Only 1 girl to transfer and Im feeling hopeless :(

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Originally Posted by jilliciousca

Oh Jany, Im so excited to see that you finally got your baby girl and wow you went thru a lot to get her! So happy for you! I went to Dr Acasio in S. CA.

Nuthin, sweet of you to think of me! Husband and I have been married 3 years and started trying then. Its always been about a girl for us. Initially we did all the sway techniques naturally, then we did the spinning w/ the IUI's and we saved the extra $4k for the gender testing specifically to make sure we put in girls. Our goal has always been to conceive a girl. In part this is due to genetic concerns and having autism in boys hit close to home for us w/ 2 boys, so were extra concerned about that. I know girls can get it too, but odds are much higher w/ boys.
DH feelings now are were going to get the girl and hes excited were further along than weve been previously. I dont think either of us anticipated such a long road! Hes definitely more of a glass half full type (and not pumped up w/ hormones for the last month!) haha

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Feeling for u honey. I know how desperate one can become in this situation. Please advise where u have had the soerm spinning done? Thanku.

If the result was 7 boys, 1 girl, I'd say the spinning isn't very effective. Sperm spinning has never been proven to work.

Have you POAS yet? Any news?

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Originally Posted by jilliciousca

Oh Jany, Im so excited to see that you finally got your baby girl and wow you went thru a lot to get her! So happy for you! I went to Dr Acasio in S. CA.

Nuthin, sweet of you to think of me! Husband and I have been married 3 years and started trying then. Its always been about a girl for us. Initially we did all the sway techniques naturally, then we did the spinning w/ the IUI's and we saved the extra $4k for the gender testing specifically to make sure we put in girls. Our goal has always been to conceive a girl. In part this is due to genetic concerns and having autism in boys hit close to home for us w/ 2 boys, so were extra concerned about that. I know girls can get it too, but odds are much higher w/ boys.
DH feelings now are were going to get the girl and hes excited were further along than weve been previously. I dont think either of us anticipated such a long road! Hes definitely more of a glass half full type (and not pumped up w/ hormones for the last month!) haha

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I know this is a tough situation and just wanted to say that I hope everything turns out well. Hugs to you.

Hi there, I recommend you posting in the private section, you have to become a member but there are a ton more people in there posting about this and have so much knowledge.

Personally I think that a clinic should never put you in this kind of position.

Also with the 7 normal embryos and only 1 girl, this can be totally normal. We unfortunately see it a lot, but on the other hand we see it when people want a girl or a boy and get that many of their desired gender.

WIth fully tested embies you should never put back 2, especially first up. Twin pregnancies are hard and riskier.

I think when you cycle on meds you may make decisions you would not usually make. There is never a problem with freezing and coming back for FET if need be, but you should of both been in agreeance.

Good luck, if you both agreed on a girl, if you aren't pregnant then you could try again.

A lot of us have spent a ton on IVF, mine is in the 6 figures and I don't regret a cent, neither will you if you need to do another round.

Hi Everyone, thanks for all the replies and support!

Well, we did our transfer on Day 6 (Valentines Day) and put in our only girl and a boy. At 5dp6dt I got a BFP!! I was so excited and could just feel when it happened. I raced home and took a test and sure enough it was positive. I wanted to be sure all was good before I broke the news to DH, b/c I would hate to break his heart, so I waited 3 days until my beta and when they confirmed pregnancy I told him! I got flowers and made a special dinner, of spaghetti w/ PREGO and I had BUNS IN THE OVEN and then when he finished his plate he noticed the "Were Pregnant!" message on it. He was so so happy and it was a wonderful moment. I wrote him a sweet card about how Id been carrying his babys since Valentines Day..it was an amazing moment.

At 13DPO I did my first beta at 62.4, but 4 days later they said it dropped to 22 and to expect a chemical. Im so sad. It was my only shot at a girl :( AF still hasn't arrived, my BBT are remaining high, despite that I stopped taking meds 4 days ago. Now I guess I just wait for AF. Ill speak w/ my Dr. on Tuesday to see what happened.

My 35th bday is on Monday so Im really bummed w/ knowing we don't have a baby and pray AF isn't that day.

Glory - I completely agree with what you said "I think when you cycle on meds you may make decisions you would not usually make. There is never a problem with freezing and coming back for FET if need be, but you should of both been in agreeance." man I keep going over my decision in my head and wishing I had been more adamant on waiting with my girl.

DH and I have decided that since we have 5 boys on ice we will do a FET with those first, until we work out the kinks with why were having trouble getting pregnant and then do another round of IVF to get my girl.

I keep repeating to myself that "Life is all about how you handle Plan B!"

For those who asked about the spinning - we did spinning only w/ our IUI's at the Fertility Center of CA, but all IUIs resulted in BFN

Thanks again for all the support!

I'm so sorry about the loss. You sound much better and I think your plan is great! IVF will always be there if you need it. Good luck and please keep us posted.