need to vent to those who I know will understand

So sorry you had such a horrid day yesterday, Lucky and of course you are not a bad person for feeling like that. It is so hard when some people just seem to get what they want so easily and don't even realise it! I sooo get the shopping, after DS3 was born I couldn't even go into a shop to buy him anything new, because it was just too painful knowing there would be pink in there that I couldn't have and at the time thought I never would. You will get your DD though, one way or another. So keeping everything crossed for you for April. Big hugs xx

You are not a bad person. I have a 7 year old niece and I felt the same way when she was born. She is 7 months younger than my third son. I started going to her recitals at three. I was somewhat happy that I could buy clothes and toys for my niece, but still felt the void. Now I have my daughter and of course that void is filled. I do hope you get your daughter one day.

You are not a bad person, you are a human person with feelings. You cannot help how you feel any more than you can help what you want. I used to feel like the girls sections in department stores were like a secret society I wasn't allowed to join. But think of it as practice. You will need to find out where all the good stores are so that you will know where to go for your DD!!

thanks Zibi - that made me smile and well up at the same time!

I so completely understand Lucky - I have 2xDS and my sister recently had a daughter. I just knew she was going to have a girl from the very start and I was gutted tbh (sounds so mean!!). She often talks about how she is convinced that the next one will be a boy, which feels like she is completely throwing in my face that I can't make girls and boys, but she can!!
Anyway, I digress! I honestly don't think that unless you have at least two DC of the same gender, then you don't always really get Gender Desire and so she either thinks she is giving you a look into the otherside (as a nice thing) or she genuinely isn't thinking about/understanding your GD. If she was to have another DD, then she might get it more.
Its hard for us to know how to channel and deal with GD, but sounds like you are being a fab big sister.
Fingers crossed to you having your own DD!!xx

thanks Jen, you're right…and I am sure my sister will have a boy next, she has always wanted a boy! hopefully by then I will have a DD and I won't care!