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I didn't find out on either of my boys! Stayed team green until the end. I am ttc in August and because I am swaying pink I will be finding out at my 20 week scan as will be curious to know. I think to if it was a boy I would have a few months to get my head around it and used to it and be ready to welcome him when he is born
What is team green?
Team green is not finding out the gender of the baby until you give birth
We found out with DS1 and I did have a bit of gender disappointment. I just didn't find the pregnancy nearly as exciting once we knew he was a boy. Once he was born of course it was a totally different story and I couldn't imagine not wanting a boy.
We went team green with DS2 as my preference for a girl wasn't as strong and had no GD when he was born, just fell completely in love with my little man.
We're team green so far with this one as DH really doesn't want to know as he doesn't want to feel GD if its a boy. I may try and find out a bit later in the pregnancy but not sure yet. Like Atomic I 'really' feel like its a girl and no matter how hard I try just can't convince myself it's a boy but don't want to be let down at the birth.
oh ok thanks.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kro428
I think I'd be way too anxious to wait.
I think you just have to evaluate WHY you want to do team green. If you want to do it for the experience, the fun of the surprise, and because you really believe you will be head-over-heels in love with either gender in the delivery room...do it!
But I think that sometimes people confuse wanting the surprise with wanting the surprise that they WANT. Like the surprise of hearing 'its a girl' and not taking into account how it would affect them, in that moment, if they hear 'it's a boy'. Or they think it would be better to have that "hope" the whole time, without really considering how its going to feel when they find out its not what they wanted.
I think evaluating your own reasons for wanting to do it will give you the answer. We considered team green for our third, but I realized that I wanted time to process and that I wouldn't handle the birthday as well if I was surprised by a third boy. I wanted nothing but excitement. Plus, a very good friend of mine was team green for her third and final baby. She had a amazing birth (her first natural one), but felt that twinge when she heard the midwife say "it's a boy" (their third). And me, I wanted no twinges. I have heard multiple people who still get GD even while looking at their gorgeous new baby. It wasn't a risk I wanted to take.
But we will be team green or our fourth and final. I can say we have no preference and that is worth the experience to me. :)
I think it's better to find out. With DS1 I found out and had terrible GD. Then I had a failed attempt at PGD at HRC, then a miscarriage after that. Then got p with twins and chose to remain team green. Tbh the whole pregnancy was a nightmare. I was constantly dreaming if two girls or bg but in my heart feared two boys and was terrified. I kept thinking I'd wait and then it wouldn't matter - I would love the babies regardless. But when they were born - both boys - I had a terrible shock and wasn't prepared at all. I struggled to bond with them for weeks and even now at five months old, I don't feel close to them. For me team green was a disaster and I believe I should have found out and not been so terribly shocked and disappointed at the birth.
I am 17 weeks pregnant and already have 3 girls we are going team green this time around no more babies after this one. But seems pregnancy is going by faster. :) I'm excited no matter what were having!
Hey hun, I'm planning to stay team green this time around too, I found out with both my boys, DS1 I actually wanted a boy. The reason being is my hubby really wanted our first to be a son, I had a private gender scan at 16 weeks (xmas eve) and didn't tell him about it. I wrapped up an 'its a boy' teddy along side the potty shot and put it under the tree so he found out on xmas day he was having his boy :) with DS2 I also went for a private gender scan at 16 weeks and I was beyond gutted. I was soooo upset and suffered from GD so badly. Now I feel like sh*t for feeling that way at all as he is the best wee dude ever! I read on here that someone was planning to wait till the birth but instead of having the whole 'its a boy' 'its a girl' thing, they were going to have the baby passed to them wrapped up and have time to bond with the baby before having a look down there. I think its a great idea and one that I'm going to go with. I would hate to think that I would feel anything but happy when I'm holding my little bundle. Hugs x
I went team green with DD2. I wanted to experience giving birth and the "its a ..." I was so relieved labour was over and baby was out I don't think i would have cared if it was a cat id just given birth to! I didnt get GD with DD2 but I may have if I had the scan.
BTW it was the LONGEST WAIT OF MY LIFE my pregnancy with DD2 OMG i even rang the u/s place 2 weeks after the twenty week scan and said PLEASE PLEASE ive changed my mind tell me what it is!! They just laughed at me and said that I was welcome to rebook and they would pull out my files, but I was scared DH would find out ( he was determined to be team green) so i declined.
There is no way im doing team green this time!