just to add they say you regret the things you dont do so if you went for number 4 and got your girl (or Boy) i bet in time you'd be so pleased you did but if you were in 2 minds about trying for a 4th child and decided not to you would probably wonder and have a lot of what if questions! i personally am pleased i went for my 4th son he may not have been my girl but he is my world :)
Congratulations on your baby boy Navy!
We have had 5 boys in a row (one died at 20 weeks) and then a girl and then a boy (both m/c's at 11 weeks). The last four pregnancies were IG or LE sways. we haven't had much luck so far but we are trying for our fifth child and I pray we are blessed finally with a DD as I am getting older.
The third boy was the hardest for me too. I cried a lot while pregnant and it was when pregnant with DS3 that we started our plans for HT 8 years ago. That didn't work out for us and we moved to swaying. I have always wanted 4 kids and when we had DS4 we decided we would try one last time for a DD. This will be my limit and I will know I did everything I could to get a girl so I can have no regrets. We have a tally of conceiving 6 boys and 1 girl so it is really hard to believe that #5 will be a girl but I am giving it all I have and we will see. I just need one to stick.
I love all my boys and I have such a special bond with my fourth. Many other moms of 4 boys had written their fourth was special but until I experienced it for myself I had no idea just how right they were. I never thought I would be a proud mom of four boys and I totally am. I think there is something special to have a family of all one gender. Of course I would really love to experience a DD and I hope we all are lucky enough to reach our dream but if not I know now that although I will probably always continue to have good and bad GD days, I will be ok.
Wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy. xx
I had a fourth boy and he was the only one of the bunch that I desperately wished he was a girl while pregnant and suffered horrible GD that didn't go away for longer than I care to admit. He was a difficult baby and I shed many many tears.
Over time, all the GD went away (he must of been about 2 or so..and coincidentally when I stopped nursing) so I sometimes wonder if I just needed to be a little more separate from the demands of nursing to fully enjoy him :( But looking back, I don't regret nursing him so long or fully working through all the thoughts of girls/boys/gender/meaning of life LOL while I came to terms with having four boys because for me anyway, it really did go away... the extreme desire for a girl. It took me that long to wrap my head around that I, ME, had 4 boys!! LOL
The spacing of the kids is perfect to me...there are the two Bigs (aged 9 and 8) and the two Little (aged 6 and 4) and each set has each other on somewhat the same developmental time frame to play with each other/buddy system when needed etc, not to mention sharing a room ;)
So then I went for number 5, but more with the mind-set that I wanted a baby more than anything. I didn't sway but I guess swayed blue more than anything, which was fine by me...as I had so many miscarriages that being in optimal health somehow translated to a blue sway...but I wanted that baby.
NOW, it hit me this baby boy won't have a "buddy" like my Bigs and my Littles, and how I wish I could have a set of Tinys :) I would want that baby to be a boy LOL so the set would be a pair together to do things with, share room etc
Its just funny how over time, you can let go of things and learn to enjoy the new and when you get to be old hag like me (40), I think the gender thing does go away?? Because you want a baby before the party is over and that just trumps everything else and you love your kids sooooo much that fussing about gender doesn't seem so important any more. ALSO you are so busy taking care of your 4 children, there simply isn't time to linger by baby dresses and bows LOL :)
Good luck with your decision and it can be a rather rough road that you have to be willing to travel.
Wow!! Thank you everyone for your insight and input. we are pretty sure we will have another just to even our family out and yes try to give me one last shot to try for our girl. 4 is my definite limit. I am fully prepare for another boy though. At this point I truly having a feeling that DH only has y sperm. I know they say they every man has 50/50... I am thinking my husband is weird and rare. I can only count the number of families on 1 hand I know in real life who have 3 or more kids and they are all one gender.
We planned on 3 kids and thought I was done after DS3 despite major GD with him.
But by the time he was 18 months old my DH knew I would never be completely happy without a daughter so he agreed to HT which required an overseas trip so lots of planning. 3 months before we were due to leave a baby girl came up for adoption which I thought was the answer to my prayers. Sadly that didn't work out, neither did my IVF or another attempt at adoption.
I became so obsessed with getting my daughter that I forgot to consider if I actually wanted 4 kids.
Last year I started my swaying journey and after 7 months of swaying I got my BFP. That's when it hit me what I had done.
My sway was a success and I was lucky enough to get my baby girl who is absolutely perfect and beautiful.
She is only a week old so so far just a baby but 4 kids and a full time job is hard work and I am pretty sure it was madness to go back to the newborn stage just when I had managed to get my sons past all the little kid stage.
My husband and I always talked about having 3-4 of our own. My 1st DS is not his. With this baby it was going to be the last month of trying for another baby. I was starting to feel content with my family and having a 5th was starting to scare me. Well I got pregnant and did find out my baby is a girl. I did not have gd until after I had my 3rd son and thought my 4th was going to be my last so my GD was bad with him for a couple of months after I found out.