help - scared I'll crash

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On another note, my sonographer told me she sees lots of people who were told wrong gender at 14-15 weeks. Maybe there's still hope?[/QUOTE]

This is particularly good to hear! I know NHS scans are sometimes off at 14/15 weeks, partly because they sometimes use older technology, and partly because if you get an NHS scan that early they aren't looking specifically for gender so may not bother trying to get much detail. So I could understand a sonographer being skeptical about early NHS scans. But maybe your sonographer was talking about private scans too? You think?

9Grasping at straws here - in case you didn't recognise the signs!)

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Originally Posted by wantmoreblue

No advice, as I am going through all the same feelings.

I was supposed to be team green to help minimize my GD, but at a 35 week scan the US technician revealed "girl." This pregnancy has been so difficult already, but after hearing that I just lost all hope, and any shred of excitement. And yes, went through a time of denial researching scan mistakes, too.

My feelings are so out of control right now I am just hoping it is the hormones. I am praying for all us GD women. No one should have to go through this kind of pain. Hope it helps a little to know you are not alone.

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I somehow missed this reply. God I'm so sorry you're feeling this way too. You really wanted another boy? I'm not sure team greening it would necessarily reduce GD would it? Is the theory that it's better to face the issue when you're overwhelmed by holding your new baby in your arms? I think that's risky. At least you have a chance to come to terms with the situation if you know in advance. The other way sounds like a recipe for PND. I wouldn't want to live through the first week of GD with a new baby. Horrendous.

I think it's better you know - and I'm so sorry you didn't get another little boy. No advice either - just deep sympathy

wantmoreblue - I wanted to tell you I made a decision not to find out if it is definitely a girl at our 20week scan. I'm going to ask the sonographer to say if it's definitely a boy - or to say she can't get a good view. That way I either get to CELEBRATE or I get to hope a bit for the rest of the pregnancy. Then if I need to face the fact that I have a daughter it will be after another 6 months of counselling and with an amazing live baby in my arms. I think that will definitely be better.

I did a few old wives tale gender tests and had 3 psychic predictions and they all said BOY and while I know they could all be total rubbish I've felt so much better that even if I am deceiving myself I think it is much, much healthier for me to feel this way than it is for me to cry all the time. PLEASE NO ONE TELL ME ABOUT OLD WIVES TALES BEING RUBBISH AND PSYCHIC PREDICTIONS BEING WRONG - I WANT TO BE HOPEFUL FOR NOW! Living in this state has got to be healthier for my baby than living in a fog of GD.

I really hope you're doing okay. Hugs to you.