who know about my want for a girl) will know when my ultrasound is. Other than that I don't plan on telling anyone when I'm going!! I also plan on asking the tech to put the gender revealing pics in an envelope so that I can get as far away from the office as possible before finding out. I always have check-ups following my ultrasounds and the last thing I want to have to do is put on a big fake happy face if we don't get our dream gender.
I do feel like I'd be letting people down. My eldest son, my husband and my niece who is desperate to have a girl cousin. She doesn't even have a sister.
I too worry that by wishing too hard I'm going to make some thing happen. Every time in the first few weeks that I experienced cramping I thought it was because it was a boy and I was wishing it away but wishing for a girl. When I pray that I have a girl I always have to qualify that I want a healthy baby and it would be even more perfect if it is a girl.
I feel bad because I feel like I'm asking the baby to be something its not (pretty sure now its a boy)
I'm sorry you're feeling this way.
I kinda did the same thing and then felt the same way with DS2 (due in August). I kept telling my mom and DH that if this baby is a girl what I'm going to do and then swearing up and down it was a girl and then when we found out it was a boy I was sad but also felt sad that I was letting everyone down by getting mine and their hopes up.
No one was disappointed that it was a boy...if anyone was it was mostly me and expressing my feelings that I let everyone down and hearing their kind words helped me cope.
Before I knew my identical twins were boys I went on talking about matching flower girls for when DP and I got married and had even brought matching girl outfits because I was so hopeful.