Feeling conflicted ..

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Originally Posted by desperate4blue

Hi Adia

Are u currently in the process of trying to conceive a son? I have 3 girls also!

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Yep, I am. I desperately want a boy but I have had horrid GD since DD3 was born and i"m 37 so if I can only have another baby and its a girl, I'll be fine. I'll get over myself and move on.

I'm an old IG member from way back in 2008. I started off my sway with A-gender but they dropped me and wouldn't respond after November. Thank goodness for Gender Dreaming. I started switching to the HE diet, got prego in Nov but it was a blighted ovum and miscarried in Dec.

I am still TTC. DH is getting worn out so I am hoping and praying this month will work.

I was on a lot of supplements so I backed off the supplements quite a bit and I'm still on the HE. I think the Gender Dreaming method makes a lot more sense than IG and A-gender. Much more practical and in synch with nature.

How is your TTC going Desperate4blue??

I guess our situation is a little unusual, although I never realized that until reading these posts. Although DH really wanted a boy as his second child, he wouldn't have minded if it was a girl. I know I've mentioned this before, but he has no idea I even swayed for a boy. If he had his way, we'd have five kids. I think Rainbow baby captured my thoughts on this perfectly...my DH is EXACTLY the kind of person to say something like that, but not mean it that way. In THAT way he is totally a man without any sense of compassion, and I am almost positive that not a second of forethought has gone into any word that comes out of his mouth.

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Originally Posted by Rainbow baby

"I don't want to. I want to make sure we do it right because if it's another girl I will regret that we tried in the first place." Would he really?? Or is he just trying to explain in the wrong words that he wants to do everything by the book and get that little boy you want so much. Maybe his scared he can't give you your boy. I know my husbands always at me saying come on here lets just do it now, I want a baby. I am the one knowing I would regret not trying. Not that I would regret having another boy but I would regret not trying for a girl. Maybe that's what he was getting at?

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I am planning on having another talk with him about it tonight to find out what he really meant. I think you might be onto something. He knows how desperately I want a son. I feel like in his mind he might be like "What if I only have girl sperm?!" which I will admit I have thought sometimes too. Until coming onto this site and realizing they all have the same of each. Thanks for throwing that possibility out there. Makes me feel a bit better!

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Originally Posted by Adia

AMEN!! My DH did want kids when we had them, was desperate for DD2 (our first) and specifically asked for another baby when we got DD3 but now that we are in the thick of raising kids, he's exhausted and I have had to coerce him into TTC. He wants the fun parts of having kids, but begrudges the unpleasant parts. I love all the parts of raising a kid and I am hoping I will have the chance to have one more baby....so far its proving tough!!

As for the only child thing. I have a dear friend who is an only child. She gets very upset when she hears of others making the firm decision to have an only child. She always wished for a brother or sister and deliberately had 2 kids so they would have each other. I think her issue is valid and I always mention it in a sneaky way when I hear the "WE ARE ONLY HAVING ONE!!!"

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I have only half siblings. And it's not the same as a full blood sibling! All my life I wanted a little brother or sister not realizing how old my mom was and that she had to have a hysterectomy after me. It was always in my plan to have at least 3 kids. DH knew this when we started dating when we were younger and thought it sounded great then. But after having DD1 while he was deployed and he missed everything until she was 11 months old it has really thrown off everything. I think a lot of his reasoning for not wanting another child is because he feels guilty that he missed so much of DD's beginning of her life and he doesn't want her to feel "left out" if he experiences that with another child.

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Originally Posted by The Anchor

I guess our situation is a little unusual, although I never realized that until reading these posts. Although DH really wanted a boy as his second child, he wouldn't have minded if it was a girl. I know I've mentioned this before, but he has no idea I even swayed for a boy. If he had his way, we'd have five kids. I think Rainbow baby captured my thoughts on this perfectly...my DH is EXACTLY the kind of person to say something like that, but not mean it that way. In THAT way he is totally a man without any sense of compassion, and I am almost positive that not a second of forethought has gone into any word that comes out of his mouth.

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Wow that is awesome that your DH wants so many kids! I think you are right though. He is saying something and it is coming out the wrong way.

There are guys out there who do want kids don't get me wrong, but I have talked to a lot of people and I have seen the majority where the wife is a baby pusher and the husband is meh or even NO!!

I think you will regret it if you don't try, and I agree with Cinss, your DD deserves a sibling, and your DH will be happy once the baby comes.