For those of you who went team green and didnt get DG

I didn't find out with my first and I wish that I had. When he was born the first thing I did was look to see if he was a girl or boy. I didn't even look at his face, or see if he had all his fingers or toes. I was disappointed at first and it was terrible knowing everyone in that room could see the smile vanish from my face.

With my second I found out at 20wks and at his birth I looked him straight in his adorable little face. I kissed his little fingers and toes and knew I loved him at that second.

I'm finding out with this one as well because I want the birth to focus on my baby as he is, and not his gender. Having the last 20 weeks to come to terms is so much easier than trying to fake it in front of the doctors, nurses, and family members.

They were due in July but born 2nd of June at 35 weeks. It is common for twins to be early but they were pretty big and healthy. I feel so lucky and try to focus on that. I am loving this age, they are so cute!
Althoguh I am planning another there is still a chance it wont happen due to just not having enough money to support another child. We both want one more but will have to wait and see

Eden I am team green this time. I found out with all my boys, was over the moon with my first son but the other two was disappointed. With DS3 I felt so numb but when he was born I loved him so much.

I'm so at a loss now. My 20 week scan is on Thursday and apparently they now ask gender here which they never did before (you had to book a private scan). I still think I should go team green but I am worried I'll feel disappointment at birth.

Told dh not to let me fold at scan!

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Originally Posted by Waiting4Daisy

Eden I am team green this time. I found out with all my boys, was over the moon with my first son but the other two was disappointed. With DS3 I felt so numb but when he was born I loved him so much.

I'm so at a loss now. My 20 week scan is on Thursday and apparently they now ask gender here which they never did before (you had to book a private scan). I still think I should go team green but I am worried I'll feel disappointment at birth.

Told dh not to let me fold at scan!

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I have noticed your signature and may be in your position in time. Stay strong not to find out. If you want to know what it's like to have a surprise and you fold then you might be quite disappointed in yourself especially if it's your last one. Goodluck. I really really hope you get your surprise baby girl

I really wish I had stayed Team Green. Hating this pregnancy now. All the sickness etc just seems pointless.
I know once I saw DS2 in the delivery room I fell in love despite wanting him to be a girl so can't imagine I wouldn't have done the same again. Instead I've got to fake it for the rest if the pregnancy until I see my little man.
Was really planning on staying Team Green but caved at the scan!

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Originally Posted by Mabel_79

I really wish I had stayed Team Green. Hating this pregnancy now. All the sickness etc just seems pointless.
I know once I saw DS2 in the delivery room I fell in love despite wanting him to be a girl so can't imagine I wouldn't have done the same again. Instead I've got to fake it for the rest if the pregnancy until I see my little man.
Was really planning on staying Team Green but caved at the scan!

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Sorry to hear this :( Thanks for sharing though. You have given me more strength not to cave at the scan myself. I hope I do not cave. I hope you feel better soon

123 - I don't know how I missed you were pregnant! Congrats!! Awesome news. I stayed team green and can tell you, for me, the emotions leading up to the 20 week scan were MUCH greater than afterward. I was so conflicted, writing pro/con lists, and went in sure I'd have to find out b/c my DH wanted to know. But then I realized I didn't HAVE to learn then. I could wait another day. And then after a day I realized I could wait a week. And then after that it got much much easier. I LOVED being team green - I loved being able to honestly tell people I didn't know what I'm having 'and don't care' with a confident (and genuine-looking!) smile on my face. And as the months went by, I realized I meant what I said.

I did have a boy as DS2 but I'd prepared myself well for that, as I was 95% sure I was having a boy. (I thought I might have sight of something during the 20 week scan despite trying hard to keep eyes averted. Plus I'd had a feeling for a long while - before even being pregnant - that I was going to have a boy!).

I felt a little sadness in the weeks after after as I was sure at the time it was my last child, (He may well still be). But it was MUCH MUCH easier to love my pregnancy, to truly enjoy it, to not regret when I was so pumped full of preggo hormones.. The bit of sadness after didn't affect my bonding with my beautiful boy who is the world's most happy baby, a total delight.

Just tell yourself to stay team green during the 20 week scan and then see how you feel after a week. You can always alway learn later. But once you know for sure, you can't unlearn.

Thankyou all for your responses, we had the scan yesterday and found out its boy number 3 for us. Im not as sad as I thought I would be but have had a few bouts of tears, I think its the shock more than anything as I truly thought it would be a girl. We told tech we didnt want to know then 15 mins in I had a change of heart. It was quite scary at one point because the tech couldnt find all 4 heart chambers so had me go out for 10 mins and come back in, was concerned for our little bubs health. Lucky all is ok but have to go back at 24 weeks to double check. Im sad my dd wont have a sister but so glad my little ds will be close to his little brother, have never experienced having 2 of the same sex close together. Im so glad we found out now as I feel at peace and can bond with this baby and the obsessing over gender and old wives tales was causing a lot of anxiety and stress.

Congratulations on a healthy boy! Glad all is well and your coming to term with it.