Feeling crazy for considering HT

It sounds like pessimistic realism to me!

Definition of pessimism-

A tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; a lack of hope or confidence in the future.

If you expect the worst, you'll never be disappointed. It does sound very negative.

If you have been trying to have a girl the last with the last 4 children, you must be somewhat of an optimistic person, right? I think the cost of HT changes everything. It is expensive and just not possible for all of us.

As far as hitching ones hopes...the same could be said whether you sway or try HT so I don't see how that helps at all. HT and swaying are BOTH attempts to control something that is not entirely in your control. The difference is the money involved.

I could go outside and get hit by a bus tomorrow but that isn't realism. See the definition above.

And Cat, I am not trying to pick on you but it's hard to sit and reading someone proposing worst case scenario and call it realism.

If you have been trying naturally/swaying for a girl with the last 4 pregnancies, you must be an optimist, right? Why is HT the option that will fail and not swaying? That's what I do not understand. We all must have hope. Why else are we all here?

Once I found out that DD was a girl, I started researching HT. I can honestly say that planning HT allowed me to preoccupy myself and it kept my GD at a manageable level. Also, I could be happy for people having a boy. When a friend announced that they were going to have a boy.. I could say "congrats" with sincerity, not resentment. I know I would have a son.. Now the question is, "when?" not "will I ever?"

For years and years we discussed having #3. The one thought in the back of mind was if I was guaranteed a girl I wouldn't hesitate. I couldn't bare the thought of sawying. Some how I just knew I would have a DS with a sway. I researched adoption even met with an agency. The stars just never aligned. High Tech feels like my last hope. I think I'll be fine without #3 if high tech fails. At least ill know I tried everything. For me trying high tech is the only way Ill be able to heal and move on without a DD. There isn't anything in the world I could spend this money on that is more valuable than a DD or minimum peace of mind of fighting a good fight.

I have such an overwhelming calm and peace about high tech. I feel it will work. I think it's going to work the first time. I wish I could go tomorrow. I know that the inner peace it brings me means its the right thing at the right time.

So, if your crazy I guess I'm crazy too. Lol for the record I don't think we're crazy at all.

Cherry Bomb - you hit the nail on the head for me! this is EXACTLY how I feel too.

Where are you cycling? When?

Good luck

It's NEVER crazy to follow your dream!!! :)

HT was the best thing that happened to me. Now I am cured from all the crap I'd been feeling for the past 3 years. It made me a better and stronger person who is not preoccupied with self-pity all the time. My ht journey had a twist of magic when my girl emby self corrected against all odds. So don't rule out that positive things can happen too!

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Originally Posted by queen-bee

My ht journey had a twist of magic when my girl emby self corrected against all odds. So don't rule out that positive things can happen too!

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Queenbee, what does self-corrected mean?

Embryos can test abnormal in certain situations at one point but actually be normal when retested.

I think we each have different paths that we will take to get our desired gender and we may not understand why someone takes a path different from what we would choose. But we have to both respect someone else's path AND someone's decision NOT to take the same path. There's no right or wrong path if we're all trying to get to the same place.